Beyond Strong or Weak
What have you defined being strong as? What have you defined being weak as? Who is strong? Who is weak? What are signs of strength? What are signs of weakness? Is it good to be strong? Is it bad to be weak? There are many ways we can get caught in an either/or universe. What this means is that we end up directing our energy into defending for one thing and against something else. We align and agree with one side of the polarity and resist and react to the other. We end up defending someone who possesses the characteristics we've defined as good, and defending against someone who possess the characteristics we've defined as bad. Stepping beyond the polarity or the either/or reality gives us more freedom and more choice. Us as a Being includes strength and weakness. Consciousness includes everything. The key is to acknowledge where we are and if there are walls or barriers or constrictions that we can sense or feel, and we desire something greater, we can become aware of what is holding them in place and choose to be or do something different.
So, have you identified with being strong or weak? Have you defined strength and good and weakness as bad? What would it be like to be neither strong nor weak and also strong and weak? In other words, include everything this is and choose beyond it. Often strength and weakness is tied in with the creation of competition. Strength is often associated with winning and weakness with losing. If you've been really programmed with the "you have to be strong or else.." like something really bad is going to happen if you're not, perhaps even death, then you may have a hard time allowing people to be close to you because then you'd have more to lose, which could make you weak, and take away what you've worked so hard to maintain. The psychology of this can be quite complex and multifaceted, and it can really disrupt our lives if we live being unconscious of it. Usually we start to become aware of it when we have a hard time asking for and receiving help and support, when we push people and things away and don't know why, when we're stuck trying to be better than other people, when we realize that we have a deep fear of loss or death or we feel completely alone or isolated.
So, what would it be like to step beyond this? What would it be like to be and receive with ease? What if strength and weakness was no longer something to defend for or against? What if we no longer had to be defined or identified with either? Really tune in to the space beyond competition, what it would be like to be beyond winning and losing and strength and weakness. Any of these things could be chosen as something to participate in, if it was fun or created something that you desired, yet it was no longer something you were bound to, confined by or limited based on. Are you willing to have who you've known yourself as invalidated by who you're becoming? Are you willing to lose what you were previously defined by? Are you willing to have something different that may be completely unfamiliar? I invite you to welcome in new possibilities and play with being, knowing, perceiving and receiving you, beyond all of this. If you would like more insight into how the either/or reality works you can read my blog Living Beyond Polarity. If you do have a hard time asking for and receiving help, and this is something you would like to change, you can read my blog Do You Resist Getting the Help you Need? And if you find yourself stuck in the state of needing to be strong or resisting being weak or being seen as weak and you're ready for something different, get in touch for a session. I have lived much of my life imprisoned by this particular template and there is so much more to uncover and discover and be and do when it starts to unravel. I welcome you to know and have this as and when you're ready.
1/18/2019 05:52:28 pm
I like that all the talks I have been doing today are about suggestions we can offer for those who claim to be weak. Let me say this again once and for all. Crying will not help. Psychiatrists and medications don't help. They just keep you physically healthy while you are undergoing all these. Deep inside you, you know that there is still something wrong and you can't seem to know why exactly you are feeling empty or weak. Talking to people about your problems will only make your situation worse. It's comforting for quite some time but eventually both of you will get tired of talking and listening and saying something on loop. Do you know what's the real way out? Get out. Get out of your wanting to be occupied only with yourself and your problems and focus on how you can connect with other people. It's the only way, believe me.
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Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!