How many times have you been let down? Tune into all the times your needs weren't met, no one was there, no one cared, no one knew how to meet your needs, or could even see or acknowledge what you needed. Tune into the times you had desires but they were left unfulfilled. You knew what you wanted but no one was there to give it to you, or guide and assist you to have it. What did you do when your needs weren't met? What did you do when your desires weren't fulfilled? What did you make that mean about you? What did you make that mean about your life? What did you project into your future? What did you think about yourself? What did you feel?
What if right now we could collect all those thoughts, feelings, beliefs, projections, expectations, meanings, let down and "content", put it out in front of us, and surrender it. Imagine all of us in a big circle, with a fire in the middle and offering it to the fire. Are you willing to free yourself and your body from those experiences? You don't have to know how, it's about the acknowledgement of it, the willingness to release it, and the choice to create new space for your needs to be met and your desires fulfilled now and in the future. What if we could come together and create a space where that is possible. There is a lot that happened before now, but if enough of us share this collective desire and intention it becomes possible to shift this.
Today all this was coming up big time for me. It's like long ago I gave up on my needs being met and desires being fulfilled and went to work on meeting other people's needs and fulfilling their desires. I gave up on my life in full expression and instead was the one who could precisely tune into someone else's body, thoughts, feelings, emotions, higher self, guides, past, present and future and be right there to assist them to shift, to receive what they desired, to have their needs to be seen, understood and met fully by me and all the consciousness I have chosen to have access to. Even though I love doing this work, I secretly screamed, when is it my turn? If I transform enough people's lives will I finally get the chance to have my life transformed? Even when I paid thousands of dollars for courses it was all in service of me doing my work to make other people's lives better. Now I see how I was never included in that. I went into debt so others could be more financially free. I spent hours reading, studying, learning, questioning, contemplating so that other people didn't have to. I am so amazing at being completely present, available and there for someone else, yet I had totally given up on receiving the same. And even as people showed up in my life who could offer that, I didn't care enough about my life to truly be able to receive it.
Now is the time to set the stage for something new. I place all the experience of my needs not being met and desires not fulfilled into this fire and surrender it. It happened, it was hard, I felt alone, I felt let down again and again, but I don't have to carry this anymore. I don't have to carry this into my future. I desire to love and be loved. I desire to have my needs met and desires fulfilled, and care about my life again, as I so easily care for others. Now is the time to re-establish balance. No one else's life is more or less valuable then my own. I don't have to die so that someone else can live, or deplete myself so someone else can access more energy. I release all the either me or someone else is sacrificed, either me or someone else suffers, either me or someone else has to take the brunt of it, handle the burden, or carry the weight of mine or other people's unresolved past.
The time is now to re-claim our true desire to live, and thrive, love and be loved, express our gifts, celebrate and be celebrated. Let's handle what we carry, release it all into the fire to be transmuted, and welcome in the space, the energy, the life force, the trust and the support to live again, free of the hurt and let down of times past, and free of all definitions of love that are mired in self depreciation and sacrifice. We can all be and receive who we are. The time is now to re-claim our joy of living and our capacity to express and receive. Part of my joy is creating the space for all of us to be loved, supported, honoured, and cared for. I include myself in this circle and welcome in the next evolution of my work. Work that benefits and honours me as it contributes to others. I wonder what's possible and available now.
Yesterday I was having a conversation with a man who was struggling with his body image. As we were sitting there and we asked what was different about me, it dawned on me that I don't have a body image. That's why my body can morph, shift and change at such a rapid rate. See, body image is essentially a combination of the thoughts and feelings you have about your body that you then have to assess as to whether they are positive or negative, good or bad, or right or wrong. Once the assessment is complete, you then have to decide what you're going to do about it, whether you need to change something and if so, try to change behaviors, adopt better ones, or keep yourself on track, or controlled, or doing the right thing etc. No wonder so many people are exhausted and never get to have the experience they desire to have!!
Often the advice or suggestion when it comes to body image is to try to have a better one, or essentially have more positive thoughts about your body and get rid of the negative ones. What if you don't have to have thoughts and feelings about your body at all? I do acknowledge this is potentially a very radical concept, however, when you don't have thoughts and feelings about your body, you can have a direct experience of it. In order to think something about your body you actually have to separate from it. Once you are separate from it, it becomes a thing that you try to control, or make better, or change or improve AND you won’t have access to your gifts and talents that easily change and transform it. Your body is not a thing, it is an expression of you. Once you join with it (and release the walls of separation from it), 1. It's easy to love it, 2. It's easy to choose foods that truly nourish it, and 3. Your body can finally change, because you are there with it, and can empower the change rather than force or fight for the change (and believe the lie that your body is the thing resisting).
If you woke up and realized that your body was in prison and you were actually keeping it stuck there what would you do? It's time to have the keys to set your body free. Essentially our bodies have been imprisoned by the thoughts and feelings we have about them. Don't own your thoughts or ever say this is how "I" think and feel about my body, unless you want a rigid body that will have a hard time changing, healing, and transforming. Acknowledge the thoughts and feelings that you have right now, and simply wonder, what it would be like to be with your body, and not have thoughts or feelings about it? I don't expect people to get this, just know that it is a possibility. It does truly change everything and makes having a body truly joyful. It's not a thing to be objectified, used or abused. It is an expression of you that can be loved, nurtured, appreciated and celebrated. If this feels impossible to you, or simply unavailable, or like some fantasy that you can't have a reality, please get in touch with me. I guarantee that I can assist you to change your thoughts and feelings about your body and have a radically different experience and maybe even open the doors to receiving pleasure and lots of energy! Go to the contact me page and request a complimentary 20min session to see if what I can offer is what can benefit you and your body now.
Have you ever felt like you have to choose between you and a relationship? I know I have. It's this either/or scenario, either I have all of me, or I have this relationship in its current form. What is the architecture that is structuring this reality? One thing that came forward in a class I facilitated last night on Transforming Relationships was this question of: who do you become, or what do you have to lose or give up in order to be needed, wanted, desired, valued or liked by someone else? Another common question to gather awareness from is: who do you become when you want to get love from someone? There is a possibility for relationships where we come together and become more. Through our very meeting instead of having to give something up, we actually become greater. What would that be like to have that as the norm for relationships?
There are so many templates, imprints, and old structures for relationships that we carry. One old template is valuing sacrifice or giving up something in order to get something else. Another that was explored last night is where the language and models of economics have seeped into the landscape of relationships. We look at things with questions like: is this worth it? Is it worth the risk? Essentially doing a cost vs. benefit analysis, or looking at perceived gain vs perceived loss to assess the value or worth of the relationship, or subconsciously treating relationships as a system of exchange, treating each other as commodities that either appreciate or depreciate in value based on the quality of the interactions. What if now is the time to change this? What if we can be the ones to usher in a new template, or form of relationships? What if relationship can be two people coming together in their wholeness? We're not coming together to exchange goods and services, symbolically or literally. Nor are we coming together to mold into some altered form that seems to work best for the relationship, that involves giving something up.
Whatever relationships we step into often meet us where we are, at our level of development, as a reflection of how much we're functioning according to imprints, old structures, and fragmented personality structures that just want to be loved, seen and healed. I take a deep breath in and commit to bringing my talents and abilities forward to change the face of relationships in my life and in the world. I celebrate how far each of us have come in stepping into what feels good, and what feels like a true reflection of who we are. I can feel the potential of all of us coming together and relating in our wholeness, in our beauty, in our brilliance, and in our vulnerability. I can feel the possibility of coming together and being intentional in our interactions, really tuning in to the question of: what do we desire to express here? What do we desire to create here? What gifts do we have to celebrate with each other? We no longer have to be locked into exchanging energy, or relating based on economic structures. Let's demand to know what works for us now and commit to living as that. What do you know about what you would like to have that if you acknowledged it would change that patterns of relationships you have been functioning from? I wonder how much more of who we are can be expressed in the context of relationships? What if now is the time to be all that we are, come together to celebrate our wholeness and support each other to express our gifts, talents and abilities for the benefit of all?