What can happen with someone who displays a value that you don’t align with is that it can lead you to not like the person, feel frustrated around them etc. By becoming more aware of what you don’t value, it can help you to become more accepting of other people. Instead of feeling like they are threatening what you believe in you can choose to take a deep breath and say yes to diversity and variety!
Although we know this at some level, keep in mind that there are at least 374 things that can play into the reasons why people do things the way they do! When you’re around people who think and act differently from you ask yourself, “I wonder what values are influencing their behaviour right now?” This can help you to move from judgment (which can be seen as an act of defending what you believe in) to open-mindedness. Making this shift into greater allowance (allowing people to be as they are), can help you to feel more peaceful, balanced, and at ease. Now, how many “value” words were just brought forward in this post?!
Wow…values impact our lives and our language in a multitude of ways! What would the world look like if we all were to become aware of our values and be able to consciously make choices based on them? Many people are still making choices based on what they think they should value (based on what they’ve been taught by the media, the education system, parents, etc.). It’s no fun to take action and then feel confused and frustrated wondering, “Why did I do that?” This usually happens when we’ve adopted values that aren’t true for us, or are trying to satisfy the preferences of others (giving them what we think they want from us) or being who we think they want us to be. Have you had experience with this? What would it look like to live according to your true values and allow others to do the same?