Lately through my sessions, classes, online meditations and blogs I've been exploring how many of us are ready to graduate from fear based learning and step fully into a new classroom, a love based learning classroom. In this blog I want to explore a few indicators that you're ready to graduate from the fear based learning classroom.
First off, one of the hallmarks of readiness is the acknowledgment that we're not learning. The whole point of being in a classroom is to learn and grow and develop. If we are not learning, it's an indicator that we require something different. The teaching style of fear based learning can be very hard on us. Our nervous systems can collapse over time. The level of fear or threat of negative emotional consequence and the pressure, force, and aggression to get on with things, "learn" and drive yourself to the rewards can be super taxing mentally, emotionally, physically, psychically, spiritually and financially. At some point we may end up drained, confused, frustrated and shut down. We just can't do it and can feel like such a failure, like we've let our teachers down. And they will be disappointed in us. We're not meeting the expectations. We're not making them proud. We're not making things happen and swimming in the rewards that would reflect well on the teacher's amazing abilities to help, guide and mentor that they believe themselves to have. The mental, emotional and physical effects of perceived failure and ineptitude can erode our self-esteem, crush our confidence and fill us with self-hate and deep shame. And, in this condition we can't even remember what the lessons were that we are meant to learn! And if we do have a vague sense of them we're too exhausted to muster up the energy to care and often just give up on our ability to learn anything.
Fortunately, there is something deep within us that knows that it doesn't have to be this way. And, if you're reading this, it means that you know that and have been asking for something different. It can be such a relief and a big step when we realize that WE WERE NEVER MEANT TO SUCCEED IN THE FEAR BASED CLASSROOM. And that our failure to "make it" or to control and manipulate ourselves into being what the teachers wanted us to be, was BY DESIGN. The pain and hurt wasn't by design or meant to be, however, our progression into knowing that there is something beyond the fear based classroom was. And now is the time, for anyone reading this to know that graduation is available and the love based learning classroom is ready for you to step into.
In this love based classroom the frequency of love is. Love is NOT a reward. It's a frequency required for our heart, body and mind to function properly. In this classroom learning, growth and getting to know yourself and what you're here to be and do in the world is in the curriculum, so to speak. And your teachers, tutors, guides and mentors are here to support you in that, in whatever ways you uniquely require it. Just know, it make take some time to transition from the fear based classroom, in terms of fully letting go of agreements with your teachers there, or in healing any wounding or anger you carry from that experience. Those can be addressed by these teachers, tutors, guides and mentors. With your permission and request they can help you to heal from that and rebuild your strength, self-value, and self-love. May we all be loved and supported in and through the totality of our process of healing.