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Un-Scripted Living with Christine Yole

Who or What Can Show Up for You Now?

5/15/2018

We can often get caught in the trap of deciding what is or isn't possible or coping with "how things are" and not being available to receive new possibilities, or we can get caught in the fantasy of what things could be or trying to create the ideal scenario or circumstance that leaves us in a constant state of judgment and rejection of ourselves and our lives as they are now. There is this sweet spot of being present for ourselves and our lives as they are and choosing to welcome in more of what nurtures our hearts, blesses our bodies and inspires us to be and do things differently.

A question that came forward to ask a friend today was: Who or what can show up for you as a contribution to the ease and joy of being you? Another thing we can get caught in is in comparing where we are or what we have or don't have with someone else, or in wishing it were different, or hoping that something will change, or being frustrated by what we've decided should be different by now. These are all states of dis-empowerment, that keep us waiting or feeling like we don't have choice. The space of choice is a reclamation of our free will, which supports us to in being resourced from within. What would it be like to be completely resourced? I did a blog on the subject, that includes a meditation, if you'd like to go deeper on that subject you can read the blog, Being Completely Resourced.

So, I'd invite you to ask the question: Who or what can show up for me as a contribution to the ease and joy of being me? Who or what can show up for me as a contribution to being completely resourced? As we are completely resourced and feel supported in being who we are, we gift more, our creativity is accessible, we respond from a space of choice rather than an overlay of judgment or fear-based emotional reaction patterns. How much more freedom can you have to choose what honours you? How much more freedom can you have to choose what contributes to the joy of life and living? All of these types of questions can assist you to become more aware of what is truly possible. We no longer have to en-train energetically or emotionally to the dominant collective realities and instead can be a contribution to building a collective reality based in love, safety and support. If you would like to dive deeper into creating a new foundation for your life that is based in love, safety and support you can read my blog, Choosing a New Foundation. Now is the time to have, be and receive what we know is possible.

Do You Have the Choice to Be Happy?

5/8/2018

Really tune into that question: Do you have the choice to be happy? As you tune into this question you may become aware of what is keeping you from having that choice, or there may be part of you that says yes of course I do, and another part that says no I don't. So, what would it be like if you had the choice to be happy? Who or what may be keeping you from that choice? If you believe that you should be happy or have to be happy, or if you carry beliefs that people will leave you if you're not happy, or get mad at you and reject you if you are happy, or if you house cellular or emotional memories of what happened when you were happy or what happened when you weren't happy, then being happy may not yet be a choice. If being happy is a need or necessity you will put pressure on yourself and develop denial patterns of thinking or believing that you're happy when from a feeling/emotion/body perspective you are not. If you believe that your life won't go well or you won't attract what you want into your life unless you're happy, you might end up developing coping mechanisms like controlling or manipulating your emotional body to be good no matter what, or rejecting anyone who is capable of seeing you clearly, or projecting that everything is good when actually you're having a difficult time which may lead to a lack of intimacy in your relationships and a distrust of connection. If you believe that you'll be abandoned, people will hate you, or be jealous of you or envy you or judge you if you are happy think of the pressure you'll put on yourself to not be TOO happy!

One thing that is key to acknowledge is that the beliefs that we carry aren't random. They were formed through a set of experiences. Either we lived the experience directly, or witnessed someone else live it, or were threatened with the potential of undesired circumstances if we were to be or do something other than what we were told. What we wake up to is the fact that if we are able to access and acknowledge the moment of choice and subsequently choose again we can create something different. When we choose to be or do something different our past no longer dictates our future. When we become aware of choices we have, claim our free will or our freedom to choose, life changes and new possibilities become available. So, can you choose to be happy? What if you could change anything that doesn't allow that choice to be available? Perhaps this means giving yourself permission to feel unhappy, or acknowledge and be honest with yourself if you are feeling sad, angry or let down.

As we meet ourselves authentically where we are and how we are, it allows for us to progressively know our true needs, wants and desires and move towards having those needs met and desires fulfilled. Our reality can better reflect who we are. Our capacity to love, nurture, celebrate and honour ourselves and others expands. Happiness becomes a choice, not a need or necessity. If you tend to put a lot of pressure on yourself and would like to change that you can read my blog, It's Time to Take the Pressure Off. If you're stuck feeling like you have to be positive, upbeat and happy when underneath your feeling sad, angry or powerless to change your life circumstances read my blog, What to Do When Being Positive Stops Working. If you would like one on one support to be met where you're at and move in the direction of authentically being happy I would love to assist you. You can go to my session page to see my offerings and get in touch to schedule a free 20 minute consultation.

Beyond Worthy and Deserving

5/1/2018

Are you stuck playing the worthy vs not worthy, deserving vs not deserving or good enough vs not good enough game? Would you like to choose beyond it? Where we get caught is in the belief that if we become worthy, deserving and good enough we can have what we want and desire in life. Is this true? Is this how creation works? Ultimately we desire to know what it does take to have, be and do what we most desire. There are so many tools, techniques and modalities out there to assist with this. The key now is to allow for the re-set, to choose what works for us and thank and let go of any tools, techniques, points of views or beliefs that we've outgrown. What did work for us then may not work for us now. We may have believed that if we just found a way to feel worthy that good things would come to us. We may have believed that if we could feel good enough and prove to ourselves and others that we were valuable that everything would work out in our favor. Take a deep breath and ask for your deepest love and highest wisdom to show up to inform you of what is true now. What would it be like to have what you desire in life? What would it take to create it? What can you be and do different now that will support you in having that?

Asking questions is a way to assist you to receive something different, it allows your mind to let go of the need to control, figure it all out or decide what the answer is and instead get curious about what is possible. As we become more present and receptive we can be aware of choices that we previously didn't know we had. We can surprise ourselves with our brilliance, our wisdom, our love and our gifts, talents and abilities. Are you willing to surprise yourself with your beauty and your brilliance? Are you committed to working out your limitations and figuring out how and why you're wrong, or are you committed to being you and having a great life? It's your choice. This is a moment of empowerment, re-claiming your ability to direct your life and receive possibilities that nourish, bless, and contribute to you thriving. Now is the time to step beyond the reasons and justifications for not having what you want or not being you and choose again. Ask for the support to show up. Ask to know what it is going to take to change what you previously decided you couldn't change. What have you given up on that you can now choose to direct your focus and attention towards? What if you could trust you and have your back and commit to your life? If you would like more insights on the worthy and deserving templates you can read my blog, Are You Worthy and Deserving of Having a Great Life? If you would like assistance to step beyond the game of trying to be worthy and deserving and know how to go beyond the shame, blame, regret and guilt get in touch through the meet Christine page. Change is possible. Now is the time.

Having What You Want - Now What?

4/30/2018

For many of us we are coming into a time of lining up in physical manifest form with having what we want, or another way of putting it, of having our true heart's desires, or having what aligns with our deepest love and highest wisdom. Whether it be intimacy, personal or professional fulfillment, health and well-being, freedom, joy, happiness or something else, here we are, ready, willing and able to choose this. As we make this shift it's important to acknowledge how much time, energy and focus has been consumed by having what we don't want and coping with that reality, or in wanting what we don't have and always trying to wish it into existence, make it happen, dream about it, fantasize about it, use manifestation tools to try to create it etc.

As we step into the reality of having what we want it feels right, true, real, natural and perhaps neutral. The high of thinking about having what we want or visioning it and the accompanying excitement and exhilaration, and the low of managing unwanted, negative, and undesirable realities is no longer there. The absence of the high and low can feel to the mental/emotional/nervous system like a loss. It may be quite an adjustment to acclimate to the new reality of having. It may feel boring, or empty or without that charge that comes with the highs and lows. The thing with this reality of having is that it is full, dynamic, complete, whole and alive. We can choose to direct all of our focus and attention into the living of it.

Again, however, keep in mind that there may be moments where we may yearn for the familiarity of the high or the low. On some level, before this new reality has been normalized on all levels of our being, we may desire to go back to the comfort and familiarity of wanting what we don't have, or visioning something else. Or we may want to engage the coping mechanisms that we got so used to working with. We may feel the need to do the affirmations, or to create a lacking feeling again, or to withhold something from ourselves so we can feel like we have something to move towards. The key is to watch for these tendencies, acknowledge that these may arise, and through our choice and direction commit to living this life of having fully, completely and abundantly. We can choose to nurture, love and support what we have and witness it unfold. Right now we can choose to activate the energies of celebration, acknowledge the gratitude, notice our hearts and breathe in the stability of being resourced from within. Welcome to this new world! If you would like to read more about coping mechanisms and living beyond them, you can read my blog called Beyond Coping.

Needs Met & Desires Fulfilled

4/25/2018

What would it be like to have your needs met? Tune into the possibility of that. What would it be like to have your desires fulfilled? What if now is the time to ask these questions and receive the reality of it? There's a tendency to give up on possibilities when over and over again it doesn't seem like anything's changing. Rather than pretending that it doesn't matter, or trying to figure out how to change it, or trying to get better at coping with having what you don't want or wanting what you don't have, what if you could just ask questions and begin to line up with the resources, people and possibilities that facilitate everything changing?

Here is the link to a blog I did, including a google hangout addressing the question: If you knew that your needs would be met and desires fulfilled who would you be and what would you ask for? The blog is called The Frequency of Receiving. If you find that you still have a feeling of being defeated, or let down by life, or like it just isn't possible for you, you may benefit from reading the blog called Transmuting Let Down. Below is a short meditation you can listen to to assist you to access and choose the possibility of having your needs met and desires fulfilled.

The Joy of Change

4/20/2018

Are you willing to have the joy of change? As you know, so often change is associated with being hard, challenging and uncomfortable, however, what if now change can truly be about the transformation into having what you desire in life, meeting your needs, and choosing what honors your heart and lights up your whole body and being? I wrote a blog recently called Feeling Different than the People around You. This is another way that you can choose to feel and be different than the people around you by being willing to have the joy of change and celebrate you and your life.

What I've been observing and experiencing lately is that now is the time to know what our deep yes is and live that. It's time to know what our true needs are and have them met. It's time to know what are deepest desires are and have them fulfilled. As this unfolds our hearts become more engaged in the creation of our lives and enable us to live from love and receive so much more joy and beauty. In order to have this it does require us to know our no and be willing to adjust those things in our inner and outer lives that have been created in fear, or based on a need to defend, protect, contain, or hide something. Are you ready, willing and able to choose freedom, to know the version of you that is already free? Are you ready, willing and able to know you through the frequency of love and have that which supports being and receiving that even more? Here is a short meditation to assist you to have the joy of change. How does it get any better than this?

Love in Action

4/5/2018

Is now the time to access your deepest love and highest wisdom? Together let's set the stage for a new beginning. We can now choose to build our lives on a foundation of love, safety and support. We can re-source ourselves from within and create the conditions that invite love and wisdom to be embodied and expressed, beyond the realm where fear, doubt and lack exist. Are you ready to be free and truly step into the creation of your life? Say yes to breathing together, welcoming the possibilities and receiving more of the miracle of you. I've included a meditation to assist you to step into this. And here is a poem that acknowledges possibilities. Now is the time to choose, create, be and receive what we came here to be and do.

Celebrating Transformation

Acknowledging the transformation within
Welcoming wisdom
Expressed with love
Appreciating the choice to participate
Surrendering the timing
Allowing it to unfold
Trusting the Universe
Held in the arms of the infinite
Actualizing new realities as they can be supported
Many contributing to the new creations being sustained
Having a home here
Breathing into new possibilities
Committing to life
Wholeness realized
Beauty re-cognized
Unity consciousness
Bridging dimensions
Embracing difference
Celebrating Being

Feeling Different than the People Around You

3/21/2018

Are you wiling to feel different than the people around you? Many of us have trained ourselves or our bodies to match the emotional reality and even the physical reality of the people around us. In terms of matching the emotional reality, this often begins in childhood. For many of us it wasn't okay to feel completely different than our parents did. If we were really happy and exuberant when our parents were sad or frustrated it didn't go well. Or if we were sad or angry when our parents were doing well and just wanted to relax that didn't go well either. So, what did we learn to do? We learned to tailor our emotional responses to the people around us. For some of us it was a need to present as always good or happy. For others it was a need to present as always okay or fine. For others it was to present as not being good or not doing well. At some point it becomes exhausting to maintain the pretense, the presentation or the image of how we feel or who we are. We desire to know who we truly are, or to be authentic, or congruent or in alignment. So then the question becomes, how do we unravel what we put in place, or deconstruct what we previously constructed, or clear what we once created? The predominant thing required is awareness that it is there, and the choice to change it. That choice often is energized or fueled by the desire for authenticity or to know thyself, be thyself and express thyself in Truth, Love and Wisdom. We don't want to live as the personality we constructed to survive the conditions of our upbringings, we want to show up as the beings we truly are, expressing our gifts, talents and abilities for us and others to benefit and live in physical and emotional realities that honor, nurture and support us.

To go a little deeper addressing the question of unraveling what we put in place, it can be helpful to acknowledge that there was a consequence for feeling how we felt, and to acknowledge what that consequence was. It can also be helpful to acknowledge that the environment is different (you're most likely not still in your family home), and so there is space or room to choose to be and do something different without re-wounding or re-enacting the original conditions under which the adaptation strategy was put in place. Once you have acknowledged that you can step into the question of: Who am I now and how am I now? You can give yourself permission to feel how you feel and be who you are. Sometimes we will have internalized the consequences that parents or other people in our lives delivered to us in the form of an inner voice, or a wall, or a barrier or a set of sensations. That can be cleared by acknowledging that that took place and re-directing the energy, or choosing to be you and claim sovereignty from that or many other ways, depending on the tools or modalities you have available to you.

As you choose to know who you are and feel how you feel, you can ask to have people in your life who will respond differently to you than people in your past which essentially means that how they are choosing to be supports how you're choosing to be now. So for instance, if they are feeling sad and you are feeling joyful, there isn't any consequence for that, instead it's allowed or okay to include both of those emotional realities in the same physical reality. They don't have to stop feeling sad and you don't have to stop feeling joyful. And as your feeling joyful, you're able to acknowledge that they're feeling sad, as they can acknowledge your joy. Also, at any moment, either of you can choose to feel different than you have been feeling and that is included to!

How many emotional realities are you willing to include in your physical reality? For any emotional reality that you exclude, the tendency will be to reject, deny, separate from, control or manipulate or desire to change the people who are currently living in that reality. And just imagine how much of your energy, creativity, healing ability, or focus could be consumed by that? So, as you are more willing to be who you are and feel how you feel, you will increase your capacity to allow others to be who they are and feel how they feel. In this process of being in allowance you have choice and they have choice, which means you can choose to change where you show up and how you show up, you just no longer have to separate from, exclude or reject other people's emotional realities as you do that. In other words, you can acknowledge and include something in your awareness without choosing and creating it as your reality. I wrote a blog on the subject of Presence & Preference which you may enjoy if you'd like to read about this from a different angle. Another blog I wrote a few years ago called Choosing How You Feel may also benefit. In presenting all of this information, my intention is to assist all of us to have new choices available that really support us to thrive in our lives here and be nourished, loved and supported in all ways, always. Now is the time.

Receiving Energetic Nourishment

3/14/2018

What would it be like to receive energetic nourishment? Many of us have been indoctrinated into environments set up around giving and taking. The focus is on what are you giving and offering, and what are you getting in exchange for that offering. The hope is that if you do things right you'll get your needs met and will be successful, fulfilled and happy. If you do things wrong, you will be left lacking, or in a state of need, not having, or grasping for sustenance or salvation. Now is the time to step out from under the grip of the punishment reward system and the exchange rate reality. In the punishment reward system the motivation is to move towards pleasure and away from pain, but what is "good" and "bad" is so relative and belief based that we end up confused and shut down or desiring to find a way to escape the pain of lack and live in a fantasy world where all is perfect, good and right and everything bad and wrong simply ceases to be. In the exchange rate reality, everything, including people have become commodified. It's all about having value or being valuable on the market so that you or your service can be exchanged for something that you want or need. Often through this style of relating people end up being diminished into mere objects or tools for other's use or benefit, or cogs in a wheel, or parts in a machine, or numbers on a screen. The end result of this type of reality is feeling de-valued, taken advantage of, dirty, disgusting, worthless or useless, trying desperately to feel important and valuable.

Now that more awareness has been brought to the punishment reward system and the exchange rate reality we can all take a deep breath, stretch out emotionally and energetically and re-direct our life force and our presence, attention and consciousness towards something greater. We can know ourselves beyond this. We can step out of these confinements that have been set up through belief and collective agreement to personally and collectively choose to create something new that honours life, includes all that we are, celebrates uniqueness, encourages expression, and facilitates the gifting and receiving of nourishment physically, mentally, emotionally and energetically. Are you ready to step into this?

What do you, at your widest and most expanded level, know about creating a reality beyond what has been actualized here? What contribution can you be to new realities existing on planet Earth? This question and this exploration is the invitation for today. More of us are awakening to new possibilities by transmuting trauma, integrating more love and wisdom, knowing ourselves at a deeper level, and releasing what we've inherited from generations past that was seeped in domination, manipulation and control and shame, blame and guilt. We can know what true choice is, re-claim our free will and show up to love each other and begin to acknowledge, accept and subsequently express our uniqueness for all we meet to benefit. It's an expression from abundance, from an energy, space and consciousness of being resourced. The miracles abound as these new possibilities are actualized into reality through each of our choices to commit to our lives and realize what we're truly here to be and do. Now is the time.

True Nourishment

We are here
Our time has come
We awaken to the wisdom within
Calling us beyond what has been
To embrace what our hearts know
We lay down the burden of lies
We reclaim the discernment of Truth
New possibilities emerge
New realities are created
Life is honoured
Our bodies are nurtured
Our energetic gifts come online
We bow to the One within
Uniting all of us in a field of love
We begin anew
Claiming this life as ours to live
Together we thrive
Separation becomes a distant memory
We forgive the versions of us that didn't know better
And embrace the ones that do
Here we are
We are here
Our time has come

Asking and Receiving

3/5/2018

I'm sure anyone reading this blog has heard the statement "ask and you shall receive". Many teachings offer something like a recipe which includes asking for what you want, shifting into a state of allowance or non-resistance and receiving that which you have been asking for. Ideally, this model would work seamlessly. Often though, something is missing. We ask and can't receive, or seem to be locked in a pattern of resistance. Often we feel like we're missing something, have done something wrong or conclude that we just must not be worthy or deserving of having what we want. From there we tend to go to work on finding out limiting beliefs that we carry. What did we learn from Mom? From Dad? From our culture? From our friends, siblings, extended family and school? We're hunting for what's keeping us from receiving and having what we truly desire. For a while this hunt or search is fun, illuminating, purposeful and even fulfilling. Eventually it tends to lose its luster. It's no longer very exciting to go sifting through past experiences, or trying to ask the universe in the right way, or trying to figure out where our resistance is, or trying to figure out how to receive. So, what do we do when we're tired of all this? At some point there is a moment of surrender, alongside a natural inclination to go deeper.

One approach to going deeper is to imagine that you could begin anew, from where you are, as you are now. It's no longer about change, or sifting through the past or trying to get your vision of the future just right so you can conjure up the emotion or feeling state that would it encourage it to show up in your life. Instead, you can choose to take a deep breath and get curious about what it would be like to really know you, all aspects of you. What does your heart know? What does your body know? What does your higher self or multi-dimensional self know? As you come to know more of who you are the possibility becomes available to express more of who you are. Then it becomes more about actualizing the fruits of the consciousness you've cultivated and calling forward possibilities that better reflect the truth of you. The tricky thing with a lot of this is that words can only point to the true experience, which is more of an energetic and emotional reality than an intellectual one.

From my point of view we're coming to the end of being able to solve the problems, heal the wounds, fix what's broken and correct what's wrong using the mind. For many people the mind is tired, and on some level is ready for the heart and body to get to step up and contribute to the creation of a life that is more fulfilling and satisfying, as well as contributing to the creation of a world that works better for more people. So, what is the invitation here? It's to begin to ask how you can include your body, heart and mind in the creation of your life, while consulting your higher self and other guides that you may or may not yet be aware of. The more all of you is included, the easier it will be to ask for and receive what nourishes you and benefits others. When you are nourished and abundant, you're in a better space to gift and offer. Allow yourself to gift and receive, and to value gifting and receiving. Take the time to ask yourself what you most want and desire. Often the desires and wants will be about gifting and receiving. Both can be equally nourishing and nurturing. What can you now choose to nurture and nourish yourself with? I've included a link to listen to the recording of a meditation I offered online that can assist you to get more in touch with your body and the earth so that there is the space to gift and receive in a new way.

Christine assists people to live creatively. She offers one on one sessions, group meditations and group classes that invite people into this moment of NOW, the moment of choice, the moment where the learned rules of the game don't apply. She facilitates people being able to see and know what's really going on and brings the light of awareness to the patterns, templates and beliefs that are driving behaviors. She invites people to wake up, laugh, live and love, offering the invitation to expand, explore, play and get curious about what is possible to be, do, have and create.

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