I recorded a short video, opening with the questions of: What is Strength? What is Weakness? The invitation is to get to perceive, see and know strength and weakness through the field and frequency of love and be liberated from defending for or against the polarity of strength vs weakness or strong vs weak. For more on this subject matter you can read my blogs: Beyond Strong or Weak and Living Beyond Polarity.
The extraction model is based on the notion of what you put in to something is what you'll get out of it. When this model is subject to a mind based in manipulation and control, there will be attempted modifications such as seeing how much one can get out of something, without the need to put much into it. This can translate into financial transactions whereby one would see how little they could pay in exchange for something of great value. This can play into realities of accumulation and exploitation, such as focusing on acquiring as much as possible, with little work or effort, or seeing how much you can extract out of someone or something with little input at all. Many of us have been on the receiving end of this style of relating and have experienced the pain of it. It can lead to feel used, objectified, hurt and resentful. Before we become aware of new choices many of us end up living in resistance to this dynamic, essentially making the decision to not be like that which we were hurt by. This can lead to claiming that we don't want or need anything, or to offering things for free so as to not engage in the scenario of someone seeing how much they could get out of us based on what they pay or offer. Another thing we may do, is the opposite of whatever "they" did. So we may put in tremendous work or effort into something and not want or accept anything in return. There may be a subconscious desire to prove that we are nothing like that which we were manipulated or controlled by.
At some point the resistance to that reality becomes painful in and of itself and it's time to create true resolution. This comes through seeing and acknowledging what happened, perceiving and feeling the pain of it and expressing the desire to know and live what's beyond it. Becoming aware of new choices is when we recognize that we don't have to live on either side of the coin or in resistance to the coin itself. We can bring the field and frequency of love to this, which has the capacity to integrate opposites and reveal new possibilities. Essentially we can evolve the approach. Inherent in strategies involving manipulation and control is fear and separation. So as we bring the presence and attention of love to a polarized reality, the fear and separation underpinning the strategies dissolves. This provides the space for the strategies to reflect love and thus beget more love. This may lead to potentials like: what we offer is reflected back to us, or that which is gifted is received, or that which is available is circulated to benefit all involved. May we each come to know what is beyond the extraction model and heal and resolve any pain, hurt, and constriction that was endured when we were imprisoned inside of the confines of that experience. If anyone reading this is aware of parts of themselves locked into patterns of resistance I'd be happy to assist you to become aware of what that is about and create resolution, so that new possibilities can become known to you. To explore more related to this subject matter you can read my blogs, Beyond Use & Need and Beyond Fear-Based Creation.
What can we each be and do to contribute to the creation of a world born of love, safety, support and integrity? So much is "up" in the personal, collective and planetary fields to bear witness to, as a reflection of the world we once inhabited that was based on fear and separation, orchestrated through strategies of domination, manipulation and control and founded upon the promise of rewards and success and the threat of punishment and failure. We have outgrown this world and are here to facilitate the transition or birth of a new one. It is already here, alive in each of us. May it be reflected in the collective and global fields of reality more and more as "time" goes on. Blessing the unfolding. Here is a brief video I recorded on the topic of restoring our integrity.
In polarity, or environments based in fear and separation, the set up is to strive to have a positive impact and be a positive influence and not have a negative impact or be a negative influence. If you are deemed to be a negative influence you are shamed, criticized, diminished or punished in some way. If you are deemed to be a positive influence or to have positively impacted someone's life you are rewarded, praised, exalted, or appreciated. This could be a straight forward thing if the assessments of what was positive and negative were consistent. What can lead to confusion is that the assessments are based on beliefs, family, cultural and societal influences.
Many of us carry the pain of being accused of being a negative influence in a situation when we felt like we were doing the right thing or being good. As a result, we carry imprints of shame and learned to doubt or dis-trust ourselves or others. This confusion can lead to a shutting down or avoidance of any situation that resembles the ones that caused us pain. One strategy of avoidance can be not wanting to have an influence or an impact at all. Another strategy would be to adopt control-based measures, so as to prevent us from being associated with anything negative. This could also lead to criticizing or condemning anyone else who is deemed to be a negative influence. However you are prompted to look at, think about, speak about or treat others, is how you were once treated.
So, once we become aware of the predicament we've been in what can we do? The main thing, is to acknowledge the way fear based environments are structured, see what has gone on, feel the residue of having lived in that scenario, and step into this field and frequency of love that is available now. We can create or live in a love-based field. To explore some potentials of what that is like, you can read my blogs Love Based Creation and Establishing Love Based Relationships. In the same light, we can come to know what it is like to be a love-based influence and have a love-based impact. It's an exploration that we can each initiate and dive into as we become aware that it is possible to do so. Imagine showing up to think, speak and act free of control-based motives. Feel into the liberation of not having to track, monitor or control what's happening and instead trust in the unfolding of life. Our actions can be initiated from this space of love and trust. I wonder what impact and influence we can have as we embody the truth of this. If you would like to dive in to this subject matter as it applies specifically to you in your life, you're welcome to join in for my online class called Influence & Immunity, which is being held tomorrow night (April 21st) from 6-7:30pm MDT. You can visit the resources page to learn more.
In moments of stress or intensity there can be a tendency for our attention to become fixed or exclusive. The other thing that can happen is that our attention is drawn to what is positive or what is negative. We may also be prompted to pay attention to the biggest threat, or to that which is the makes us feel the most safe or secure. Various forces may vie for our attention. The invitation today is to ask the question: In times of stress or uncertainty what do I give the most attention to? What do I give the least attention to? I have a few blogs that dive into this subject matter. The first is called, Liberating Your Attention. As our attention is liberated it becomes more possible to develop "inclusive" attention, which means we are free of the necessity to control and our attention is fluid, available and progressively more and more informed by love. Another blog that expands on this possibility is called Love Based Attention. I wonder how much more mentally and emotionally free we can be to meet life here and now and offer who we are to whatever conditions or circumstances we find ourselves in.
In moments like this when we rely solely on mental models to govern our perception, it can lead us to feeling trapped, stuck, frustrated and defeated. I recorded a video today that talks about five different mental models and what you can do if you have got caught living inside of one or more of them. These mental models can be helpful or useful to implement in certain situations when deemed appropriate and relevant, yet if we end up living inside of them it cuts us off from other modes of perception that can guide action. The five mental models are: 1) The problem-solution model, 2) The broken-fixing model, 3) The wounded-healing model, 4) The wrong in need of correction or making it right model and 5) The question-answer model. I welcome you to see if you're stuck inside of any of these and if so this video may help you to have a new choice, thus opening the door to different modes of perception, including your heart field and your body's wisdom!
The field of Love contains everything that is life and death. Becoming love essentially means that we become capable of meeting this field of polarity in a new way. I recorded this brief video today to present the energetics of the field of love and to introduce the potential of meeting the fear of death within us from this spacious presence. In a sense, the fear will always be there, as it is a part of the human condition, yet it can be integrated by the total Self and no longer "cause" us to implement fear-based strategies of domination/submission, manipulation and control. We instead get to approach life and death in a new way, informed by our innate intelligence as a living Being and choose what truly enriches life and embraces death, igniting the possibility of true freedom from within.
The field of love contains the totality of what is life and death, pleasure and pain and joy and sadness. Our bodies, hearts and minds can be held, nourished, cared for and supported by this field of love. Suffering occurs when we are cut off from love and enter into a field of fear and separation. In this field life becomes positioned in opposition to death. Pain is set up as being a threat to pleasure, and sadness a threat to joy. One becomes the enemy to avoid, protect against, push away, reject and deny. We try to prevent death, pain and sadness and cling to life, pleasure and joy. Or, in modern day humanity we're conditioned to be on the side of life, pain and sadness and trained to keep away death, pleasure and joy. Pleasure, joy and death is a threat to what's considered to be most real, which is life, sadness and pain. It's okay to want or hope for pleasure and joy, but not to have it.
Here and now we have the choice to become reacquainted with the field of love. We can acknowledge that pleasure is not opposed to pain, life is not opposed to death and joy is not opposed to sadness. As this separation and polarization is un-done and clear seeing returns, we can become that which includes all of it. As our hearts, bodies and minds are liberated from suffering we become capable of embracing what we've been conditioned to not embrace, which is joy, pleasure and death. Death is as important to the well-being of our bodies as life. Every day cells die and new cells are made. The cells of our immune system engulf those cells that pose harm to the well-being of the body. The death of beliefs that cause harm to self or others can enrich life, and liberate our minds so we're no longer tortured and tormented by self-hate. In the field of love, pleasure is not objectified, it is fully embraced, seen, felt, sensed and known. In this field of love, Joy has the space and freedom to circulate, nourish, and bless all that is. As we are resourced, we can also accommodate for the reality of pain and sadness. It is not excluded or denied, just as pleasure and joy are not excluded or denied.
I welcome you to acknowledge the field and frequency of love, that contains the totality of what is. As the totality is contained within the embrace of the Self, fear and separation can be seen for what it is. It is a part of the human condition. It is here to be met within us and within the world. As it's met within us from this field and frequency of love it may spontaneously shift, change, transform, dissolve, or show up differently. A few days ago I re-posted a meditation I recorded over a year ago called, Meeting Fear from Love. It's quite stunning if you'd like to listen to it. I'll add it to the bottom of this blog. Here and now we can deepen our capacity to meet life, death, joy, sadness, pleasure and pain from Love. All can be met, seen, felt and included. And as the spaciousness of Being is known, joy and pleasure can be chosen, as a source of learning and growth. Just as sadness and pain is a source of learning and growth. As our perception of this field of love is strengthened, love can truly become the teacher, in and through all polarity. Is now the time?
Today I chose to pull out this video excerpt from a class I delivered last year on pleasure beyond polarity. Essentially, knowing pleasure in the field and frequency of love, rather than in a condition of fear where it is tied to rewards or diminished in its ability to be truly transformative. This video is a great overview, synthesis and foundation for work I'll be sharing soon! If you would like to purchase the audio of the full class for $15 CAN you can do so through paypal (www.paypal.me/cyole/15). In the notes just mention "pleasure beyond polarity" and the email address you'd like me to send it to.
Last year I developed a model to describe the environment of fear based learning compared to that of love based learning and articulated how many of us are ready to graduate from fear based learning, and learn lessons in the field and frequency of love. For the background on this you can read my blog: Is it Time to Graduate from Fear Based Learning? As a quick summary here, fear based learning is based on the model of punishment and reward. The common source of motivation is to move away from pain and punishment and towards pleasure and rewards. Embedded in this model are assessments of good vs bad, right vs wrong, good enough vs not good enough, worthy vs not worthy, deserving vs not deserving and notions of working hard enough to earn the rewards, and avoid the punishments. Pleasure is poised as a hoped for reward if enough of the conditions are met.
With pleasure as a reward it implies that you've done something good or right in order to be earn it, be worthy of it, deserve it or be good enough for it. If you asses that you haven't met these conditions you will consciously or subconsciously reject it. If it comes to you, through various forms, and you believe that you haven't "done enough" it may lead you to fear that you'll have to pay, or that you'll have to do something right or good in the future, which can lead to the notion that it's just not worth it. This imprinting or understanding of how things work can lead people to keep pleasure at bay or even fear it's arrival. In other words, if life starts getting "too good" something has to happen to "bring you back to reality." What if right now as your reading this you can spontaneously lay down this model and choose with your free will to learn the lessons of love?
Both pleasure and pain can be felt, sensed, known and experienced in a new context. In the wider context of love based learning, you can start where you are, lifting out the burden of inherited impressions of how life is and get to experience it directly, spontaneously and first hand. You can become curious about when and how joy and pleasure show up in your life. You can initiate a new dance with life that invites playfulness, lightness, and fun. Both pleasure and pain can be teachers and so can the responses that arise within you to these experiences. I welcome you into this field and frequency of love! Thank you for reading this. Stay tuned for new content that illuminates, invites and encourages love to awaken in pleasure and pain and transform itself into total joy!
Christine helps people to navigate transitions with love and wisdom. offering presence and care she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on in life. With all of the different tools, methods and wisdom she has access to, she inspires, encourages and makes it possible for people to really love and honor themselves, and thus be more able to love and honor others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!