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Un-Scripted Living with Christine Yole

The Joy of Change

4/20/2018

Are you willing to have the joy of change? As you know, so often change is associated with being hard, challenging and uncomfortable, however, what if now change can truly be about the transformation into having what you desire in life, meeting your needs, and choosing what honors your heart and lights up your whole body and being? I wrote a blog recently called Feeling Different than the People around You. This is another way that you can choose to feel and be different than the people around you by being willing to have the joy of change and celebrate you and your life.

What I've been observing and experiencing lately is that now is the time to know what our deep yes is and live that. It's time to know what our true needs are and have them met. It's time to know what are deepest desires are and have them fulfilled. As this unfolds our hearts become more engaged in the creation of our lives and enable us to live from love and receive so much more joy and beauty. In order to have this it does require us to know our no and be willing to adjust those things in our inner and outer lives that have been created in fear, or based on a need to defend, protect, contain, or hide something. Are you ready, willing and able to choose freedom, to know the version of you that is already free? Are you ready, willing and able to know you through the frequency of love and have that which supports being and receiving that even more? Here is a short meditation to assist you to have the joy of change. How does it get any better than this?

Love in Action

4/5/2018

Is now the time to access your deepest love and highest wisdom? Together let's set the stage for a new beginning. We can now choose to build our lives on a foundation of love, safety and support. We can re-source ourselves from within and create the conditions that invite love and wisdom to be embodied and expressed, beyond the realm where fear, doubt and lack exist. Are you ready to be free and truly step into the creation of your life? Say yes to breathing together, welcoming the possibilities and receiving more of the miracle of you. I've included a meditation to assist you to step into this. And here is a poem that acknowledges possibilities. Now is the time to choose, create, be and receive what we came here to be and do.

Celebrating Transformation

Acknowledging the transformation within
Welcoming wisdom
Expressed with love
Appreciating the choice to participate
Surrendering the timing
Allowing it to unfold
Trusting the Universe
Held in the arms of the infinite
Actualizing new realities as they can be supported
Many contributing to the new creations being sustained
Having a home here
Breathing into new possibilities
Committing to life
Wholeness realized
Beauty re-cognized
Unity consciousness
Bridging dimensions
Embracing difference
Celebrating Being

Feeling Different than the People Around You

3/21/2018

Are you wiling to feel different than the people around you? Many of us have trained ourselves or our bodies to match the emotional reality and even the physical reality of the people around us. In terms of matching the emotional reality, this often begins in childhood. For many of us it wasn't okay to feel completely different than our parents did. If we were really happy and exuberant when our parents were sad or frustrated it didn't go well. Or if we were sad or angry when our parents were doing well and just wanted to relax that didn't go well either. So, what did we learn to do? We learned to tailor our emotional responses to the people around us. For some of us it was a need to present as always good or happy. For others it was a need to present as always okay or fine. For others it was to present as not being good or not doing well. At some point it becomes exhausting to maintain the pretense, the presentation or the image of how we feel or who we are. We desire to know who we truly are, or to be authentic, or congruent or in alignment. So then the question becomes, how do we unravel what we put in place, or deconstruct what we previously constructed, or clear what we once created? The predominant thing required is awareness that it is there, and the choice to change it. That choice often is energized or fueled by the desire for authenticity or to know thyself, be thyself and express thyself in Truth, Love and Wisdom. We don't want to live as the personality we constructed to survive the conditions of our upbringings, we want to show up as the beings we truly are, expressing our gifts, talents and abilities for us and others to benefit and live in physical and emotional realities that honor, nurture and support us.

To go a little deeper addressing the question of unraveling what we put in place, it can be helpful to acknowledge that there was a consequence for feeling how we felt, and to acknowledge what that consequence was. It can also be helpful to acknowledge that the environment is different (you're most likely not still in your family home), and so there is space or room to choose to be and do something different without re-wounding or re-enacting the original conditions under which the adaptation strategy was put in place. Once you have acknowledged that you can step into the question of: Who am I now and how am I now? You can give yourself permission to feel how you feel and be who you are. Sometimes we will have internalized the consequences that parents or other people in our lives delivered to us in the form of an inner voice, or a wall, or a barrier or a set of sensations. That can be cleared by acknowledging that that took place and re-directing the energy, or choosing to be you and claim sovereignty from that or many other ways, depending on the tools or modalities you have available to you.

As you choose to know who you are and feel how you feel, you can ask to have people in your life who will respond differently to you than people in your past which essentially means that how they are choosing to be supports how you're choosing to be now. So for instance, if they are feeling sad and you are feeling joyful, there isn't any consequence for that, instead it's allowed or okay to include both of those emotional realities in the same physical reality. They don't have to stop feeling sad and you don't have to stop feeling joyful. And as your feeling joyful, you're able to acknowledge that they're feeling sad, as they can acknowledge your joy. Also, at any moment, either of you can choose to feel different than you have been feeling and that is included to!

How many emotional realities are you willing to include in your physical reality? For any emotional reality that you exclude, the tendency will be to reject, deny, separate from, control or manipulate or desire to change the people who are currently living in that reality. And just imagine how much of your energy, creativity, healing ability, or focus could be consumed by that? So, as you are more willing to be who you are and feel how you feel, you will increase your capacity to allow others to be who they are and feel how they feel. In this process of being in allowance you have choice and they have choice, which means you can choose to change where you show up and how you show up, you just no longer have to separate from, exclude or reject other people's emotional realities as you do that. In other words, you can acknowledge and include something in your awareness without choosing and creating it as your reality. I wrote a blog on the subject of Presence & Preference which you may enjoy if you'd like to read about this from a different angle. Another blog I wrote a few years ago called Choosing How You Feel may also benefit. In presenting all of this information, my intention is to assist all of us to have new choices available that really support us to thrive in our lives here and be nourished, loved and supported in all ways, always. Now is the time.

Receiving Energetic Nourishment

3/14/2018

What would it be like to receive energetic nourishment? Many of us have been indoctrinated into environments set up around giving and taking. The focus is on what are you giving and offering, and what are you getting in exchange for that offering. The hope is that if you do things right you'll get your needs met and will be successful, fulfilled and happy. If you do things wrong, you will be left lacking, or in a state of need, not having, or grasping for sustenance or salvation. Now is the time to step out from under the grip of the punishment reward system and the exchange rate reality. In the punishment reward system the motivation is to move towards pleasure and away from pain, but what is "good" and "bad" is so relative and belief based that we end up confused and shut down or desiring to find a way to escape the pain of lack and live in a fantasy world where all is perfect, good and right and everything bad and wrong simply ceases to be. In the exchange rate reality, everything, including people have become commodified. It's all about having value or being valuable on the market so that you or your service can be exchanged for something that you want or need. Often through this style of relating people end up being diminished into mere objects or tools for other's use or benefit, or cogs in a wheel, or parts in a machine, or numbers on a screen. The end result of this type of reality is feeling de-valued, taken advantage of, dirty, disgusting, worthless or useless, trying desperately to feel important and valuable.

Now that more awareness has been brought to the punishment reward system and the exchange rate reality we can all take a deep breath, stretch out emotionally and energetically and re-direct our life force and our presence, attention and consciousness towards something greater. We can know ourselves beyond this. We can step out of these confinements that have been set up through belief and collective agreement to personally and collectively choose to create something new that honours life, includes all that we are, celebrates uniqueness, encourages expression, and facilitates the gifting and receiving of nourishment physically, mentally, emotionally and energetically. Are you ready to step into this?

What do you, at your widest and most expanded level, know about creating a reality beyond what has been actualized here? What contribution can you be to new realities existing on planet Earth? This question and this exploration is the invitation for today. More of us are awakening to new possibilities by transmuting trauma, integrating more love and wisdom, knowing ourselves at a deeper level, and releasing what we've inherited from generations past that was seeped in domination, manipulation and control and shame, blame and guilt. We can know what true choice is, re-claim our free will and show up to love each other and begin to acknowledge, accept and subsequently express our uniqueness for all we meet to benefit. It's an expression from abundance, from an energy, space and consciousness of being resourced. The miracles abound as these new possibilities are actualized into reality through each of our choices to commit to our lives and realize what we're truly here to be and do. Now is the time.

True Nourishment

We are here
Our time has come
We awaken to the wisdom within
Calling us beyond what has been
To embrace what our hearts know
We lay down the burden of lies
We reclaim the discernment of Truth
New possibilities emerge
New realities are created
Life is honoured
Our bodies are nurtured
Our energetic gifts come online
We bow to the One within
Uniting all of us in a field of love
We begin anew
Claiming this life as ours to live
Together we thrive
Separation becomes a distant memory
We forgive the versions of us that didn't know better
And embrace the ones that do
Here we are
We are here
Our time has come

Asking and Receiving

3/5/2018

I'm sure anyone reading this blog has heard the statement "ask and you shall receive". Many teachings offer something like a recipe which includes asking for what you want, shifting into a state of allowance or non-resistance and receiving that which you have been asking for. Ideally, this model would work seamlessly. Often though, something is missing. We ask and can't receive, or seem to be locked in a pattern of resistance. Often we feel like we're missing something, have done something wrong or conclude that we just must not be worthy or deserving of having what we want. From there we tend to go to work on finding out limiting beliefs that we carry. What did we learn from Mom? From Dad? From our culture? From our friends, siblings, extended family and school? We're hunting for what's keeping us from receiving and having what we truly desire. For a while this hunt or search is fun, illuminating, purposeful and even fulfilling. Eventually it tends to lose its luster. It's no longer very exciting to go sifting through past experiences, or trying to ask the universe in the right way, or trying to figure out where our resistance is, or trying to figure out how to receive. So, what do we do when we're tired of all this? At some point there is a moment of surrender, alongside a natural inclination to go deeper.

One approach to going deeper is to imagine that you could begin anew, from where you are, as you are now. It's no longer about change, or sifting through the past or trying to get your vision of the future just right so you can conjure up the emotion or feeling state that would it encourage it to show up in your life. Instead, you can choose to take a deep breath and get curious about what it would be like to really know you, all aspects of you. What does your heart know? What does your body know? What does your higher self or multi-dimensional self know? As you come to know more of who you are the possibility becomes available to express more of who you are. Then it becomes more about actualizing the fruits of the consciousness you've cultivated and calling forward possibilities that better reflect the truth of you. The tricky thing with a lot of this is that words can only point to the true experience, which is more of an energetic and emotional reality than an intellectual one.

From my point of view we're coming to the end of being able to solve the problems, heal the wounds, fix what's broken and correct what's wrong using the mind. For many people the mind is tired, and on some level is ready for the heart and body to get to step up and contribute to the creation of a life that is more fulfilling and satisfying, as well as contributing to the creation of a world that works better for more people. So, what is the invitation here? It's to begin to ask how you can include your body, heart and mind in the creation of your life, while consulting your higher self and other guides that you may or may not yet be aware of. The more all of you is included, the easier it will be to ask for and receive what nourishes you and benefits others. When you are nourished and abundant, you're in a better space to gift and offer. Allow yourself to gift and receive, and to value gifting and receiving. Take the time to ask yourself what you most want and desire. Often the desires and wants will be about gifting and receiving. Both can be equally nourishing and nurturing. What can you now choose to nurture and nourish yourself with? I've included a link to listen to the recording of a meditation I offered online that can assist you to get more in touch with your body and the earth so that there is the space to gift and receive in a new way.

Calling Upon the Frequency of Freedom

2/20/2018

Are there any patterns, people, places or things in your life that you feel victimized by? Is there something you feel absolutely powerless to change? Often anywhere that vibration of powerlessness exists we either react to it with anger or collapse into depression, sadness, grief, terror etc. We typically have tried many things to cope with the experience. The approaches are usually designed to try to escape the person, place, thing or pattern, destroy it, fight it, rage against it or control it. At some point none of those things work. This often leads to a point of surrender, or this moment of claiming, "I can't do this anymore." We acknowledge things like: I don't know how to change this, I don't know how to fix this, I don't know how to heal this and I don't know how to solve this.

I've included a meditation at the end of this blog that is designed to assist you to access the energy, space and consciousness of freedom. We have a choice to ask for and receive different possibilities. We can ask for freedom, ask for something different, ask for change and we can breathe deeply, be present and invite what many would deem as miracles to be born through us. It's a form of quantum healing if you will. It's un-explainable "how" the change happens. It just does. It's out of our control yet simultaneously our choice. Are you willing to receive a miracle? What if you don't have to work all this out on your own. Whatever you are carrying or experiencing is yours in the sense that you've inherited it or are playing it out, but these patterns and realities aren't unique to you, they are shared by many on this planet. Would you like to be the one to change it for you? And as you do, would you be willing to energetically contribute that possibility of transmutation and transformation to the rest of humanity? You don't have to know how, your choice and willingness to is what invites the miracles to manifest. Now is the time.

Presence & Preference

2/7/2018

As I was driving in downtown Vancouver the other day I was noticing my energy beginning to withdrawal. I was becoming less and less present. In that moment I chose to ask questions and receive the awareness of what was going on. What came forward was that I was using presence or lack of presence to assert my preference. Because I didn't prefer what I was witnessing in the people and realities around me, I was beginning to withdrawal. In that moment I got a very clear message to acknowledge the difference between presence and preference. If I were to commit to being present regardless of preference I would have more choices available.

So, I ask this question now: what would it be like to choose presence regardless of preference? We can be completely present in and through our bodies, with the earth and with the realities around us and continue to acknowledge our preferences, as in, I enjoy this activity, I appreciate this, I don't like that, I wish that wasn't like that etc. Many of us have either witnessed or practiced the withdrawal of presence being used in attempt to manipulate or control people or realities around us. It's those moments in childhood where we would be ignored until we behaved in a way that people around us liked or preferred. We desired their presence and attention so much, we would do almost anything for it, including only showing up in the way that they wanted us to, or trying desperately change anything or everything about us that they didn't respond favorably to. The more awareness we can have about how we and the people around us have been conditioned, the more choice we have to release the conditioning and choose true empowerment.

True empowerment is being free of manipulation and control, fully living in a loved based reality where you and the people around you have choice. In a loved based reality, we have preferences, needs, desires and requests, yet we don't use the withdrawal of love, presence and attention as a way to coerce others into meeting those needs or fulfilling those desires. It is their choice to meet them or not. It is their choice to contribute or not. Just as it is our choice to fulfill people's requests and desires and meet their needs or not. The more and more we become truly receptive and responsive to the unified field, our higher selves, Source consciousness, or however you want to name that source of wisdom that goes beyond name, the easier it is to know what our choices will create. If I help this person will they have a greater future? If I choose this what will my life be like in 5 years? If I choose this what will the world be like in 5 years? More and more we can be love in action attuned to the wisdom that guides the unfolding of consciousness in form. We can surrender old strategies of trying to get our way, or show up in the "right" way, as dictated by others, and instead have true choice, know what love is, and get to gift and receive beauty and all that benefits what we most desire being expressed and actualized here. May we have as much ease as possible being our gifts, knowing what's possible and acting from a balance of love and wisdom that fuels creation in its highest expression.

Beyond Coping

1/28/2018

Coping can be defined as our capacity to find a way to be okay with the presence of what we don't want, or the absence of what we do want. Many of us have become phenomenal at coping. We have learned to rationalize why it's actually okay or even good that we don't have what we truly desire. We have learned to view the presence of pain, lack, conflict, struggle, challenge, and obstacles as character building, or meaningful, or even a gift or "good for us." When people are unkind, self-serving, manipulative, domineering or controlling we learn have compassion for them or try to spend some time in their shoes and contemplate what they must have lived through that has lead them to being this way. When people let us down, don't show up when they say they will, don't consider what we need or want, never ask questions and hold expectations of us that only benefit them, we try to see the gift in that, or how it's inviting us to be more reflective, or assisting us to go within and see where we may do that with ourselves, or how it's supporting us to release attachment and develop more self-trust. I could go on. The key thing to acknowledge is that we have been brilliant, creative, and amazing at working with what's been in our realities, and who has been in our lives. And now, what would it be like if none of this was required? No matter how good we've gotten at coping, what if we don't have to continue doing it?

Many of us are already, or are about to line up with realities, people, places and things that can honor our hearts, meet our needs, and invite us to be our beauty, our gifts, our greatness, and provide avenues to express our love and creative genius and receive the love and support we've always desired. So, what is beyond coping? What if we are soon to find out? As we step into being, receiving and having more of what's true for us, in alignment with what we know is possible, we don't lose any skill sets we've cultivated. If we do intersect realities, people, places and things that do require the skill set of coping or adapting, we can apply that skill, it's just that from my perspective, now is the time to release all expectations of having to cope in order to live and be here. We can begin to create realities beyond coping. It is possible now.

One thing to keep in mind, is that sometimes we've set up relationships or structured our lives to support our limitations rather than our greatness. So in this transition from knowing our uniqueness through limitation to knowing our uniqueness through our greatness, there can be a lot of adjustments to be made. There can be times when we may even grieve the loss of limitations, because their absence can be so unfamiliar to our nervous system or mental or emotional state that it feels like a void. Imagine if you've set your whole life up to manage pain and then the pain is gone. What do you do now? We usually expect that the freedom from limitations will feel amazing, but often times it feel super relieving and amazing at first, and then there is a process of rebuilding our lives and restructuring everything we do. The more we can name what really goes on in these huge transitions, the easier of a time we can have with them. We won't be as surprised if we feel tremendous grief when we receive a deeply loving relationship. The presence of what we truly desire often serves as a catalyst to transmute and release the pain of its absence. If we expect everything to be and feel amazing when we have what we truly desire, we can become very confused when it doesn't. So, all of this said, may all of us have as much ease as possible walking our paths, receiving the gifts available to us now, cultivating relationships based on love and trust and being gentle with ourselves as we progressively acknowledge and release what has been to fully live what is now.

Being Completely Resourced

1/22/2018

What would it be like to have what you've never had? What would it be like to receive what you've never received? What would it be like to know what you've never known? What would it be like to be what you've never been? Now is the time to welcome in a new energetic and emotional blueprint that can serve as a foundation to create your life from. People often talk about quantum leaps or timeline jumping. Ultimately what this is about is choosing to create from a space and energy of possibility that's available now, rather than from past reference points. Instead of affirming who and what you've been through continued action to solidify that, you can serve the consciousness within you, which ultimately benefits all and allows for expansion to take place. What is expansion? It's the choice and capacity to go beyond what has been, whether as an internal experience of self, or as external experience of life and living. It's a process of including more consciousness in and as you. Some name this as awakening, or evolution, or enlightenment. What is beyond names that you can now include in your experience of living?

It is an exciting time in that our perception of the emotional and energetic experience of life and living is rapidly changing. It can feel like an acceleration, either as a progression, or as bouts of distinct moments of waking up to a different way of being, or seeing, or knowing yourself and others. Our experience of relationship can dramatically change too, as many of the walls of separation come down and it becomes much easier to energetically know people and emotionally relate to people. Especially as the light of consciousness permeates through the mental and emotional realms, new space can be created. Where there was once density there is now availability for love and wisdom to be claimed, acknowledged and expressed. There is less distortion and less confusion. The conflicting agendas cease to be, and in their place becomes an ease of knowing what's true and living with that knowing intact. I wonder what's possible now as we choose to be completely resourced? Yesterday I led a meditation online with this theme. You can listen to it here:

Acknowledging Limiting Identities

1/19/2018

Often we can form identities based on what other people tell us we're good at, or what we decide we're good at. As we awaken, or become more conscious, certain identities become limiting. Rather then assisting us to know ourselves deeply, they can prevent us from knowing and being who we are and instead keep us stuck playing certain roles for other people that may or may not actually benefit them. A few years ago I wrote a blog called, "Say Goodbye to Being Stuck" (you can read that blog here) and in it I talked about five common mental models that can prevent people from moving forward. They are the following: the problem - solution model, the broken - fixing model, the wounded - healing model, the wrong - correction model, and the clearing - expansion model.

We can end up forming identities based around these models. Examples include, being a good problem solver, being a fixer, being a healer, always looking for how things can be better (correcting what's wrong), or facilitating clearing or transformation. Even though these abilities are valuable, if we form identities around them, when there is no problem, nothing broken, no wound to address, nothing wrong or nothing to clear, we can feel useless, unimportant, without value or even worthless. When we are with people who don't require these things from us, we don't know what to do with ourselves! If our value as a person depends on being needed for these things, what happens when people around us become more empowered and capable of addressing these things on their own?

The invitation for today is to acknowledge any of these models you've formed an identity around and begin to consider what it would be like to include this ability as part of being you and get curious about who and what you are beyond this. Being you can include solving problems, but no longer will you or someone else have to have problems for you to solve in order for you to feel valuable or important. You can instead begin to acknowledge the value of being, the value of presence, the value of your choice to show up here and now in the moment that you're in, and the value of committing to your life. What would that change if your value wasn't dependent on other people being limited and needing you to solve, fix, heal, correct or clear something? What would it be like to have relationships based on presence, acknowledgment of being, and choice to be aware of what's possible to create and express? May we all know ourselves beyond these limited identities and re-claim the ease and joy of being and the capacity to contribute to new possibilities being available in the world now and in the future.

Christine assists people to live creatively. She offers one on one sessions, group meditations and group classes that invite people into this moment of NOW, the moment of choice, the moment where the learned rules of the game don't apply. She facilitates people being able to see and know what's really going on and brings the light of awareness to the patterns, templates and beliefs that are driving behaviors. She invites people to wake up, laugh, live and love, offering the invitation to expand, explore, play and get curious about what is possible to be, do, have and create.

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