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Change Born of Control or Love?

6/2/2019

How do you know whether a change or action is born of control or love? Something that is born of control will have a positive or negative agenda alongside it. There will be a reason for the change, or a defined need for it. There will be a why, that is justified based on experience. It will feel hard and it will take effort to enact, usually quite a bit of manipulation or strategic maneuvering to get things moving. But yet, it will be deemed worth it, as the foreseen outcome or result is an improved, better or more desired state or condition than before. Something born of love, although pregnant with choice, doesn't feel like it. There is just this knowing that something new or different is ready to unfold. There is an exploration to be engaged, or met with curiosity and wonder. Although a reason for a change could be invented or established, in the truest sense, there isn't one. Yet inherent in the action is an innate intelligence or spontaneous wisdom that includes and considers what has gone before it and has a sense of what is to come.

For many, we have not truly known love in this world as of yet. We may have seen or felt expressions of it, or tasted moments of it, or caught glimpses of it, enough to yearn for it. As we breath and meet this yearning, perhaps now is the time when we will know love. This frequency, or quality, or sense of spaciousness or softness can move through our hearts, and bodies and minds and begin to change everything, spontaneously resolving that which was deemed impossible to modify or adjust or fix or improve with agenda. Our innocence is unmoved by agendas. It stares at them and wonders if the day will come when we will set them aside.

To participate in the realm of control and fear we put things in place and found a way to respond to agendas and adopt good reasons, well thought out justifications and appropriate directions. Now many of us are ready to give these up, surrendering the deep fatigue that sits on top of our innocence...that waits, for us, until we are truly ready to reclaim it. Then love can have its way, and move through the totality of the Self once again, with a smile. May we come to know this love and laugh as we surrender our failed attempts at control. We did so well pretending we knew what we were doing, when we knew deep down that something....everything, was missing. Now everything is here, to meet us beyond the realm of control where we can know love and taste freedom. It is not better, or right or good, just... different.

Liberating Your Attention

5/31/2019

In environments born of fear and separation there is a lot of competition for our attention. People, places and things vie for our attention, or we vie for theirs. There is a lot of judgment about what we should and shouldn't give our attention to. If we focus to much on the "wrong things" there will be negative consequences. If we focus enough on the "right things" we have a greater chance of succeeding. The challenge in this paradigm is what are deemed as the right things or the wrong things depends on who you are talking to. Thus we are often left confused, seeking answers to no avail. Some people seem to have the answers and are succeeding and doing well, and for a while we can invest in the hope that their secrets, solutions, means and methods will offer us the same success. However, as we know, this rarely if ever works. Usually we are left feeling even more confused and wrong for not being able to figure it out, get it right or follow the steps properly.

So, how do we liberate our attention? What is beyond this competition and seeking the answers in attempt to duplicate some else's success? Here we are, we are here. As I've been speaking lots about, many of us are ready to graduate from fear based learning and instead of learning life's lessons in a vibration or environment of fear and separation, we can instead learn life's lessons in a love based classroom, in the space or energetic frequency of love. What is different about this is for you to uncover. There are no set ways that it will be. The very essence of it is about you meeting the frequency of love, getting to know you in this new environment and becoming aware of how it is different and how you best learn. In regards to your attention, there is the possibility of truly having the choice of where you offer it. Rather than it being fixed, it may become more fluid and available to meet life moment by moment and receive information consistently. Rather than it being controlled by someone else, or you having to "focus" and control it, you may discover a sense of freedom or capacity to direct it based on your knowing, intuition or inner sense of what's best. You can find what you're looking for, receive what you require and offer the presence and gift of you to that which is requesting it. You can re-claim the energy or life force that was fixed alongside your attention, thus having it available to energize you in your life now.

I welcome you into this classroom of love based learning, to learn the lessons of life in a new way, more conducive to how you best learn and more catered to what you truly desire to know and explore. What can be discovered as your attention has been re-claimed by you, and thus re-claimed by love? Next Wednesday, June 5th, I'm having my online class exploring this topic in more depth. You're welcome to join in for that. You can go to my resources page to read the class description and sign up. If you're interested in this particular topic you may also enjoy reading the blog I wrote called Love Based Attention. May we all find our way to the frequency of love, liberating our attention so that we are available to know ourselves, know each other and explore what is here for us to be and do and contribute to in the world.

The Approach of the Teacher

5/27/2019

One way to detect the difference between fear based learning and love based learning is to observe the approach of the teacher. In love based learning you choose the teacher, in fear based learning the teacher chooses you. In the classroom based in love, you are supported to become aware of who you are, how you learn best, and what it is you truly desire to explore. In the classroom born of fear and separation the teacher is often the one to decide what you need to learn. Because they are more knowledgeable or can observe you, they can detect what they feel you need and will tell you what you need or what you lack or what you should work on. In love based learning, the teacher knows that they are always learning alongside the student. In order to accurately assess what one needs, you must listen, ask them where they're at and what they think or sense they need to work on or where they feel stuck, or confused, or desiring some clarity or support or insight with. It then becomes a collaborative meeting, in support of learning and the refinement of the teaching process, always tuned into the student and making adjustments to better suit the true need.

In life, at this time, given that both classrooms are available to learn in, it is important to develop the capacity as the student to assess what classroom the teacher is committed to. And it's also for you to know what approach works best for you. If someone comes into your life and lets you know they have something to teach you or that there is something that you need to learn, that is an indicator that they are functioning as a fear based teacher. As mentioned earlier, the way to teach from this approach is to name where someone is and state what they need to work on. The student then is prompted to get to work by the activation of motivation to be better, correct behavior and be seen as good and as improving in the eyes of the teacher. The power and control is in the hands of the teacher based on them having established that the student needs them, and would potentially be lost and confused and left behind if they didn't have them. If this teaching style works, you as a student will feel special to be chosen, and will want to do whatever you can to get closer to the teacher and learn as much as you can from them. Feeling bad about yourself and like your missing the mark and that you can't do it without them will be common place when you're around them. However, this is the "sign" that they have a lot to teach you, and as long as you are committed enough to them and to taking in what they are offering you will deserve or be worthy of their attention and focus.

When we are ready to graduate from fear based learning, the teacher's fear-based approach will start to feel off. You know you're not learning and can't learn in that way. Instead of being motivated you sink into greater indifference, shame and confusion, concluding that you can't do it. Once you become aware of the love based classroom, step into it, and acclimate to the frequency you'll begin to see more clearly why it felt so off. When you sense the teachers in this new space and are near them, you'll feel relaxed, emotionally safe and free to approach them and look at where you are together. You'll become aware that what you're here to learn is not set in stone, or predetermined, but rather discovered by you as you wake up to this frequency of love that helps you to re-acquaint with your true needs and desires and preferences. As you feel more relaxed it's easier to observe where you're at and sense what feels most generative to explore. Your way is to be established through direct participation, inquiry and the growing sense of trust, love and innocence that becomes available as you spend more time in an emotionally safe environment. May we all find our way to our version of this. It doesn't even have to be defined as a classroom. It can also be named as a space of possibility where they're is truly room to expand, explore and discover who you are, what is here and what life is all about. So, may you choose your teachers, from love, as a gift to you and to all.

Liberating Your Gifts

5/24/2019

Many of us have gifts that we developed in times of necessity. Perhaps even our very survival was at stake. Many of us became empathetic so we could feel what was going on emotionally for others so we could make sure to stay away when they became explosive or aggressive. Others of us developing healing capacities because we hoped that if we could heal the people around us they would treat us better. Some of us became telepathic so we could read the thoughts of someone who refused to speak truthfully and honestly. Some of us learned to make ourselves invisible and go unnoticed in group situations so that we wouldn't be a target for those who felt threatened by people who were more talented and capable than they were. Some of us learned how to take the brunt of abuse and put ourselves in front of the perpetrators, to hopefully prevent others from becoming victims. It goes on and on. They key thing to tune into is: under what life circumstances did you develop your greatest gifts, and currently, do you love and appreciate them?

For many of us, we don't 100% love our gifts, primarily because we didn't develop them in a space of love and joy for the Self, as a celebration of life, beauty, the profound nature of consciousness and the majesty of the universe. However, that doesn't mean we can't change that. What if right now, we can initiate the liberation of our gifts? What if right now we can invite them to be free of fear and separation, domination, manipulation and control and blame, shame and guilt? What if right now, we can imbue our gifts with the frequency love and know them in a new way? What if we can have a new relationship with our gifts? In this moment of now, we can offer our gifts to LOVE itself, to be re-claimed by Being, and available to us to share them happily, freely and joyfully. Our talents and abilities can be purified by the light of the One, by the presence of the Universe, and by Source Consciousness itself, so that we can easily love and embrace them and include them in our expression of Self here and now. I wonder what can unfold as this possibility becomes available for each of us who have had a negative, or mixed relationship with what we're capable of. Next week, on May 29th I'll be exploring this subject matter during my online class. Visit my resources page to learn more.

Beyond Use & Need

5/7/2019

One of the carryovers from fear based learning and love based in punishment and reward is that we learned to make assessments. We bought into the idea that love had something to do with being worthy, deserving or good enough. That was the most commonly given explanation for why you were lacking, in need or cut off from resources, you were not "that" and thus you had to adopt strategies to attempt to be that. The teachers of fear based learning are shame, blame and guilt. How you know that you're doing things right and are good is if they don't have to do anything. If you are doing things wrong or are bad they will let you know. And, you are the culprit for why you are not good enough, worthy or deserving, so you are the one who has to do something about it. Someone else may induced those views by their poor treatment, but somehow that was your fault too. Fortunately we're coming into a time where this insanity can end, when shame, blame and guilt are no longer our teachers. As they are no longer the authority figures in our lives, we can be free of having to filter our experiences through their lenses. We can know love now and initiate our very being and life into this field or classroom of love based learning.

As we acclimate to this new field of love, we can progressively initiate and have our relationships in this space. Our relationships can be free of fear based learning too, and we can truly learn the ways of love with one another, moment by moment, in this living, dynamic atmosphere of being. A few years ago I wrote a blog called Transforming Patterns in Relationships, which I invite you to read to enrich this current exploration. What I wanted to bring forward today, to illuminate and invite love to facilitate the transformation of, is the dynamic of use and need based relationships. I introduced this dynamic in Establishing Love Based Relationships. Today I sense that the next level of healing is available. As a review, one thing we adopted as a way to assess the value of a relationship was to determine whether we had a use for someone (how they could benefit us) and whether we had a need for them (how they improved our lives in some way). In this field of love it's easy to see that these assessments were done in the field of separation, in the field of objects, where we were all separate objects that could hopefully find a good reason to interact and extract something of value from each other.

As we re-unite with our hearts and bring our heart, body and mind into the field of love, we can be free of these mental assessments done in the field of fear and separation. We have something else to guide our interactions, inspire our relationships, and support our coming together and our parting ways, or the natural beginnings and endings that are a part of the unfolding of life. So, I invite each of us to take a look at where use and need dictated whether we maintained or discarded relationships, whether we were deriving sufficient value from them to justify the effort of maintaining them, or whether they weren't worth our effort or time or attention and thus were deemed to be deserving of being ended or terminated. And I invite you to notice this use of language and the feelings that it stirs up in you. As love is known we can acknowledge the deep pain of being treated as an object that would be discarded by another if we didn't offer sufficient value, or if someone couldn't find a use for us, or if someone didn't need or want us. We would be left behind, dismissed, disregarded, abandoned and rejected. And of course to the degree that we allowed use and need to be our masters, dictators or trusted advisers, we did the same to others.

I invite us all to take a deep breath, invite the frequency of love to permeate through our hearts, bodies and minds and re-set the field of relationships, as the awareness of where we once were bound is offered so that we may be free. We can invite this field of love and the spaciousness of being to soften the edges, heal the wounds, and transmute the deep pain of previous assessments we used to determine our worth, value, and sense of deserving or being good enough in the context of relationships. As love dawns, we can see clearly that those are all manufactured assessments allowing manipulation, domination and control to have its way in the field of separation and fear with shame, blame and guilt as the rulers. We are here, here we are, initiating the ways of love, knowing ourselves anew in this different space. May we see from love, where use and need dictated our choices and receive the healing of the pain of that, so that what is available now can be known and integrated, blessing our relationships with beauty, freshness, reverence and peace.

Pleasure Beyond Polarity

5/3/2019

For many, they've only known pleasure as it exists on the pleasure pain continuum, in the fear based reality, where pleasure is associated with reward and pain with punishment. In the fear based reality there is benefit to withhold pleasure, or keep it at bay, in order to have something to move towards or hope for or dream of, once the work is done, once you've made it to your destination and only when you're successful. Then you're deemed worthy of it, you deserve it and you're good enough to have some pleasure. Not too much though, or else you may lose your motivation to keep going and continue to strive for more, better and greater. The yearning for pleasure and the desire to avoid pain are usually the strongest motivators to maintain action and stay focused on what needs to be done to sustain life and survive.

In recent months I've been discussing graduating from fear based learning and being initiated into love based learning, or love based creation, where love just is. It's not a reward, nor can it be withheld. Action arises from the frequency of love, rather than in the hopes of getting it. The whole system of motivation changes, once your acclimated to this new space. For more on that you can read the blog Love Based Motivation. Attention is also freed up, as I discussed in the last blog on Love Based Attention. Eventually, every aspect of our being, every element of life and living is returned to this love and a new beginning is initiated. So, this blog represents the initiation of freeing pleasure and pain from punishment and reward and all meanings, understandings, reasons and justifications for the presence or the absence of pain and pleasure that was born of fear.

Now we can know pleasure and pain in the context of love, from the space of the love based classroom, or love based creation. And the one to play with here, that will be explored in my online class next week in more depth is pleasure beyond polarity. What becomes possible and available when pleasure is freed from fear based confinement? What I know is that energies of pleasure are wild! That which ignites the heart, invigorates the nervous system, calms the body and relaxes the mind can arise spontaneously, for no reason and have it's way! If anything this pleasure likes to defy all rules, bounds, reasons and justifications for being. It just appears, and is just available, with this innocent, wild smile. It offers spaciousness, support with breath, and waves of softening of any tension or holding patterns. It knows no bounds and just gifts, for no reason, helping to free us from all mental understanding generated from the torment of conditional acceptance. It helps to free us from the burden of trying to understand why we were loved sometimes and not other times, why how we were wasn't okay, why we always had to modify ourselves or control ourselves or adopt postures that implied we knew what was going on or had it all together.

We are here, here we are. Beginning to know ourselves in this atmosphere of love, free of the confines of punishment and reward. Knowing what being truly nurtured is. Knowing what kindness, caring, gentleness and presence of being is. Free of concept. Free of confusion. Here we are. We are here. May we come to know pleasure beyond polarity when and as we do and celebrate its arrival with total embrace and deep appreciation, as a natural response to it's profound, luscious beauty and wonder! If you would like to join in for the online class on Wednesday May 8th you can go to the resources page to get the information.

Love Based Attention

4/30/2019

Imagine what it would be like to have love at the base of your attention? Essentially, what would be steering, guiding, directing and moving your attention is love itself, you as a being of love. This shift may be readily available for us, or it may seem to be a ways away. Either way, I invite this moment to be one of pondering the possibility of having love at the base of your attention. Breathe into that.

Now let's talk a moment to acknowledge where we've been, and what we're graduating from. As I've been exploring for a few months now, many of us are graduating from fear based learning. We acknowledge that we're not designed to be motivated by the promise of rewards or the threat of punishments, and the exhaustion and anger at not being able to figure it out or do it right, whatever it is, has taken hold, as an indicator that we've outgrown that approach to learning.

One of the things that comes with the territory is that fear is at the base of our attention, and manipulation and control are the strategies used to determine where our attention goes and how long it stays there. Often for many of us our attention gets fixed in certain positions or directions or in certain moments in time. As your reading this now I invite you to get curious about what it would be like to free up your attention from anywhere it has been fixed, controlled, dominated or manipulated. In the land of punishment and reward, attention was often made to be quite the commodity. We were told to "pay" attention and there was always a threat of something negative, painful or undesired being issued if we didn't. The better we were able to control or fix our attention in the way we learned was best, the more safe we were. If we put too much attention on the wrong things we would get in trouble. If we put enough attention on the right things we got a pat on the back or approval or positive attention from others. Often, someone's else's giving or withdrawal of attention was a reward or punishment in and of itself!

So, here we are, at the brink of change. Where life is supporting and inviting many of us to acknowledge that love is available for us, as a frequency, as a field, as a space that we can more and more acclimate to, live in and know ourselves as. In regards to attention, we can be assisted to surrender the ties that bind, in other words, the people, places or things that our attention has been fixed on out of fear. We can be mentally and emotionally liberated from having to sustain our focus on whatever we were told we had to pay attention to, or else. We can begin to let love steer our attention, sweetly, kindly, gently, beautifully. Our attention can become available to flow, and dance, and include that which is here for us to be with. I wonder how much this can change the way our energy moves in the world, and what we notice, and what we perceive and receive as contributions to the joy of being. Here we are. We are here and now we welcome and initiate love based attention so that we may truly find our flow. Tomorrow evening, May 1st, from 6-7:30pm MDT I'm having my online class exploring the topic of Finding Your Flow. You can go to the resources page to find out more.

Beyond Fear Based Creation

4/23/2019

In recent months, through blogs and classes, I've been exploring Love Based Learning and how it differs from Fear Based Learning. In the online class tomorrow the subject is Love Based Creation and what's available now to assist us to graduate from Fear Based Creation, which involves the use of the mind and emotions to manipulate or control life events to produce better or more personally favorable outcomes. It often involves things like implanting thoughts, or new beliefs, and then feeling into that, with the hope that the better feeling state will result in life circumstances that match that state. Essentially it's the land of self-modification and tinkering, as though we're machines or computers or systems that can be adjusted according to formulas and equations such as different input = different output, installing the right way to think, calling up the right feelings, so that life will go your way and you'll get what you want more of the time. When it takes on a more spiritual framework, the universe becomes this thing that you can get to work for you to bring you what you want, if you ask, and if you're open to receive. So we then jump into the land of deciding what to ask and how to ask it correctly, and whether it's better to be general or specific, and then how to get into receiving mode, or make yourself be more open or available for the universe to be able to find you and give you what you want.

At some point we get tired of fear based creation, where separation prevails, and we have to stay on top of maintaining our identity as the "subject" trying to get life to co-operate or attempting to change how we are by bettering our-self, healing, modifying our-self and becoming this perfected thing that hopefully can adopt the right stance or perspective to have things work out. It's also full of so-that's. So even the adjustments that we attempt to make that are seemingly loving, still have agenda's based in manipulation and control. Doing one thing so that what we need or want will hopefully happen for us.

As we acknowledge what has been, take a moment to breathe and be present with the exhaustion, the confusion and the let-down at trying so many things and still not having life work with us, or desired circumstances unfolding. In this willingness for a new way to present, let's see what can now be known about Love Based Creation and what elements within the atmosphere of love can be named or perceived. What can we now know? May life show each of us, in our own unique way, to invite us in to this field of love where we can initiate creation in a new way. If you would like mentor-ship or coaching, I do offer one on one sessions. You can visit my session page to learn more. May we all be loved, nurtured, resourced and supported to thrive.

Love Based Creation

4/18/2019

A few months ago I posted the blog: Is it time to graduate from fear based learning? Which you can take a look at to provide more context for what I'll be exploring here. Essentially, alongside fear based learning are tools and strategies that we've been given to "create our lives" or have more of what we desire in life and be free from undesired life circumstances. As is typical of fear based environments, those tools and strategies are based in manipulation and control. Even something as seemingly benign as someone saying to "love yourself", it's still has the air of control to it because the reason to love yourself is so that you can have more of what you want and less of what you don't want.

Everything in the fear based environment is essentially a mental or emotionally based strategy that you employ so that you can have the rewards (what you want) and avoid the punishments (what you don't want). What comes alongside this is often statements with little or no true guidance, mentoring or offering of a process to support the building of what someone says you need. So someone may say "you just need to be positive," with no acknowledgment or genuine assessment of where you are and what your history is in terms of the trajectory of your mental and emotional development and the capacities you've developed to manage the environments you've lived in. Or someone will say "just be in the now" or "just be grateful" or "you need to be more present", with no acknowledgment of what it actually takes to develop that, and how much you have to examine and address the foundation of your very existence to be able to do that, which is no small matter!

So, where do we go from here? What is beyond fear based creation? I invite you to read the words Love Based Creation and see what comes to mind. What do you notice, what do you feel? We can't expect ourselves to know how to do this, or even be able to accurately perceive what it is. That is another carryover from fear based learning, that if you just expect yourself to be able to do something and put enough pressure on yourself rise to meet it. For many of us, that rarely worked. Or we achieved the result, but were tense, stressed, emotionally shut down and mentally fixated in the process. So, again we just breathe, show up as we are and tune into the words Love Based Creation.

From this new platform, or base, we can acknowledge what we have in our lives now and explore what we'd like to add or include. We can progressively unravel the "so that" formulas and associations, and gain the capacity to notice what authentically arises in us as preferences, desires or curiosities. And we can initiate true explorations for the sake of the exploration itself. So if it does arise that "I would like to love myself more" it's no longer attached to the so that (insert rewards here), it's just because you know that loving, caring for, attending to yourself more deeply is possible and so you initiate that. If the desire arises "I would like to have more money" then you can go about exploring what you can add to your life to have more money. If it's "I would like to know what I love to do and do it" you can initiate an exploration of finding out what you love to do and acting from the awareness that comes about. Essentially, we can be free of everything someone else told us, promised us or taught us to fear or turn away from, so that there is space to truly discern where you are and what your sense is, and more uniquely find your way and create your life, progressively more inclusive of your heart, body and mind. Next week (on April 24th) I'm having an online class to dive into this subject matter. You can go to the Classes with Christine page on Facebook and find the event, or go to the resources page and get the information there. I wonder what we can now know about Love Based Creation, and how easily, dynamically and joyfully it can come alive through each of our lives.

Beyond Mental & Emotional Manipulation

4/5/2019

In certain environments we may be around people who say, why can't you just be happy? Cheer up. You're okay. Everything's fine. In other words, how we're feeling is not okay. Our authentic response to the environment we're in is somehow wrong, or inconvenient to others. In that moment, if we don't sense the environment changing anytime soon, we yearn for a way to feel better about it. At some point the solution is given. Someone comes along and says, guess what, you can change the way you think and feel about the environment you're in! All you need to do is think different thoughts and then you will have a different feeling response. So basically, nothing needs to authentically change, you just get to think and feel different about it all and thus feel better no matter what! We hear that, and think, yes, what a great idea! I get to take control of how I think and feel and as a result I will get better feedback from the people around me who want me to feel happy and good and satisfied. So, we employ the strategy. Perhaps repeating thoughts like, "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be." And lo and behold, we feel better. That is a "good feeling" thought. And on we go, getting better and better at using thoughts to manipulate our feeling body and we feel good about ourselves because we're really making progress.

At some point as we're moving along feeling better no matter what, we get or are given by someone else the brilliant idea of extending this "practice" outwards. Rather than just employing it to manipulate and control how we think and feel, perhaps we can influence the people around us and make them think and feel better too. How ingenious! How clever we've become. So, we get to work, starting to offer other people these thoughts to implant into their "subconscious" mind so that they can feel different too. And oh, even better, once we do that enough we start to change and modify our behaviors so that we get different results in life. Now we've really gotten somewhere! Not only have we learned how to change how we think and feel regardless of what the environment is like, we now can influence our own and now others behaviors so that we are all making progress, taking control and making things better. On it goes, up the ladder, feeling good about our hard work, becoming more effective, getting the right thoughts in there and feeling good and proud, and then seeing some results. The control and manipulation is working, so we keep going. Employing the strategies more, and more and more.

At some point however, it may show up as a person in our life, or just from within our self, there is this anger, or backlash. Someone doesn't like being manipulated and controlled. It's stifling, un-kind, and even abusive. Even if it's so "positive" and "good" and "making things better." There's something inside us, or someone who shows up in front of us that goes: "go fuck yourself with all your bright ideas." And we're surprised. What is this anger? They, or something within me just doesn't get it! They are being negative, so lets find a way to get rid of them! If it's a person in your life it may be easier. If it's arising within you, then what? The response may be to double down, get stronger thoughts, to negate or be rid of this in-compliant response pattern.

The anger may subside, but then you may notice difficulty sleeping. Your mind just can't stop. Or you notice your body and there is all this tension. Or you notice that you're incapable of appreciating your environment or allowing yourself to feel sad when something occurs that is truly heartbreaking. Eventually there may be a pause. Something that wakes up in your body, a frequency, an intuition, the presence of a different energy that is essentially saying, take a breath, notice your body, pay attention to your breathing and observe the state of your mind. You hear the question: Is this where you want to be? And we allow the grief and sadness to well as the "no" emerges. Then perhaps there is a fear of not wanting to go back to what it was like before the positive manipulation strategy was introduced. You've gained so much by being able to control things and not be powerless over how you feel, you don't want to lose it all now. This voice of love that's beginning to wake up inside of you says "you won't". It's not like that. And so perhaps you begin to listen, and breathe, and get curious about how you authentically feel and whether this new frequency of love can help you change your life circumstances naturally and organically so that you're response to where you are is one of peace and calm, appreciation and acknowledgment of beauty.

As you breathe, and notice what's here, and what's arising, that perhaps wasn't available when you employed the strategy, you can ask for help from this loving field to surrender the strategies and go on a new adventure where you are loved, supported, honored and cared for every step of the way. For a different blog on this subject you're welcome to read Beyond Coping. And, if you would like assistance to shift from strategies of mental and emotional manipulation that you've outgrown, or if you're stuck in the fear of losing what you've gained please get in touch. There is another way that includes your heart, body and mind and is both directive and receptive in regards to life itself and it's not one that I can teach you, but as we are together you can remember it.

Christine helps people to truly look after themselves. With a lot of presence and care she can assist people to know what they need in order to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health. With all of the different tools, methods and wisdom she has access to, she inspires, encourages and makes it possible for people to really love and honor themselves, and thus be more able to love and honor others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner world a whole lot easier to navigate!

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