In moments like this when we rely solely on mental models to govern our perception, it can lead us to feeling trapped, stuck, frustrated and defeated. I recorded a video today that talks about five different mental models and what you can do if you have got caught living inside of one or more of them. These mental models can be helpful or useful to implement in certain situations when deemed appropriate and relevant, yet if we end up living inside of them it cuts us off from other modes of perception that can guide action. The five mental models are: 1) The problem-solution model, 2) The broken-fixing model, 3) The wounded-healing model, 4) The wrong in need of correction or making it right model and 5) The question-answer model. I welcome you to see if you're stuck inside of any of these and if so this video may help you to have a new choice, thus opening the door to different modes of perception, including your heart field and your body's wisdom!
The field of Love contains everything that is life and death. Becoming love essentially means that we become capable of meeting this field of polarity in a new way. I recorded this brief video today to present the energetics of the field of love and to introduce the potential of meeting the fear of death within us from this spacious presence. In a sense, the fear will always be there, as it is a part of the human condition, yet it can be integrated by the total Self and no longer "cause" us to implement fear-based strategies of domination/submission, manipulation and control. We instead get to approach life and death in a new way, informed by our innate intelligence as a living Being and choose what truly enriches life and embraces death, igniting the possibility of true freedom from within.
The field of love contains the totality of what is life and death, pleasure and pain and joy and sadness. Our bodies, hearts and minds can be held, nourished, cared for and supported by this field of love. Suffering occurs when we are cut off from love and enter into a field of fear and separation. In this field life becomes positioned in opposition to death. Pain is set up as being a threat to pleasure, and sadness a threat to joy. One becomes the enemy to avoid, protect against, push away, reject and deny. We try to prevent death, pain and sadness and cling to life, pleasure and joy. Or, in modern day humanity we're conditioned to be on the side of life, pain and sadness and trained to keep away death, pleasure and joy. Pleasure, joy and death is a threat to what's considered to be most real, which is life, sadness and pain. It's okay to want or hope for pleasure and joy, but not to have it.
Here and now we have the choice to become reacquainted with the field of love. We can acknowledge that pleasure is not opposed to pain, life is not opposed to death and joy is not opposed to sadness. As this separation and polarization is un-done and clear seeing returns, we can become that which includes all of it. As our hearts, bodies and minds are liberated from suffering we become capable of embracing what we've been conditioned to not embrace, which is joy, pleasure and death. Death is as important to the well-being of our bodies as life. Every day cells die and new cells are made. The cells of our immune system engulf those cells that pose harm to the well-being of the body. The death of beliefs that cause harm to self or others can enrich life, and liberate our minds so we're no longer tortured and tormented by self-hate. In the field of love, pleasure is not objectified, it is fully embraced, seen, felt, sensed and known. In this field of love, Joy has the space and freedom to circulate, nourish, and bless all that is. As we are resourced, we can also accommodate for the reality of pain and sadness. It is not excluded or denied, just as pleasure and joy are not excluded or denied.
I welcome you to acknowledge the field and frequency of love, that contains the totality of what is. As the totality is contained within the embrace of the Self, fear and separation can be seen for what it is. It is a part of the human condition. It is here to be met within us and within the world. As it's met within us from this field and frequency of love it may spontaneously shift, change, transform, dissolve, or show up differently. A few days ago I re-posted a meditation I recorded over a year ago called, Meeting Fear from Love. It's quite stunning if you'd like to listen to it. I'll add it to the bottom of this blog. Here and now we can deepen our capacity to meet life, death, joy, sadness, pleasure and pain from Love. All can be met, seen, felt and included. And as the spaciousness of Being is known, joy and pleasure can be chosen, as a source of learning and growth. Just as sadness and pain is a source of learning and growth. As our perception of this field of love is strengthened, love can truly become the teacher, in and through all polarity. Is now the time?
Today I chose to pull out this video excerpt from a class I delivered last year on pleasure beyond polarity. Essentially, knowing pleasure in the field and frequency of love, rather than in a condition of fear where it is tied to rewards or diminished in its ability to be truly transformative. This video is a great overview, synthesis and foundation for work I'll be sharing soon! If you would like to purchase the audio of the full class for $15 CAN you can do so through paypal (www.paypal.me/cyole/15). In the notes just mention "pleasure beyond polarity" and the email address you'd like me to send it to.
Last year I developed a model to describe the environment of fear based learning compared to that of love based learning and articulated how many of us are ready to graduate from fear based learning, and learn lessons in the field and frequency of love. For the background on this you can read my blog: Is it Time to Graduate from Fear Based Learning? As a quick summary here, fear based learning is based on the model of punishment and reward. The common source of motivation is to move away from pain and punishment and towards pleasure and rewards. Embedded in this model are assessments of good vs bad, right vs wrong, good enough vs not good enough, worthy vs not worthy, deserving vs not deserving and notions of working hard enough to earn the rewards, and avoid the punishments. Pleasure is poised as a hoped for reward if enough of the conditions are met.
With pleasure as a reward it implies that you've done something good or right in order to be earn it, be worthy of it, deserve it or be good enough for it. If you asses that you haven't met these conditions you will consciously or subconsciously reject it. If it comes to you, through various forms, and you believe that you haven't "done enough" it may lead you to fear that you'll have to pay, or that you'll have to do something right or good in the future, which can lead to the notion that it's just not worth it. This imprinting or understanding of how things work can lead people to keep pleasure at bay or even fear it's arrival. In other words, if life starts getting "too good" something has to happen to "bring you back to reality." What if right now as your reading this you can spontaneously lay down this model and choose with your free will to learn the lessons of love?
Both pleasure and pain can be felt, sensed, known and experienced in a new context. In the wider context of love based learning, you can start where you are, lifting out the burden of inherited impressions of how life is and get to experience it directly, spontaneously and first hand. You can become curious about when and how joy and pleasure show up in your life. You can initiate a new dance with life that invites playfulness, lightness, and fun. Both pleasure and pain can be teachers and so can the responses that arise within you to these experiences. I welcome you into this field and frequency of love! Thank you for reading this. Stay tuned for new content that illuminates, invites and encourages love to awaken in pleasure and pain and transform itself into total joy!
Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!