What are you tuned in to right now? Or, who are you tuned in to right now? What does it mean to be tuned in? Imagine you as a radio dial, that is picking up all sorts of signals. Often, each of us have predominant stations that we are always tuned in to. Another word to describe this is entrainment, or frequency matching. This is not a negative thing, it is a talent and ability that can assist us to create greater intimacy and navigate our world with more ease. Where things get tricky is if we don't acknowledge this is going on, and believe that everything we are tuned in to or aware of belongs to us and is our personal stuff that we alone have to address or look after. In the video below, I share an exercise you can do to assist you to become more aware of this. Through your choice to play with this exercise you may be able to access greater peace and calm, and also get in touch with what you can personally choose and change now to benefit you and others in your life. May we all be loved, nurtured, supported and blessed in our lives now, and awaken to the gifts that we have and how much we are contributing to changing realities on the planet. I wonder what invitations each of us can be to the revelation of a greater world of possibility, beauty, creativity and love.
Here is an article I wrote in April for this online magazine, and it came up in conversation the other day. I wonder if there is something written here that can benefit you now?
The Time Has Come
Love, bliss, harmony and fulfillment knocks at my door. I feel this dread overtaking me. Why would I feel dread? This is what I’ve been asking for and dreaming about for so long. Rather than convincing myself I should feel good about this arrival, I bring my presence and attention to the dread and say hello. As I am present with the dread it shifts and reveals this fear of loss. My mind wonders, what ever could I lose with the arrival of all that I’ve been waiting for? The fear of loss is here so I greet it. I breathe deeply and ask for insights and awareness, calling my guides to inform me of what is taking place. Moments later the information comes to me.
“You may not realize how many coping mechanisms you have developed to make the absence of this okay. Who you know yourself to be, and all the positive traits you have developed such as strength, perseverance, determination, focus, and commitment, will no longer be needed as you welcome this love, bliss, harmony and fulfillment into your life. The fight, conflict and struggle within you will end. You will have nothing to fix, nothing to correct and nothing to heal. That has consumed so much of your time and attention. You have never even paused to consider who you would be without it. That’s what you fear, not knowing who you are. In order to welcome this in, you have to be willing to let go of your most cherished qualities and attributes, that have kept you pushing forward in the absence of support and staying focused on the task at hand even when you were tremendously afraid or exhausted and just wanted to stop and give up. At first you may not even know what to do. Your motivation for action was based in lack, to gain what you didn’t have or what you were desperately fighting to attain. As you welcome in what you’ve always wanted your mind will say there is no point to do anything. This is truly a new beginning. Are you willing to welcome in new life?”
I breathe in this information. I ask this love that is arriving to support me to let go of who I’ve been, deeply honoring the path I took to arrive where I am now. I recall a poem I wrote years ago, realizing it was truly informing me of what was to come. I celebrate this moment of arrival, and hear the words of the poem in a whole new way.
Refreshed and renewed
Centered in love
Letting the light shine
Remembering what it means to truly connect
Breathing in to the space created
Settling, drawing the mind into the present moment
It is here that beauty can be seen, felt and known
It is here that the depth of my being can be accessed
From this inner place of stillness inspired thought arises
Curiosity is sparked, innocence revived
Action flows effortlessly, in tune with what the moment is calling for
One step at a time, evolving towards a fuller expression of Self
Spontaneous waves of joy replace those of doubt
Peace calms the storms of fear
Thank you, thank you, thank you
May the blessings be
For those of us who spent a lot of time in the education system, we tend to have inherited many ideas and ways of seeing things. The tendency can be to carry that forward and try to apply it to life "after school," or adopt a perspective such as life is an "Earth School" and we are here to learn lessons. That can be a reasonable belief system to adopt, and we do have free will to choose our beliefs, or never question the ones that have been chosen for us, however, at one point in our progression, that belief can hinder us more than it serves us.
If for instance, you believe that you are here to learn lessons and you think that you are not "learning enough," you may subconsciously create a challenge or difficulty, so that you have something to go through, that you will hopefully learn from. The education imprint also is often linked to the punishment reward model, in other words, if you do something wrong or bad you deserve to be punished, whereas if you do something right and good you deserve to be rewarded. And one of the greatest punishments is withdrawal or to take away what you most need such as love, caring, attention, resources, and intimacy. So what's the best set up to learn the best lessons? Take away from yourself what you most need (which will appear that it's not you, it's life, or someone or something else), and then see how well you do. If you survive, or rise to the challenge, become focused, and determined and committed to move beyond the circumstances, then you deserve to be rewarded and will hopefully learn something about yourself or about life in the process.
What if we are done with learning? The moment we become a student it means we have more to learn and thus we need a teacher. We will on some level knowingly or unknowingly assign someone or something to "be our teacher." In that moment we separate from our capacity to know, or access our inherent wisdom, or resource ourselves through asking questions, paying attention, and being curious about what's possible and available to us. The moment we become a teacher it means we have to define what we know and then try to find students to teach it to. We really have to believe that what we're teaching is "right" or accurate, and often believe our lives need to be perfect and we have to have it all figured out before we can teach it. No one can learn from us unless we know the answers, and thus we go about trying to convince ourselves we know the answers and other people can learn from us. That creates this feeling of pressure and potentially can activate the need to be perfect or get it right. You have to believe in what you’re teaching, and what happens if you change your mind or receive new perspective that contradicts or is different from what you taught before? Unless you're willing to be wrong, you may have to try to get rid of the new information, hide it from people, and convince yourself that they're not ready for it. What happens if you desire to live, think, feel and act differently than what your teachings suggest? The students may not trust you anymore and banish you from the pedestal they put you on. What? You lied to us? That wasn't correct information? It didn't stand the test of time.
What would it be like if you could honour what you know and be curious about how that may benefit other people? You don't have to become a teacher in order to offer what you know and share the wisdom that you've gained through your experience, or direct revelation. What if we don't need to teach each other or learn from each other? And subconsciously create conditions where we're locked into roles? Instead we can be with each other and bring our perspectives forward to expand the field of perspectives and choose what feels most resonant based on where we are now. I wonder what it would be like to live beyond roles, release the pedestals, allow the idol worship to fall away, let go of the need to diminish self so we have more to learn from others, or try to convince ourselves we know it all and have it all figured out so that we can be perceived as valuable. We are all here, in the life circumstances we are in, with the thoughts, feelings and emotions we have, and a percentage of us are desiring great change, to live in a world full of love, joy, harmony, appreciation, creativity, ingenuity, and celebration. I wonder what it would take to create that. What can we be or do differently today to act from our highest wisdom and offer what we know and receive the gift from others, for the benefit of all?
Take a moment and notice if you have projected or decided how you will think and feel in the future. Notice if you have projected sameness or projected difference. What happens when we project or assume something about the future is that we start to behave now as though it's true. For instance, if you project that you will feel exhausted again tomorrow (sameness), it can lead you to feel frustrated today. You're actually in reaction to something that hasn't actually happened, yet if you buy that it will be the case, it will influence your thoughts, feelings and behaviors now is such a way that it is much more likely it will turn out that way. Amazing right? In the opposite instance, of projecting that it will be different tomorrow, it can work to your benefit in some cases, if you do believe it wholeheartedly to the extent that you shift the way you think, feel and act in the present moment. In other cases, if you project that it will be different tomorrow, and hold that as an assumption, it may lead to you putting off what's available for you to be or do differently now.
So, what is the invitation here, you may ask. The invitation is to release the projection of sameness or difference in the future, and shift to being curious about how it will be in the future. I wonder how you will think, feel and act. I wonder what will show up in your life. The more we come out of projection and into a space of curiosity, the more we reclaim the ability to act in the moment of now, which gives us much more influence over how our future unfolds. It's not about controlling the future, it's more about showing up as an active participant and being in a dance with life to bring forth what you most desire. In this moment what is most important to you? What contributes to you feeling most empowered or whole or joyful, or loved, or trusting or fulfilled? And, as you read this, you may become more aware of what your beliefs are, what it "is about" for you, and what's most alive in your experience now.
What I'm bring to light here, is the tendency many of us have to act in our lives now based on what we've decided will or won't happen in the future, or in resistance to how we've decided we're going to feel, or in anticipation of how we've decided we're going to feel. This approach leads to being fixated mentally, and looping on ideas or thought forms. If this is the case for you and you would like to have a different experience, there is the choice to begin the practice of becoming present to how you think and feel now, being curious about how it will be in the future, and choosing to be an active participant in the direction your life flows. This approach leads to a greater potential to receive gifts and new possibilities and surprises, or having things working out better than you could have imagined. And often, the more present to life we are, the more we can access the joy, and relaxation, and appreciation for being alive. If you would like assistance making this transition from a state of projection to a space of curiosity I would be happy to support you in this. Go to the contact me page and request a free 20min consultation. I can let you know what my offerings are and how we can work together to unlock doors, reveal the magic and create change that inspires joy and new beginnings.
Now is the time to set the tone for your life. If you don't choose to do it, who will? If you don't step up and claim your space, become aware of your energy field and acknowledge and subsequently choose your thoughts and feelings, it will be done for you. Unfortunately, it will be done by the dominant collective, or fear based patterns, or family lineage imprinting, all of which isn't able to offer you the gift that now is the time to claim. You have choice. You do not have to be bombarded by random thoughts and feelings. You don't have to be a victim to the dominant collective fields on the planet. Would you like to be run by fear, worry, distrust, confusion and a sense of uncertainty or even impending doom? I didn't think so. Now is the time, out of love for you and everyone in your life, to wake up and choose to be conscious and aware. Your body will be the first to thank you for it.
If you feel exhaustion, confusion, frustration, apathy, or depression, you have subconsciously chosen to be linked up with everyone on the planet feeling that. When that is the case it feels hard, if not impossible to change. The first step is and say: "I choose how I think and feel. I choose this body and this life as mine and I claim my space and my energy and my consciousness. Nothing and no one enters this space without my permission." If you are not intentional with your life, it's like passing it off to someone else who knows much less about what's best for you than your consciousness does. Now is the time to have the support and the tools to look after you and feel loved. It's the time to reach in and access your strength and willingness to be courageous enough to have a unique experience here. We do not have to sit back and suffer together. There is no reward or prize in the end for doing that. We are waking up from the belief system that we learn the most through pain and suffering. There are other ways to grow, there are other ways to evolve, there are other ways to expand and appreciate life. Are you willing to be bold and opt out of this belief system? If that is a yes for you and you would like some support to step up and have a different experience of living get in touch for a free 20min consultation. I'd be happy to stand with you and offer what I know to assist you to claim your greatest life. Here is a video that can contribute to you accessing the space and the energy of you and set the tone for something different starting now.
What life circumstances or mental or emotional conditions have you used or are you using to wake yourself up? In other words, what assists you to go beyond what you've lived before now? We often hear extreme stories, for instance, of the person who was depressed or suicidal and had a breakthrough, demanded change and is now happy and loving life. Or the person who goes through bankruptcy, has the experience of loss of everything, and through that demands of his or herself to step into greatness and be prosperous and successful. For some people, only minor discomfort is required in order to choose something different. Once they feel a little sad or depressed or stagnant or bored they initiate change and invite something or someone new into their lives, or explore more facets of their inner world.
What is your tolerance level? How bad do things have to get before you choose something different? Or how good do you allow your life to become before you do something to "balance the scales?" Now is the time to choose to become aware of our patterns, our tendencies, and our desires. Are you willing to know what you're really up to, in terms of the way you're creating your life? Sometimes we can be intentionally or subconsciously creating circumstances we don't like in order to back ourselves in to a corner until we have no choice but to change, essentially that change or die extreme. That's one way to go about things, and from a higher perspective there is nothing "wrong" with that. There is another choice, however, where we can acknowledge sooner the change we desire to make, or the choice that we've been avoiding, and can initiate that shift consciously. For instance, sometimes we will withhold something we need or want from ourselves in order to create motivation or intensify the desire for it. That's something we were taught to do through the punishment and reward system. That may work in some cases, but other times it doesn't and the moment we choose to be aware of what we're up to, or get that motivation isn't required to choose something different, than we can move towards what is desired without the push or the intensity of lack as a precursor.
Also, are you willing to invalidate your entire past experience? There is the choice now to receive in your life what you've never had such as love, intimacy, harmony, enthusiasm, joy and possibilities actualizing. The caveat to this, is we can get caught in trying to figure out why these things aren't in our life, or get stuck on the reasons and justifications for it not showing up or working out. Are you willing to give up what you think you know about why things have or haven't worked in your life? Are you willing to surprise yourself with new things showing up in your life that don't line up with what you consciously or subconsciously think or feel you deserve? What if you could throw the deserving/not deserving reason out the window? As well as the worthy/not worthy one too. It's just an explanation that we've used to make sense of lack. Essentially, we will never be able to make sense of it, understand it, or have a definite "why" to what's happening or unfolding in our lives. The invitation is to say yes to something new, something different and something greater and be willing to surprise yourself with love, beauty and possibilities that you couldn't have planned for or anticipated from your self understanding. You can choose to open your arms and jump, knowing that ultimately it's you that's guiding this whole thing. It's just a matter of how much you desire to know what you're up to and where your headed.