It's common for our attention to be fixed on something or someone in a way that prevents us from being willing and able to attend to our lives now and choose possibilities that honor, nurture and support us. One place our attention can be stuck is in the give and take reality. When you're functioning from the give and take reality, people, places and things are trying to take your attention, usually in a competitive way. You get to decide what and who you are going to give your attention to, and what or who you are going to deny or refuse to give your attention to. It's a model created in a world where you are given limited time, energy, and attention. You only have so much time, energy and attention so you should choose wisely who and what you give your attention to. If you give your time and attention to the wrong things or people you will be punished in some way, either by yourself or someone else. If you give your time and attention to the right things and people you will be rewarded and get to feel good, right and justified in the decisions you made. When you are functioning from this reality its stressful, as there are usually a lot of conflicting ideas and priorities, and values. You feel like you're doing the right thing, yet on another level you feel like it's never enough, or that you're missing something, or that you don't know what to give your attention to, or feel trapped in having to use all of your energy to protect yourself or prevent people, places or things from taking too much of your time, energy or attention.
Is now the time to attend to possibilities? Is now the time to free up your attention from the give and take reality? Also, is now the time to free up your attention from the reality of judgment? In the reality of judgment there is good attention and bad attention. You want to get the good attention and not bad attention. You will often carry judgments from others of having been given too much attention or not enough attention. Some of us were judged as having all the attention or taking too much time, energy and attention from others. Others of us were judged as not being given enough attention and supplied with reasons and justifications for that such as you're bad, you're unworthy, you're not good enough or you don't deserve it. What would it be like to step beyond the reality of judgment and have ease choosing something different? And as a note, when we step beyond something it doesn't mean it no longer exists here on the planet, it just means we are no longer dominated, manipulated or controlled by it. We are no longer aligning and agreeing or resisting or reacting to it in a way that keeps us bound to it. With the perspective that comes from choosing beyond a reality, we can be aware of how the it functions and how to respond to it or participate in regards to it. What reality are you ready to step beyond? What are you now ready to receive and have in your life?
Imagine that right now you could take a deep breath, put the reality of give and take and the reality of judgement out in front of you and step beyond it. Beyond these realities you have access to unlimited energy, space and consciousness. You can attend to many people, places and things simultaneously, so you are free from competition and limitation. From a linear time perspective, you choose moment to moment what to attend to. You are attending to everything from a space of contribution, so as you are gifting you are simultaneously receiving. As you gift energy to someone or something you are receiving energy, often in a way that's generative, which means you are actually generating energy through your activities and interactions. Instead of being in a world where you're either giving too much time, energy and attention to something or someone or not enough time, energy and attention to something or someone, you are being and doing what's required and desired. You are choosing the possibilities that are being presented to you and receiving the awareness of what that's creating. There is the ease of following your awareness and trusting what you know. Being you becomes a possibility and committing to your life becomes a choice. You step into the action of living, being completely resourced, available to receive the gifts from the world, the earth and the universe in a way that you would have once named as miraculous. The walls of separation comes down, isolation becomes a distant memory and the joy of life and living ignites from within. Would you like to attend to possibilities and become aware of choices that you have available that you may not have acknowledged or considered? If you'd like to read a few other blogs related to this one I'd recommend the Gift of Perspective, Beyond Good and Bad and Beyond Right or Wrong.
It doesn't actually make sense to hold or maintain an image of your body. An image implies that something is still, static and fixed. The body is anything but this! It is a dynamic, living organism that is always in motion. Your heart is beating, your blood is flowing, all the body systems are active. So to impose an "image" onto your body for how you want it to be, or how it should be is not the way to go if you would like to improve your relationship or way of being with your body. What if your body has consciousness? If the consciousness of your body could speak, what would it be saying? Since you are your body, what are you saying to yourself from the perspective of the body?
Now is the time to radically change how we interact, respond and be with our bodies. Even getting fixated on how you think or feel about your body is actually a separation from it. Instead, you can acknowledge that your body is you, an expression of your consciousness in form. Thus "it" has wisdom and awareness that has been gained from the perspective of being incarnate that can become available to you. Labels become tricky because often we are identified with the mind as who we are, and the body as what we are dealing with, and our higher self or spirit as something possibly guiding us and giving messages. We are only beginning to change the identification and be able to view life from the perspective of our mind, body and higher self or expanded or "eternal" perspective. As we're less identified with the mind as who we are, we can be all that we are, and include everything as us, thus transforming what was previously full of confusion, division, domination/submission, victim/control and potentially all sorts of other dynamics into something that is whole, integrated and capable of something that has never before been possible. Something that we may not ever truly be able to define.
So, are you ready to let go of any body images you are holding onto? Is now the time to get to know your body in a whole new way, which is ultimately getting to know you in a whole new way? So much change is possible now that can really transform everything. If you are interested in transforming body image I wrote a blog presenting a perspective on this that you may benefit from reading, Transforming Your Body. A few others that may be of interest are Being with your Body and Having Ease with Your Body. I'm sure there will be much more on this subject to come!
Here is a poem I wrote in 2011 called Coherence. It speaks to what it's like to access that harmonic or unified field from within.
Sweetness of being in heart coherence
Felt sense of serenity
Able to let go and flow
Taken by the current of love
Insights coming easily to the open, receptive mind
Actions follow effortlessly
Doing as an expression of Being
An outpouring of light from the infinite reservoir
Joyful participation in service to all that is
I am home, I am held, I am looked after
All is well in my perception of the world at this moment
Because all is one in my experience of Self
Complete, perfect, awe-inspiring
On a path that unfolds as I walk along it
Stillness in motion, rest in activity
What would it be like to be free from manipulation and control? Really tune into that possibility for a moment. What would change in your life if you knew that you could never be manipulated or controlled by you or anyone else ever again? The only way you can be manipulated and controlled is by being un-aware and un-conscious. The moment you are conscious and aware of manipulation and control it becomes a choice. The choice to be aware and to be conscious gives you more freedom than you've ever had access to. Are you ready and willing to have that much freedom?
One of the ways we can be manipulated and controlled is by aligning and agreeing with other people's beliefs about the unconscious and subconscious mind. Many people are stuck either feeling controlled by the subconscious or unconscious mind or in trying to control it, usually by using positive affirmations, implanting new beliefs or manipulating it into being different through the promise of rewards. How well does this work? If someone came along and started to manipulate and control you into being better, changing, or showing up differently how would you respond? Usually we respond to being manipulated and controlled with resistance or anger. We may rebel against it, or go in the opposite direction, even if the manipulation and control is "positive” or in the direction we truly desire to go.
Breathe in to the possibility of being free from manipulation and control. One of the things you can do is choose to claim your un-conscious mind or subconscious mind as yours. Really acknowledge that this is you. You don't have to manipulate or control you. You don't have to implant beliefs or use coercion or try to sneak in the back door. Choose to honor and acknowledge your un-conscious mind. This isn't the place for your mom to be or your dad to be, or any siblings or childhood friends or teachers, or authority figures. This is your mind to re-claim and choose to become conscious of. Move towards it with love and presence, and release your agreements to be a part of the collective un-conscious mind. Claim your sovereignty to really have your mind as something for you to create with. Include your body and your heart in this too. All of you can be here for you. As you have you, and have re-claimed your body, heart and mind, you can ask the Earth and the Universe to contribute to you and love, honor, bless and support what you're here to be and do. What would it be like to have all of you on board with creation? How much more freedom of Being and choice to fully embody can you claim now? What possibilities can you contribute to actualizing?
Here is a poem I wrote that speaks what is possible as we're free from manipulation and control:
Acknowledging the cosmic heart
Entraining to the magical rhythm
Inviting the light and love of consciousness to circulate
Through every cell of the body
Remembering the gift of Being
Claiming our space to show up
Acknowledging the blessings
Revealing the mystery
Unveiling our greatness
Leading our lives
Bringing great attention to that which returns all to love
Settling, embracing, relaxing
Bowing our heads in reverence