The extraction model is based on the notion of what you put in to something is what you'll get out of it. When this model is subject to a mind based in manipulation and control, there will be attempted modifications such as seeing how much one can get out of something, without the need to put much into it. This can translate into financial transactions whereby one would see how little they could pay in exchange for something of great value. This can play into realities of accumulation and exploitation, such as focusing on acquiring as much as possible, with little work or effort, or seeing how much you can extract out of someone or something with little input at all. Many of us have been on the receiving end of this style of relating and have experienced the pain of it. It can lead to feel used, objectified, hurt and resentful. Before we become aware of new choices many of us end up living in resistance to this dynamic, essentially making the decision to not be like that which we were hurt by. This can lead to claiming that we don't want or need anything, or to offering things for free so as to not engage in the scenario of someone seeing how much they could get out of us based on what they pay or offer. Another thing we may do, is the opposite of whatever "they" did. So we may put in tremendous work or effort into something and not want or accept anything in return. There may be a subconscious desire to prove that we are nothing like that which we were manipulated or controlled by.
At some point the resistance to that reality becomes painful in and of itself and it's time to create true resolution. This comes through seeing and acknowledging what happened, perceiving and feeling the pain of it and expressing the desire to know and live what's beyond it. Becoming aware of new choices is when we recognize that we don't have to live on either side of the coin or in resistance to the coin itself. We can bring the field and frequency of love to this, which has the capacity to integrate opposites and reveal new possibilities. Essentially we can evolve the approach. Inherent in strategies involving manipulation and control is fear and separation. So as we bring the presence and attention of love to a polarized reality, the fear and separation underpinning the strategies dissolves. This provides the space for the strategies to reflect love and thus beget more love. This may lead to potentials like: what we offer is reflected back to us, or that which is gifted is received, or that which is available is circulated to benefit all involved. May we each come to know what is beyond the extraction model and heal and resolve any pain, hurt, and constriction that was endured when we were imprisoned inside of the confines of that experience. To explore more related to this subject matter you can read my blogs, Beyond Use & Need and Beyond Fear-Based Creation.
What can we each be and do to contribute to the creation of a world born of love, safety, support and integrity? So much is "up" in the personal, collective and planetary fields to bear witness to, as a reflection of the world we once inhabited that was based on fear and separation, orchestrated through strategies of domination, manipulation and control and founded upon the promise of rewards and success and the threat of punishment and failure. We have outgrown this world and are here to facilitate the transition or birth of a new one. It is already here, alive in each of us. May it be reflected in the collective and global fields of reality more and more as "time" goes on. Blessing the unfolding.
In polarity, or environments based in fear and separation, the set up is to strive to have a positive impact and be a positive influence and not have a negative impact or be a negative influence. If you are deemed to be a negative influence you are shamed, criticized, diminished or punished in some way. If you are deemed to be a positive influence or to have positively impacted someone's life you are rewarded, praised, exalted, or appreciated. This could be a straight forward thing if the assessments of what was positive and negative were consistent. What can lead to confusion is that the assessments are based on beliefs, family, cultural and societal influences.
Many of us carry the pain of being accused of being a negative influence in a situation when we felt like we were doing the right thing or being good. As a result, we carry imprints of shame and learned to doubt or dis-trust ourselves or others. This confusion can lead to a shutting down or avoidance of any situation that resembles the ones that caused us pain. One strategy of avoidance can be not wanting to have an influence or an impact at all. Another strategy would be to adopt control-based measures, so as to prevent us from being associated with anything negative. This could also lead to criticizing or condemning anyone else who is deemed to be a negative influence. However you are prompted to look at, think about, speak about or treat others, is how you were once treated.
So, once we become aware of the predicament we've been in what can we do? The main thing, is to acknowledge the way fear based environments are structured, see what has gone on, feel the residue of having lived in that scenario, and step into this field and frequency of love that is available now. We can create or live in a love-based field. To explore some potentials of what that is like, you can read my blogs Love Based Creation and Establishing Love Based Relationships. In the same light, we can come to know what it is like to be a love-based influence and have a love-based impact. It's an exploration that we can each initiate and dive into as we become aware that it is possible to do so. Imagine showing up to think, speak and act free of control-based motives. Feel into the liberation of not having to track, monitor or control what's happening and instead trust in the unfolding of life. Our actions can be initiated from this space of love and trust. I wonder what impact and influence we can have as we embody the truth of this.
In moments of stress or intensity there can be a tendency for our attention to become fixed or exclusive. The other thing that can happen is that our attention is drawn to what is positive or what is negative. We may also be prompted to pay attention to the biggest threat, or to that which is the makes us feel the most safe or secure. Various forces may vie for our attention. The invitation today is to ask the question: In times of stress or uncertainty what do I give the most attention to? What do I give the least attention to? I have a few blogs that dive into this subject matter. The first is called, Liberating Your Attention. As our attention is liberated it becomes more possible to develop "inclusive" attention, which means we are free of the necessity to control and our attention is fluid, available and progressively more and more informed by love. Another blog that expands on this possibility is called Love Based Attention. I wonder how much more mentally and emotionally free we can be to meet life here and now and offer who we are to whatever conditions or circumstances we find ourselves in.