If we spent time in environments where only what we did was valued, acknowledged or appreciated often there comes a time when our being or “who we are” comes out of the wood work and says, what about me? In other words, a part of us feels unseen, unacknowledged, unappreciated and excluded. If this sentiment is strong enough in someone a flip can occur, something along the lines of a claim that “It doesn’t matter what you do, it’s who you are that counts.” There’s this sense that doing or action doesn’t matter and the focus, attention, appreciation and acknowledgment goes to being, or to recognizing qualities of the self. In the short term this may feel good, like relief. Qualities in the person, the presence of the person or what is radiated from someone is finally seen and acknowledged. Eventually though, if doing has been excluded, devalued, depreciated, and made to not matter, there will be an uprising. It may show up as the thought, “I want to do something, participate, offer skills, make a difference, move something forward and contribute.” However, if doing has been diminished, even though the want is there, few opportunities or invitations will present themselves. Or the ones that present may be what you don’t want to do, or things that have little value, meaning or importance to you. Do you see how this works?
What often happens is that being and doing are positioned as though they are in a competition for attention and appreciation. Either what you do matters (winner) and who you are or your inner world doesn’t matter (loser), or who you are matters (winner) and what you do doesn’t matter (loser). Eventually, once we see this dynamic we can introduce the possibility that being AND doing can be included, valued, acknowledged, appreciated and given attention. Being can support action or what we do, and what we do can display who we are, or facilitate who we are being shared with others. Often after sessions with clients I write up some notes to review what we explored together. Here is an excerpt from the notes that speaks to a few other things regarding being and doing that I find relevant to include here:
“Inviting the progression towards acknowledging the value of being and doing: We've come from a society where doing, action, contributing to society and being a good person is valued and valuable, whereas from that perspective "not doing anything" or "just being" seems without value or purpose or meaning. As we question that societal perspective and have direct experiences of "Being"...the qualities of presence, breath, relaxation, having an expanded field of attention etc. we come to know how valuable it truly is, both to our own health and well-being and also to the quality of our relationships, and our outlook on life. It also helps us to see possibilities for what we can do, that we may otherwise not see. You can continue to contemplate the question of: How can being and doing come together? And see what insights arise.
As children we often don't get the mirroring of our states of being, where we're at, how we're doing, or what's going on for us in real time. Not having any attention on that gives us the impression that it doesn't matter, or isn't overly relevant. Once we see the assumptions we made based on that experience we can have a new choice, to include those things as relevant and important. We can thus make the choice to include giving attention to our states of being, where we're at, how we're doing and what's going on for us as well as what we're doing, the actions we're taking, the accomplishments of the day etc.”
So, where are you at regarding being and doing? Are they both valued, seen, acknowledged and appreciated? If not, you can note where you’re at, which is your starting point, and move in the direction of offering attention to both and seeing how they can come together. If you would like one-on-one support to address the dynamic you have going on regarding being and doing I’d be happy to help. Visit my session page or home page to get in touch and request a free 20 minute consultation.
Involution is a word that Richard Rudd uses in the book called the Gene Keys. It describes the process where the higher frequencies within your DNA are activated through the agency of Grace. Evolution is about the longing for love or light or that which is higher, and involution is the response to that, or the process whereby these higher frequencies descend or marry what is here. To quote directly from the book, "Just as there is an evolutionary force pushing upwards within all matter, so there is an involutionary force working its way down from the realms of spirit towards the material plane." Or another expression of this that he brings forward is: "Evolution represents the force within matter that always strives upwards towards spirit, as opposed to involution, its counter-force, which is the essence of spirit descending or embedding itself within the form."
Yesterday I recorded a Walking the Path episode with my friend Kristin and briefly, near the end, touched on the topic of involution. I wanted to name it in this blog as a reminder that other perspectives are available. When things get heavy or tough or dense or limited, and we've placed the responsibility on ourselves to find a way to raise our vibration, become more loving or evolve ourselves it can feel like a lot of work with not much environmental support to do so. This other perspective of inviting the currents of involution to touch your life, offer these higher frequencies and support you to transmute the shadows and embody your gifts can be a welcomed reprieve! When I work one-on-one with people, these frequencies often show up to ease the process of change, healing and personal growth. It is truly miraculous what's possible when we come together! If you would like to explore the possibility of doing session work together over the phone or Zoom please get in touch with me through my contact form at the bottom of the session page. And, if you'd like to watch the Walking the Path episode here it is:
Often pleasure and pain are seen on a continuum, as though when you are moving towards pain you are moving away from pleasure. Joy and sadness is treated similarly, in the sense that joy is on one side of the continuum and sadness on the other. What if it doesn't have to be this way? Joy and pleasure and the frequencies of being can actually support the body to transmute pain, grief, sadness and other internalized forms of suffering. Our bodies can access this bio-electric current, or energetic aliveness that is often suppressed when the mind is protecting our emotional nature from further wounding. Instead of the wounding being held in place by the mind, it can be met with healing energies and this Shakti or bio-electric current can come alive. Is it time? Is this something that interests you? If so, please get in touch through my session page. I recorded a brief video today to talk more about this phenomenon.
Many of us are ready to step beyond the world of either/or. We're no longer desiring to be one thing or another, or be stuck or caught in one role or another. I'm speaking specifically to potentials for friendships and intimate relationships. True reciprocity is about loving AND being loved, caring for AND being cared for, supporting AND being supported. As we step into this space, there is room for contribution to become known, which is about the simultaneity of gifting and receiving. This choice to be and receive supports the circulation of energy, the lightness of being, and the joy of interacting in the interpersonal field. How much more can we step into this space of true reciprocity now? I recorded a brief meditation as an invitation become more aware of this possibility and attuned to the presence of it. You're welcome to listen in.
What would be a healing experience for you? A few possibilities are: being able to be or do something for yourself that you were previously unable to be or do, being or doing something with someone that was previously unavailable or inaccessible, or being or doing something for someone or having something done for you that you haven't yet been able to offer or receive. In cultures that are more individualistic in nature there is often a lot of pressure or praise for what we can do by ourselves or for ourselves. Having help can be associated with failing or being incapable or being incompetent. This mindset would lead to a lot of emphasis on loving yourself, providing for yourself and being independent. Those things would be associated with success. Wounding would usually show up in the form of feeling not good enough, undeserving or unworthy of loving yourself, providing for yourself and being independent. In other words something is missing or something is wrong with you if you can't do that. For someone who carries values such as these, imagine how receptive he or she would be to having someone else provide for them and love them. Imagine how they would feel about being dependent on others.
In cultures that are more collectivist in nature it would be more about the group, belonging and fitting in, being helpful, sacrificing yourself for the well-being of the collective, not being selfish or self-centered, and making others proud by your accomplishments and achievements. The emphasis would be on thinking about others and doing things to benefit others or prove, show or demonstrate to them that you care more about them then yourself. Wounding may show up in the form of being shamed for not doing the right thing, or shunned if you don't comply, or being cast out if you don't share the values or beliefs of the group, or being accused of being selfish and not caring enough or doing enough for other people.
Did you grow up in an environment that was more individualistic or collectivist in nature? For many of us we grew up with influences from both, and for many of us our healing path is going beyond the either/or into the inclusion of elements that are in our best interest to include. In this case, it is about the individual AND the collective. It is about self-love AND loving and being loved by others. It's about providing certain things for ourselves, providing certain things for others and having certain things provided for us. It's about being dependent on certain people, places and things AND self-reliant, autonomous and independent in other respects. In terms of welcoming healing experiences, we can invite that which is in our best interests to have done for us, what's in our best interests to be or do for ourselves and what's in our best interests to do with or for other people.
Imagine what it would be like to step beyond individualistic or collectivist, beyond the individual or the collective. If we don't acknowledge these different influences on our values, beliefs, perspectives and approach, we may prevent ourselves from inviting and moving towards the healing experiences that would enrich, inspire and support us and others. Here are some questions that you can contemplate, that may help you to get in touch with potential healing experiences:
Now is time when many of us are being called to develop inclusive attention, which goes beyond the either/or. This allows us to attend to our best interests as a unique, autonomous individual AND as a part of the collective well-being. This ultimately allows us to build a life in and through the field and frequency of love. A few blogs that explore these subjects, that you can link to when you click on the titles are: Building Your Life, Inclusive Attention and Living Beyond Polarity. In my session work I offer healing experiences such as: having aspects of yourself witnessed that other people haven't been able to see, resolving inner confusion by giving voice to conflicting perspectives that live within you, offering presence and care to aspects of you that you or others have judged and rejected, helping you to get in touch with your authentic voice, your true needs, wants and desires and your gifts, talents and abilities that your heart wants to offer in the world and more. If you sense that our work together can benefit you and your life please get in touch through the session page.
Not only is it a time to evolve our communication in the outer world, it's a time to evolve our communication in the inner world. What if you could communicate easily with different parts of your body and different aspects of Self? I facilitated an online class last night. Here is a segment of the class description:
"In this class we'll acknowledge the parts of the body that make up the whole of the body, and the aspects of who we are that make up the totality of who we are...How much more ease can we now have in communication with parts of the body and aspects of the Self? How can this translate into the interpersonal field? How can this translate into our being with nature and the Earth? How can this translate into our knowing of the future and awareness of what we can choose and direct our presence and attention towards? How can this translate into us truly thriving and being prosperous?"
It was a fascinating journey to explore these pathways of communication. We can really enrich our inner life and witness it bridge, merge and unify with our outer life. We can get in touch with parts of the body that make up the whole of the body, and aspects of the Self that make up the totality of who we are. As this is initiated it can translate or show up in the interpersonal arena and in the field of interdependence with people, places, things, money, work and relationships. In some ways it's beyond what can be articulated in words.
The main thing is to awaken the curiosity and possibility of re-establishing wholeness and deepening our relationship with Life. Inner conflict or opposition can be resolved, confusion can become clarified and peace and calm can replace the complexity of not understanding what's playing out in our bodies or inner space, and how that relates to what's happening in our lives and in our perception of the world. If you would like someone to join you as you navigate your inner and outer life, your inner and outer world and uncover the mystery of how they come together, reflect one another and can work together as one please get in touch. My session work as of late has been dynamic as ever! I would love to share it with more people.
Given what's occurring on the planet now, our breath, touch and movement may be affected. There is this approach that is being administered to the population that in order to "be safe" from biological threats we must restrict our breath (by "masking" so as to protect others in the event that we were to be carrying something, that if it were to be transmitted could be harmful), minimize touch (proximity to others increases risk) and limit our movement (because movement increases "exposure" and could spread the virus at a faster rate). Consider the message that our bodies are being given based on these recommendations. Essentially...you're dangerous, you're a threat, you're a potential weapon that could cause harm or even death, you should be very careful and not get close to people.
So, as we acknowledge what's being advised to keep us and others safe it's a great opportunity to check in to see whether this strategy includes love. If not, how can we include love in our approach to our health and safety and in the ways in which we contribute to the well-being of those around us? How can we demonstrate love in our nurture and care of our bodies, and in our interactions with others? We can be the ones to cherish, appreciate, honour and celebrate our breath, touch and movement. We can learn how to attune our breath to the pulse of life itself, to the majesty of the natural intelligence, and to the wisdom of the elements. We can acknowledge the healing capacities of our touch and our body's ability to transmit warmth, share intimacy and be an agent of peace and calm. We can invite grace into our movements and harmony into our lives. Here and now we can be the antidotes, the medicine, the reminders and the presence of a different approach, a different way that is in service to the well-being of all. Here and now I welcome BODY LOVE to show itself through all forms and enrich and deepen our relationship with life.
This is the first video I'm doing in a series called Shadows, Gifts & Siddhi's. In the Gene Keys there are 64 different shadows, gifts and siddhis. I wonder what magic and mystery of the gene keys can come to light and to life now. For the rest of the series you can CLICK HERE to view the playlist on my youtube channel.
Now is a great time to acknowledge the difference between taking a fear-based approach to health and safety and taking a love-based approach. Indicators that it's a fear-based approach are things like control, manipulation, domination/submission, constriction, vigilance, self-preservation, enemies, polarization (for vs against), rush to find the answers and solutions, and external authorities trying to steer things in the right direction. Indicators that it's a love-based approach is exploration, inquiry, and curiosity with a desire to listen, hear, learn, discover and grow. It's about expansion and learning more about what contributes to your health and safety and the well-being of all life. It's about support, unity, coming together, acknowledging what choices we have and what actions we can take. It's also about looking within and discovering ways to establish greater integrity, self-awareness, self-care, honor, trust, and appreciation for the gifts, talents and abilities that you have. It's also a great time to acknowledge the people in your life who can navigate this time with you.
I did a video recently to support each of us to tune into the field and frequency of love and ask questions that assist us to become aware of what's best, what's possible and what's available within us, within relationships and within the world at large. If you would like one on one support to navigate this time in your life, become more clear on what your priorities are and determine what it would be helpful to focus on, please get in touch through my session page. Here is the video I mentioned:
I interviewed a mentor of mine to gain some insight on what's unfolding on the planet now, and explore how we can best be of service to the whole and process the events at a personal, collective and global level. Here it is:
Christine helps people to navigate transitions with love and wisdom. offering presence and care she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on in life. With all of the different tools, methods and wisdom she has access to, she inspires, encourages and makes it possible for people to really love and honor themselves, and thus be more able to love and honor others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!