Day 4 of 12 Days of Self-Care

Yesterday in the video I mentioned learning to attend to our bodies with a quality of presence that allows for their mystery and majesty to be revealed to us.  Today I wanted to name something that prevents this quality of presence, so we can become aware of it more fully, and make new choices regarding it.  One thing we've been taught is to reject, push away, dismiss or disregard what we don't want and don't like.  Unfortunately, our caregivers, teachers, and friends tended to do this with qualities, characteristics, traits or aspects of us that they didn't like.  We thus learned to do that to ourselves.  On some level this actually leads us to fear or hate ourselves.  In order to reverse this trend, the first thing to acknowledge is that the strategy didn't work.  Rejecting or pushing away qualities, characteristics, or aspects of ourselves doesn't make them go away or disappear.  Instead it leads us to be in a state of internal moderation and control so as to prevent them from being expressed or shown to others. 

Fortunately we don't have to remain in this extremely uncomfortable position.  We can choose to evolve the strategy into something that works better.  The qualities, characteristics or aspects of ourselves that we've learned to push away and reject, we can now choose the opposite movement and pull them towards us, so as to expose them to the field of Self-Care, or the field of love and support that can assist these parts of us to receive what they need to evolve, develop, unfold and become what they can be.  This process profoundly reduces inner tension, conflict, strain and anxiety.  It invites relief, resolution, peace and relaxation. 

​So, I encourage you to take a look at any parts, aspects, qualities or characteristics of you that people named as not enough or too much, or were simply rejected and dismissed without explanation.  Here and now you can choose to engage in the opposite practice, of inviting these elements of you into the space of Self-Care, this field of Love and Support that is available now so that they can receive what they need to become what they are, so you can receive what you need to unfold and become who you are.  If this is a foreign concept, or your not sure how to enact the practice, please reach out to schedule a 20 minute consultation with me and we can explore the possibility of doing some session work together.  I wonder how much relief, resolution, peace and relaxation can come available to you now, as you step into this field of Self-Care and get acquainted with the love and support that is here for you.

On the home page of my website I shared that, "I'll INSPIRE when you need to be inspired
ADVISE when you need advice. ENCOURAGE when you need encouragement
and UNDERSTAND when you need to be understood."  Essentially I'll be modelling to you, or teaching you what you can subsequently learn to do for yourself and do for others in your life.  Think about the type of relationships you could have with these qualities fully activated within you!  You'll learn to inspire, advise, encourage and understand yourself, and gain the capacity to do the same for others.  If this interests you get in touch through the inquiry form on my session page.