A few months ago I posted the blog: Is it time to graduate from fear based learning? Which you can take a look at to provide more context for what I'll be exploring here. Essentially, alongside fear based learning are tools and strategies that we've been given to "create our lives" or have more of what we desire in life and be free from undesired life circumstances. As is typical of fear based environments, those tools and strategies are based in manipulation and control. Even something as seemingly benign as someone saying to "love yourself", it's still has the air of control to it because the reason to love yourself is so that you can have more of what you want and less of what you don't want.
Everything in the fear based environment is essentially a mental or emotionally based strategy that you employ so that you can have the rewards (what you want) and avoid the punishments (what you don't want). What comes alongside this is often statements with little or no true guidance, mentoring or offering of a process to support the building of what someone says you need. So someone may say "you just need to be positive," with no acknowledgment or genuine assessment of where you are and what your history is in terms of the trajectory of your mental and emotional development and the capacities you've developed to manage the environments you've lived in. Or someone will say "just be in the now" or "just be grateful" or "you need to be more present", with no acknowledgment of what it actually takes to develop that, and how much you have to examine and address the foundation of your very existence to be able to do that, which is no small matter!
So, where do we go from here? What is beyond fear based creation? I invite you to read the words Love Based Creation and see what comes to mind. What do you notice, what do you feel? We can't expect ourselves to know how to do this, or even be able to accurately perceive what it is. That is another carryover from fear based learning, that if you just expect yourself to be able to do something and put enough pressure on yourself rise to meet it. For many of us, that rarely worked. Or we achieved the result, but were tense, stressed, emotionally shut down and mentally fixated in the process. So, again we just breathe, show up as we are and tune into the words Love Based Creation.
From this new platform, or base, we can acknowledge what we have in our lives now and explore what we'd like to add or include. We can progressively unravel the "so that" formulas and associations, and gain the capacity to notice what authentically arises in us as preferences, desires or curiosities. And we can initiate true explorations for the sake of the exploration itself. So if it does arise that "I would like to love myself more" it's no longer attached to the so that (insert rewards here), it's just because you know that loving, caring for, attending to yourself more deeply is possible and so you initiate that. If the desire arises "I would like to have more money" then you can go about exploring what you can add to your life to have more money. If it's "I would like to know what I love to do and do it" you can initiate an exploration of finding out what you love to do and acting from the awareness that comes about. Essentially, we can be free of everything someone else told us, promised us or taught us to fear or turn away from, so that there is space to truly discern where you are and what your sense is, and more uniquely find your way and create your life, progressively more inclusive of your heart, body and mind. Next week (on April 24th) I'm having an online class to dive into this subject matter. You can go to the Classes with Christine page on Facebook and find the event, or go to the resources page and get the information there. I wonder what we can now know about Love Based Creation, and how easily, dynamically and joyfully it can come alive through each of our lives.
Christine helps people to navigate transitions with love and wisdom. offering presence and care she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on in life. With all of the different tools, methods and wisdom she has access to, she inspires, encourages and makes it possible for people to really love and honor themselves, and thus be more able to love and honor others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!