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Beyond Fear Based Creation

4/23/2019

In recent months, through blogs and classes, I've been exploring Love Based Learning and how it differs from Fear Based Learning. In the online class tomorrow the subject is Love Based Creation and what's available now to assist us to graduate from Fear Based Creation, which involves the use of the mind and emotions to manipulate or control life events to produce better or more personally favorable outcomes. It often involves things like implanting thoughts, or new beliefs, and then feeling into that, with the hope that the better feeling state will result in life circumstances that match that state. Essentially it's the land of self-modification and tinkering, as though we're machines or computers or systems that can be adjusted according to formulas and equations such as different input = different output, installing the right way to think, calling up the right feelings, so that life will go your way and you'll get what you want more of the time. When it takes on a more spiritual framework, the universe becomes this thing that you can get to work for you to bring you what you want, if you ask, and if you're open to receive. So we then jump into the land of deciding what to ask and how to ask it correctly, and whether it's better to be general or specific, and then how to get into receiving mode, or make yourself be more open or available for the universe to be able to find you and give you what you want.

At some point we get tired of fear based creation, where separation prevails, and we have to stay on top of maintaining our identity as the "subject" trying to get life to co-operate or attempting to change how we are by bettering our-self, healing, modifying our-self and becoming this perfected thing that hopefully can adopt the right stance or perspective to have things work out. It's also full of so-that's. So even the adjustments that we attempt to make that are seemingly loving, still have agenda's based in manipulation and control. Doing one thing so that what we need or want will hopefully happen for us.

As we acknowledge what has been, take a moment to breathe and be present with the exhaustion, the confusion and the let-down at trying so many things and still not having life work with us, or desired circumstances unfolding. In this willingness for a new way to present, let's see what can now be known about Love Based Creation and what elements within the atmosphere of love can be named or perceived. What can we now know? May life show each of us, in our own unique way, to invite us in to this field of love where we can initiate creation in a new way. If you would like mentor-ship or coaching, I do offer one on one sessions. You can visit my session page to learn more. May we all be loved, nurtured, resourced and supported to thrive.

Love Based Creation

4/18/2019

A few months ago I posted the blog: Is it time to graduate from fear based learning? Which you can take a look at to provide more context for what I'll be exploring here. Essentially, alongside fear based learning are tools and strategies that we've been given to "create our lives" or have more of what we desire in life and be free from undesired life circumstances. As is typical of fear based environments, those tools and strategies are based in manipulation and control. Even something as seemingly benign as someone saying to "love yourself", it's still has the air of control to it because the reason to love yourself is so that you can have more of what you want and less of what you don't want.

Everything in the fear based environment is essentially a mental or emotionally based strategy that you employ so that you can have the rewards (what you want) and avoid the punishments (what you don't want). What comes alongside this is often statements with little or no true guidance, mentoring or offering of a process to support the building of what someone says you need. So someone may say "you just need to be positive," with no acknowledgment or genuine assessment of where you are and what your history is in terms of the trajectory of your mental and emotional development and the capacities you've developed to manage the environments you've lived in. Or someone will say "just be in the now" or "just be grateful" or "you need to be more present", with no acknowledgment of what it actually takes to develop that, and how much you have to examine and address the foundation of your very existence to be able to do that, which is no small matter!

So, where do we go from here? What is beyond fear based creation? I invite you to read the words Love Based Creation and see what comes to mind. What do you notice, what do you feel? We can't expect ourselves to know how to do this, or even be able to accurately perceive what it is. That is another carryover from fear based learning, that if you just expect yourself to be able to do something and put enough pressure on yourself rise to meet it. For many of us, that rarely worked. Or we achieved the result, but were tense, stressed, emotionally shut down and mentally fixated in the process. So, again we just breathe, show up as we are and tune into the words Love Based Creation.

From this new platform, or base, we can acknowledge what we have in our lives now and explore what we'd like to add or include. We can progressively unravel the "so that" formulas and associations, and gain the capacity to notice what authentically arises in us as preferences, desires or curiosities. And we can initiate true explorations for the sake of the exploration itself. So if it does arise that "I would like to love myself more" it's no longer attached to the so that (insert rewards here), it's just because you know that loving, caring for, attending to yourself more deeply is possible and so you initiate that. If the desire arises "I would like to have more money" then you can go about exploring what you can add to your life to have more money. If it's "I would like to know what I love to do and do it" you can initiate an exploration of finding out what you love to do and acting from the awareness that comes about. Essentially, we can be free of everything someone else told us, promised us or taught us to fear or turn away from, so that there is space to truly discern where you are and what your sense is, and more uniquely find your way and create your life, progressively more inclusive of your heart, body and mind. Next week (on April 24th) I'm having an online class to dive into this subject matter. You can go to the Classes with Christine page on Facebook and find the event, or go to the resources page and get the information there. I wonder what we can now know about Love Based Creation, and how easily, dynamically and joyfully it can come alive through each of our lives.

Beyond Mental & Emotional Manipulation

4/5/2019

In certain environments we may be around people who say, why can't you just be happy? Cheer up. You're okay. Everything's fine. In other words, how we're feeling is not okay. Our authentic response to the environment we're in is somehow wrong, or inconvenient to others. In that moment, if we don't sense the environment changing anytime soon, we yearn for a way to feel better about it. At some point the solution is given. Someone comes along and says, guess what, you can change the way you think and feel about the environment you're in! All you need to do is think different thoughts and then you will have a different feeling response. So basically, nothing needs to authentically change, you just get to think and feel different about it all and thus feel better no matter what! We hear that, and think, yes, what a great idea! I get to take control of how I think and feel and as a result I will get better feedback from the people around me who want me to feel happy and good and satisfied. So, we employ the strategy. Perhaps repeating thoughts like, "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be." And lo and behold, we feel better. That is a "good feeling" thought. And on we go, getting better and better at using thoughts to manipulate our feeling body and we feel good about ourselves because we're really making progress.

At some point as we're moving along feeling better no matter what, we get or are given by someone else the brilliant idea of extending this "practice" outwards. Rather than just employing it to manipulate and control how we think and feel, perhaps we can influence the people around us and make them think and feel better too. How ingenious! How clever we've become. So, we get to work, starting to offer other people these thoughts to implant into their "subconscious" mind so that they can feel different too. And oh, even better, once we do that enough we start to change and modify our behaviors so that we get different results in life. Now we've really gotten somewhere! Not only have we learned how to change how we think and feel regardless of what the environment is like, we now can influence our own and now others behaviors so that we are all making progress, taking control and making things better. On it goes, up the ladder, feeling good about our hard work, becoming more effective, getting the right thoughts in there and feeling good and proud, and then seeing some results. The control and manipulation is working, so we keep going. Employing the strategies more, and more and more.

At some point however, it may show up as a person in our life, or just from within our self, there is this anger, or backlash. Someone doesn't like being manipulated and controlled. It's stifling, un-kind, and even abusive. Even if it's so "positive" and "good" and "making things better." There's something inside us, or someone who shows up in front of us that goes: "go fuck yourself with all your bright ideas." And we're surprised. What is this anger? They, or something within me just doesn't get it! They are being negative, so lets find a way to get rid of them! If it's a person in your life it may be easier. If it's arising within you, then what? The response may be to double down, get stronger thoughts, to negate or be rid of this in-compliant response pattern.

The anger may subside, but then you may notice difficulty sleeping. Your mind just can't stop. Or you notice your body and there is all this tension. Or you notice that you're incapable of appreciating your environment or allowing yourself to feel sad when something occurs that is truly heartbreaking. Eventually there may be a pause. Something that wakes up in your body, a frequency, an intuition, the presence of a different energy that is essentially saying, take a breath, notice your body, pay attention to your breathing and observe the state of your mind. You hear the question: Is this where you want to be? And we allow the grief and sadness to well as the "no" emerges. Then perhaps there is a fear of not wanting to go back to what it was like before the positive manipulation strategy was introduced. You've gained so much by being able to control things and not be powerless over how you feel, you don't want to lose it all now. This voice of love that's beginning to wake up inside of you says "you won't". It's not like that. And so perhaps you begin to listen, and breathe, and get curious about how you authentically feel and whether this new frequency of love can help you change your life circumstances naturally and organically so that you're response to where you are is one of peace and calm, appreciation and acknowledgment of beauty.

As you breathe, and notice what's here, and what's arising, that perhaps wasn't available when you employed the strategy, you can ask for help from this loving field to surrender the strategies and go on a new adventure where you are loved, supported, honored and cared for every step of the way. For a different blog on this subject you're welcome to read Beyond Coping. And, if you would like assistance to shift from strategies of mental and emotional manipulation that you've outgrown, or if you're stuck in the fear of losing what you've gained please get in touch. There is another way that includes your heart, body and mind and is both directive and receptive in regards to life itself and it's not one that I can teach you, but as we are together you can remember it.

Beyond Self-Modification

3/4/2019

The fear-based learning classroom is the land of self-modification. It’s all about what you’re allowed to express and must reject to hopefully earn, deserve or be worthy of the rewards, and what you’re allowed to express and must reject to avoid the punishments. It gets even more complex than this! In addition to having to reject or hold back aspects of yourself and only expressing the aspects of yourself that are approved of, liked, desired or appreciated by those around you, there is also this concept of being “not good enough” or “too much.” Which means, what you inherently contain, even with this initial modification of partial expression and partial rejection, will not do! You have to become someone or something else entirely, someone or something different than that which you are. You must adopt traits, characteristics, or even entire belief systems from the people around you and then present those as “who you are,” and even then it may not be enough to guarantee rewards and prevent punishments! Some of us even went to the extent of rejecting the totality of our Self and becoming whatever the people in the environment needed or wanted us to be. In other words, we learned not to express our Self at all and only present to others what was internalized from them.

Living in this land of self-modification, under the conditions of partial or no self-expression, and partial or full self-rejection, at some point we can’t take it anymore! It’s like our very Being is screaming inside! It’s absolute torture to live this way. That which contains love, which is our very Being is so stifled or almost absent, that we feel starved, destitute, diminished and unfulfilled. We often oscillate between a deep longing to be who we are and express ourselves in the world and a deep hatred of the world or a hatred of other people for doing this to us, or an deep seated anger or rage at “that” which made us this way, whether “that” is internalized or externalized. Either I did this to myself (shame) or someone else did this to me or gave me no other choice then to do this (blame). Either way, we are trapped…Until we’re not. **And just as a side note, what is spoken here may or may not apply to you, so as you read I invite you to ponder the question of how you uniquely handled the “land of self-modification.” How did you cope? What was your strategy?

As I’ve been discussing in recent blogs, many of us have graduated or are graduating from fear-based learning and entering the love-based learning classroom. In this new space, love is. It’s a frequency that’s activated through your heart and body-mind via the presence of your Being. That which you are is here. And your Being, or that which is, ignites your heart and permeates your body-mind with this frequency of love and progressively transmutes carry-overs from fear-based learning. **And again, this is just an attempt to use language to describe what occurs that is beyond nameable, so use your own discernment to determine what resonates or is relevant for you. Either way, what I wanted to explore here is how given where we’ve been, there can be this tendency to enter the love based classroom and go “I am loved just as I am…I don’t have to change anything about me.” If you tune into this statement you may notice that it has the air of reaction to it. It’s actually an attempt to enact the opposite of self-modification, which would be no self-modification. That’s not actually what occurs in the love-based classroom. Instead, one way to put it is that we become reacquainted with this dance of Being and Becoming. In other words, we can fully acknowledge the presence of Being and receive fulfillment and nourishment in that field of love and then we can participate in life from that space or presence. That which we are becoming or showing up as in the world is always changing given the fluctuations in our body-minds and the nature of what’s on our hearts and the conditions of the world and the people in our lives.

We are consistently making adjustments in this play of becoming, or in this action of living, and what we be and do in the world. However, we are beyond self-modification in that the totality of Being is present, full, whole and radiant and unchanging, yet what we are becoming is every changing and thus inclusive of all sorts of modification and adaptation. The difference is that there is no self-rejection, just a participation in the play of expression from this ground of Being, or love-based foundation. In a sense, we have only just begun. This possibility is new to many, if not all of us. Thus the initiation of this new adventure and exploration, where our innocence and curiosity can be revived, and we have the energy to play and navigate life and living in a new way. What is truly possible now? A poem I wrote in 2011 is coming to mind, so I’ll include it here. I’ll also include a meditation I lead with a group of people online called Illuminating Brilliance, which can assist to unify your heart, body and mind through this presence of love. Enjoy! And, if you would like one-on-one support visit my session page. And, on Facebook you can visit my page Classes with Christine, and click on the events tab to see what I have coming up. Here is the poem and the meditation I mentioned...

New Life

Celebrating life
Refreshed and renewed
Centered in love
Letting the light shine
Remembering what it means to truly connect
Breathing in to the space created
Settling, drawing the mind into the present moment
It is here that beauty can be seen, felt and known
It is here that the depth of our being can be accessed
From this inner place of stillness inspired thought arises
Curiosity is sparked, innocence revived
Action flows effortlessly, in tune with what the moment is calling for
One step at a time, evolving towards a fuller expression of Self
Spontaneous waves of joy replace those of doubt
Peace calms the storms of fear
Thank you, thank you, thank you
May the blessings be

Establishing Love Based Relationships

2/27/2019

As I've been speaking to recently, we're coming into a time where it's truly possible to activate the frequency of love in and through the heart-body-mind and establish the unified functioning of the totality of Being. From this new base of love we can explore being with each other in the context of relationships. As we are more and more acclimated to this new inner environment, we can more clearly see and acknowledge where we've been and some of the physical, mental and emotional conditions that previously prevented the presence of this love and this capacity to act from this unified state. I wanted to name some of the fear-based conditions that we may have participated in and how it left us feeling.

The first is where love became an object or a thing and thus we or someone else became an object from which to extract love. We were then introduced to this concept of deserving love. As we look at this condition from the love-based perspective it's easy to see how damaging it would be to attempt to function in that set-up. Confusion, low-self esteem and oscillating between hurt, grief, sadness and anger and rage is a natural by-product of living in an objectified-love environment where we adopted strategies of manipulation and control over ourselves or others in a desperate attempt to attain, deserve, or somewhat sporadically or randomly be magically granted this love.

The second was where love became commodified, and we were now looking at making ourselves useful or valuable in order to be worthy of love. This is where the language of economics seeped into human relating and we started to think in terms of whether we were worthy of a relationship and what we could do to earn it. Or whether we provided adequate value to someone for them to want to be with us. Or whether a relationship was worth the investment. Or hoping that our investment in someone or in a relationship would pay off in the short term or the long run. Looking at this from the presence of Being, it's easy to see how damaging it was to constantly assess or decide upon our worth, value or use to someone else and theirs to us. The commodified-love condition resulted in us feeling worthless, useless, and like we had no value and potentially had no purpose or reason to exist at all! Or still scrambling to invest more into ourselves so that we could at least demonstrate that we were trying and really wanted to be better and one day would get there and finally be worthy of another's investment of their time and energy into us.

So, now is the time for us to acknowledge objectified-love and commodified-love and graduate from our participation in it. We can claim the frequency of love as our base. We don't live to earn, deserve or become worthy of it. Instead, we live from love, progressively recovering from these fear-based conditions through the unification of our hearts, bodies and minds. We can invite this presence of love to heal all the effects of trying to live without it or desperately seek it through any means available.

Through the naming and acknowledgment of what has been and what is different now, we can envision and establish relationships that are love-based and begin to truly relate Being to Being, heart to heart, and become present to what can be generated through the relationship. We'll no longer be performing or trying to impress and prove things to each other or give to get, or offer just to satisfy rather than because we are truly moved to. We can become natural, authentic, ease-filled and available to show up and give and receive that which benefits everyone involved, in tune with what we truly desire to give and truly desire to receive. If there are differences in needs, desires and preferences those can be acknowledged and we can work together to find a way to navigate through that and find solutions. And in all of this, we will each find our own way, and yet also can gain awareness from each other about what's possible to ignite and activate qualities within our Being, or elements within our Self that can now come to life and enhance the nature of living. Here we are, we are here and now is the time. A few years ago I wrote a blog called Transforming Patterns in Relationships where I explored some similar themes. You can also check out my recent blogs regarding Graduating from Fear-Based Learning for a more broad overview of the subject matter. May we all be completely resourced and be invited into love-based relationships now and in the future.

Acknowledging Simplicity within the Complexity

2/20/2019

I recorded a meditation today exploring the theme: navigating from where we are now. What emerged was more silence and spaciousness than words, and yet one thing that was spoken about was simplicity and complexity. If you find yourself to be spinning in a sea of complexity, overwhelm, confusion or just in a condition of being busy or feeling rushed or pressured, the energy transmitted through the meditation can assist you to access simplicity, acknowledge the presence your being and express that which arises through the acknowledgment. A few blogs on related topics that you may be interested in are: Managing Overwhelm, Tuning in Below the Noise and Managing Uncertainty & Instability.

Activating Love Based Motivation

2/14/2019

As we transition or graduate from fear based learning, we may feel a loss or lack of motivation. What was once driving our actions was the promise of rewards or the fear of punishment. Or we may have been motivated to get love, approval or acceptance but got weary when we realized how much we had to give up or hide to do so. We may have been motivated towards what we thought would give us pleasure and away from anything associated with pain, or towards what we or someone else defined as success and away from whatever was defined as failure. At some point many of us got very confused and couldn’t distinguish true pleasure from pain, or reward from punishment, or success from failure.

Now is the time to clear up the confusion, and acknowledge, as I mentioned in a recent blog, that you were never meant to succeed in the fear based classroom. You’re here to learn, and grow and live in a different way, with a different source of motivation. There may be some who can thrive in that other classroom, and be satisfied with the rewards they are given, or just like that kind of challenge. But chances are that if you’re reading this blog you’ve been seeking for a new way, better suited to you.

So, I invite you to take a deep breath and fully acknowledge that this new way is here. I’m offering simply one style of presenting it. We can embody the frequency of love, and from the base of this, activate motivation that stems from this new source. We can regain or build the capacity to accurately assess where we’re at and what we need, and ask for it and receive the mentoring, teaching or guidance to meet the need. We can regain the capacity for self-honesty and the ability to direct our requests in a way that invites and insures support. We can free up our bodies from the cellular memory of being pressured or forced to do things. We can free up our hearts from the weight of living with unmet needs and being surrounded by people that would offer empty suggestions with no true guidance or direction such as “just let it go,” “forgive”, “trust that it will all work out,” “just have faith.”

We do require help, support, guidance and direction and as the frequency of love activates, it’s much easier to acknowledge it and reach for that help in an empowered way. If you would like some one on one support to activate love based motivation get in touch. This is my specialty, if you will, as I have spent the last 10 years finding my way from being deep in the fear based learning paradigm and to establishing myself here, where I am, authentically learning and progressing with the love and support I need to do so.

Strengthening Your Light

1/19/2019

I recorded a meditation today called Strengthening Your Light. If you've ever been stuck with an unquestioned need to be strong or a fear of being weak or an unwillingness to be seen as weak, and are feeling ready to step beyond that, listen in. We can be beyond strong or weak and both strong and weak and neither strong nor weak. As we are more free from these fixed or stuck places, we can express from who we are, as we are now, with more ease. If this subject matter interests you, you can also read my blog Beyond Strong or Weak. And if you have being strong tied in with success or being weak tied in with failure you can read my blog entitled Beyond Success or Failure.

Is It Time to Graduate from Fear Based Learning?

1/17/2019

Lately through my sessions, classes, online meditations and blogs I've been exploring how many of us are ready to graduate from fear based learning and step fully into a new classroom, a love based learning classroom. In this blog I want to explore a few indicators that you're ready to graduate from the fear based learning classroom.

First off, one of the hallmarks of readiness is the acknowledgment that we're not learning. The whole point of being in a classroom is to learn and grow and develop. If we are not learning, it's an indicator that we require something different. The teaching style of fear based learning can be very hard on us. Our nervous systems can collapse over time. The level of fear or threat of negative emotional consequence and the pressure, force, and aggression to get on with things, "learn" and drive yourself to the rewards can be super taxing mentally, emotionally, physically, psychically, spiritually and financially. At some point we may end up drained, confused, frustrated and shut down. We just can't do it and can feel like such a failure, like we've let our teachers down. And they will be disappointed in us. We're not meeting the expectations. We're not making them proud. We're not making things happen and swimming in the rewards that would reflect well on the teacher's amazing abilities to help, guide and mentor that they believe themselves to have. The mental, emotional and physical effects of perceived failure and ineptitude can erode our self-esteem, crush our confidence and fill us with self-hate and deep shame. And, in this condition we can't even remember what the lessons were that we are meant to learn! And if we do have a vague sense of them we're too exhausted to muster up the energy to care and often just give up on our ability to learn anything.

Fortunately, there is something deep within us that knows that it doesn't have to be this way. And, if you're reading this, it means that you know that and have been asking for something different. It can be such a relief and a big step when we realize that WE WERE NEVER MEANT TO SUCCEED IN THE FEAR BASED CLASSROOM. And that our failure to "make it" or to control and manipulate ourselves into being what the teachers wanted us to be, was BY DESIGN. The pain and hurt wasn't by design or meant to be, however, our progression into knowing that there is something beyond the fear based classroom was. And now is the time, for anyone reading this to know that graduation is available and the love based learning classroom is ready for you to step into.

In this love based classroom the frequency of love is. Love is NOT a reward. It's a frequency required for our heart, body and mind to function properly. In this classroom learning, growth and getting to know yourself and what you're here to be and do in the world is in the curriculum, so to speak. And your teachers, tutors, guides and mentors are here to support you in that, in whatever ways you uniquely require it. Just know, it make take some time to transition from the fear based classroom, in terms of fully letting go of agreements with your teachers there, or in healing any wounding or anger you carry from that experience. Those can be addressed by these teachers, tutors, guides and mentors. With your permission and request they can help you to heal from that and rebuild your strength, self-value, self-love etc. And if you would like support from me to step onto that path with clarity and the capacity to navigate the terrain please get in touch with me for a session or series of sessions. At the bottom of this blog I'm including a brief introduction to Love Based Learning. Following that introduction I gave to a group of people online, I offered a meditation/initiation to support people to step into the Love Based Classroom. If you would like to purchase that audio ($15 CAN), get in touch with me via my session page and request it. Just say "I would like to purchase the Love Based Learning Initiation" and provide your email address and I'll be in touch. If you would like more on this subject you can read my blog, Why You Don't Deserve Love. In that blog there are links to many others. And, there will be much more to come.

Exploring Themes for 2019

1/11/2019

Last week I facilitated an online class called Exploring Themes for 2019. The themes that emerged for the group were:

1. Activating new pathways of communication, including greater telepathy, direct knowing, communication without distortion and ease of hearing and receiving awareness of what's being expressed.

2. Navigating What's Here - really stepping into acknowledgment of where we are and accessing new capacities to respond with precision and mastery.

3. Clearing the Way - addressing past wounding that's showing up in now moments to be addressed.

4. Leading with Presence - noticing anywhere we've been driven by our questions or the need to provide answers, and instead choosing to breathe deeply, direct our presence and attention in and through our hearts, bodies and minds and hold any questions or answers that we have lightly.

5. Exploring What Is - truly receiving and perceiving what is and diving into it, allowing greater depth, richness and beauty to be revealed.

Without the full 2 hrs of exploration, the themes may sound a little vague. I did want to note them, as they may be explorations that become more and more relevant and illuminated as we move through the year. What I did want to include here is the opening meditation from the class. It's an invitation to step into a space of curiosity and wonder with regards to what is here and possible now.

Christine assists people to be with themselves fully, releasing anything that prevents them from being resourced from within. She invites love and wisdom to be accessed through the body, heart and mind to restore the capacity to gift and receive what truly nourishes all that you are. She brings harmony, coherence, and gentleness and provides a space and frequency that calls forward your greatness and inspires you to engage with life in new ways. She contributes to you knowing who you are and being that in the world, creating miracles everywhere you go for the fun and joy of it.

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