The other day I woke up with this pain in my upper back. I was reminded of four years ago when I had a similar pain and the thoughts and feelings I had about it at the time. I felt like something went wrong, and would ask myself what did I do wrong? I had interpreted it as a punishment of sorts, and if I were doing things right or correct I wouldn't have pain. It was so freeing when I was able to acknowledge the meaning I had previously assigned to being in pain and change it. What if pain is not wrong? What if it doesn't mean you've done something wrong? The old paradigm is all about punishment and rewards. If you do things good and right you will be rewarded and if you are bad and wrong you will be punished, and you will be rewarded with pleasure and punished with pain. It is possible to completely relieve the body from all imprints based in the punishment and reward system, and release all belief systems based on it. It was something that began unraveling for me in 2012, when I started asking: what would it be like to live beyond punishment and reward? There are so many ways we have been taught to make meaning of things, and so much of it is full of judgment, bias, decision, and misunderstanding. Everything changes when we're willing to be aware, choose to know what's true, and embrace possibilities that we may not have even known existed.
So this time around, I was able to be present with the intensity of the sensation and ask my body what it required. What is this? What can I be or do to change it? I could receive the awareness, and choose physical movements such as stretching that my body was asking for, as well as energetic support in the form of hands on healing, as well as receiving contribution from friends as to what may be going on. Within a few days 80% of it, if not more, has dissipated. The key thing I wanted to emphasize here, is that pain is not wrong or bad. Sensation contains information and is a request for presence and attention. When there is upset in the emotional body it is asking for attention and presence, and same with the physical body. Now is the time to have to tools and abilities to attend to what is asking for our attention. And anything we don't yet know how to be or do in regards to it, we can ask to have that awareness and invite it to show up. If you would like support to come out of judgment of pain and receive more awareness about what your physical and emotional body is asking for I'd be happy to assist you. Go to the contact me page to request a free 20 min consultation. Here is a brief video I did on the subject:
What is the difference between choice and need or necessity? A need or necessity is something you have to do or have to be. Anything we make a need or necessity we typically end up resisting, resenting or fighting against. Gary Douglas, the founder of Access Consciousness, four years ago on a tele-call provided me with this distinction. He also talks about how choice creates awareness. When you shift something from being a need to being a choice then every choice you make can give you more awareness. What's the value of having more awareness? Well, the more you know about what is going on and what the dynamics that are playing out in your life and in the world are, the more ease you can have navigating.
What have you made a need or necessity in your life that if you were to shift it to being a choice would give you more awareness? For example, say if there is someone in your life that you are always giving advice to, and after talking to this person you feel drained or depleted or resentful that you took so much of your time to help them and they didn't really acknowledge you or thank you for it. This is an indicator that you've made it a need or necessity to give them advice. You have no choice, you have to do it. Often what goes along with that is some type of conclusion like, "they need me" or "no one else is there for them" or "it wont be for that much longer" or "I am the only one who can truly help them." These are called fixed points of views, conclusions, and decisions. Here are a few questions you can ask for a scenario like this. Is it true that I don't have choice? What choice do I have here that I haven't acknowledged? As you come out of the need and necessity and reclaim your choice, say in this instance, to assist this person or not, to put parameters on the time you're willing to offer them, or ask for them to contribute to your life in some way, you can receive more awareness about what your choice is creating. When it's a need, you aren't able to question whether it's actually creating what you desire. Say in this case, once you step into choice you can gain more awareness from asking questions like: what contribution am I being in their life? Is this truly assisting them? What have I noticed about their life since I took on this role, is it better, worse or the same?
The more you're willing to ask questions and receive more awareness, the more clarity you can have about everything and the more ease you can have choosing what works for you. Sometimes we can get caught in a two choice universe, either it's all about me, or it's all about other people. What if there are way more choices then that? What if you can match what you most love to give with what people desire to receive. Or if you love to receive gifts, who would love to give them to you? Another thing Gary Douglas talks about is the Kingdom of We. Essentially instead of getting locked into a me or not me reality, you can expand into the energy, space and consciousness of WE. This is about including everything and judging nothing. You can acknowledge the choices that contribute to you, your body, other people, the earth and more. It's not all about you nor is it all about other people, unless you set up your life that way. Another choice is to play in the space of the kingdom of we, where everything and everyone is included and nothing is judged, where you can choose to have ease and clarity with everything, where nurturing, joy, generative energies and orgasmic energies of living are available. Would you like assistance to shift into choice and step from the kingdom of me or not me into the kingdom of we? I would love to assist you to become more aware of the choices you have, and the possibilities that are available for you that you may not yet have acknowledged or considered. Go to the contact me page to request a free 20min consultation and lets see what contribution I can be to you having more ease, clarity and freedom to be you and enjoy your life.
Have you noticed an acceleration? Are you more aware of what's going on in the world and for the people around you? Often the time comes when we are called out of our personal bubbles. Instead of getting to stay in a nice cocoon that feels safe and warm and controllable, we're invited to participate in something greater. That transition isn't always comfortable! At first there may be a tenancy to want to push everything away. Why do I have to feel their pain? Why do I have to be so aware of their suffering? Why can't I stay focused on my own life and have control over how I think and feel? Well, what if it's you calling yourself out of the cocoon? What if the talents, gifts and abilities you have are valuable to other people? What if your very presence can change things for many people? Are you willing to step up? Often we can get caught believing that we don't know how to get involved or that if feels to overwhelming or complicated. The key is to begin. It starts with a willingness, not yet knowing how but being willing to participate and being willing to contribute. This isn't about being seen as a good person, or giving selflessly to prove that you care more about others than yourself, or giving so that you will get the praise and the acclimates, this is a deeper impulse.
Look inside of you and find the pulse of what you're being called into. Be willing to say yes to showing up, even if you don't yet know what that looks like. Ask for guidance, become aware of the choices you have right now, and take a step. We can have this fantasy that everything we're meant to do here will come to us as a big download or a flash of light. It can be that way, and there are many other possibilities for how the information can show up. It may require you to walk somewhat blind for a while, until more awareness and clarity of what you're up to dawns on you. To me it feels like many of us have set the alarm and now is the time where it's going of. It's time to wake up, come out of the slumber, be willing to be clear about what's going on, what you're aware of and what choices you personally have. How can you choose to participate? What is in your life now? And what if whatever experience you're having now is what you're here to contribute to changing? Are you having difficulty in a relationship? Perhaps you're here to change the face of relationships and assist people to have more conscious conversations and honesty in interactions. Are you having challenges with money or debt? Perhaps your here to change how money is circulated on the planet, or how else it can be exchanged, or how people can have more clarity about it so it's not such a secret.
The invitation today is to take a look, wonder about what you're up to, and tune in and see if there is a calling there, something that's getting your attention, or something that you'd like to choose to participate in or contribute to changing. Here is a video I did today with Judi Bechard talking about what's going on in our lives and what's up in our awareness. How does what's going on in our personal lives relate to what's going on in the world? How do we navigate with clarity? What perspective can we adopt in order to have more choice and more ease with it all? What conversations would you like to be having in your life now?
Denial to me is the scenario of pretending everything is okay when it isn't, or putting on a mask and portraying an image of how you would like to be seen that isn't congruent with how you really are, or what's really going on. It's a coping mechanism that is taught. It's a way of dealing with what you may not have had the tools, know how or skill set to look after in a different way. What can be tricky is when you get so good at coping, dissociating or disconnecting, that when the support does show up to be with things differently, it can be hard to make the shift and embrace the assistance that is offered.
The coping mechanisms become part of the identity structure, so letting them go can feel like a loss of identity. There's this fascinating stage of this "awakening" or becoming more conscious process, where when you're finally becoming who you are it feels like the loss of who you are. When the identity starts to lose hold, as more of who you are grounds into the body, there can be this grief that emerges. It can truly be grieving the loss of who you've known yourself to be, and letting go of what, regardless of how limited or stifling it is, is predictable or familiar. It's like learning to cope with body pain, when the support comes along to assist the body to release the pain, there can be a time where the absence of that familiar pain feels like a loss of something, or like there is something missing. Another thing that can occur is that so much of your time was spent managing the pain, and thinking about how uncomfortable it is, and what may have caused it, or what it means that it's there, and whole relationships could have been established to look after you while you were in pain, that the relief, transformation and release of the underpinnings of the pain, and the pain itself, truly brings change that may not have been anticipated. How do you spend your time now? What do you think about? What are your relationships based on? What is the content of the conversations and the nature of the dynamics?
My invitation here is to begin considering what it will be like when something changes, and what may truly be keeping you from initiating that change. When we come out of denial and become honest with ourselves and others about what's really going on, that's what true transformation begins. That's when the gift of living is revealed. That is when intimacy becomes possible. Choose to bring people into your life that don't judge what you have previously hidden. Allow them to unravel your judgments and assist you to acknowledge you, the essence of you, the beauty of you and the strength of you. It is here, it is possible, if you choose it and ask for it it can show up, with more ease and grace than you may have ever thought could be. If you would like assistance in being acknowledged for the strength of you, as you come out of denial and gain the skills and the tools to live differently, without the masks and pre-tense. I am here for you. Go to the contact me page to schedule your free 20min consultation.
Many of us have the capacity to feel what other people are feeling. The gift in that is that it can create intimacy, really knowing what's going on for someone, so that we can be responsive and in tune with what someone needs or how we can benefit them. The downside to this, is that we can feel emotions that aren't actually ours, and we can live at the effect of that. In other words, instead of having the choice of how we each think and feel, we can live entrained or "in sync" with the thoughts, feelings and emotions of the people around us. If the dominant collective is feeling good, optimistic, loving, grateful and appreciative we can benefit or be uplifted through the entrainment, or frequency matching. If the dominant collective is down, depressed, angry, irritated, confused, fearful and feeling powerless, then it can disrupt and pull down the frequency/vibration of your mental, emotional and physical body in such a way that you can become sick or apathetic or exhausted or desiring to check out.
Right now is a key moment of choice. Are you going to choose to receive the tools that allow you to let go of the entrainment to other bodies, and the thoughts, feelings and emotions of the collective field? Or are you going to stay bound to that and living at the effect of that, hoping that things will get better? The tools are available. I have spent the last five years especially, seeking out these tools from everyone who knew something about this. I have asked and demanded to have a different choice and give my body a different choice. Tools from Access Consciousness have been a huge contribution. When we get overwhelmed or bombarded by our awareness of others the tendency is to contract, shut down, or hide. What is required is to expand, become as big as the universe, ask for the energy and consciousness of you to show up and change it. Demand that it changes for you, as an act of loving you, being kind to your body and being a gift in this world.
For me, all my extrasensory and intuitive gifts were a huge burden until I received the tools and support I required to shift them into being a gift for me. Yesterday, my head was pounding, and I rarely get "headaches". I could ask questions, and acknowledge that it was my awareness of a high amount of manipulation and control of the mental field that was playing out. There was a ton of pressure on the mental field to "make a choice" or "vote" in the US. It is a gift to be in tune, and it is so important to have the tools to ask questions and change the way we are perceiving or aware of collective fields. Would you like to be empowered and be able to change your thoughts and feelings and love your body with ease? Get in touch with me for a free 20min consultation to see how I can benefit you in taking your next steps to re-claim your choice and love your gifts!
Polarity is where everything is spoken of in positive or negative terms. It's either good or bad, positive or negative, true or false, or right or wrong. It's what can be named as a two choice universe, either it's this or that, one or the other. What would it be like to live beyond polarity? What I can tell you is that there is so much more freedom, peace and ease in this space. Access Consciousness has been such a contribution to me having this sense of freedom. One of the tools that is such a gift is called being in allowance. You don't have to align and agree or resist or react to a point of view or a reality, you can be with it. Words just point to the experience. It's a incredible way to move out of judgment, and get to be you in the face of judgment. Judgment is essentially where something is deemed as the way it is, as though it's true, it's solid, and it's unchangeable. It's just a point of view, one perspective of many, that one or many people have agreed with. The more people that align and agree with a point of view, the stronger the reality feels. If millions of people believe the same thing, that belief has a sense of power, or "truth" to it. All that is really going on is that many people have agreed with something. Does that make it true? Is that the way it is?
There are many of us here, that naturally question things. Instead of just being compliant and saying, ok, if you believe it it must be right, we say wait a second, what if that's not true? We're willing to zoom out, and look at things from various perspectives. I know for me, one of my abilities is to see things from many different perspectives. I can see where people are coming from and often receive the whole thread of what lead them to believe what they believe. As we become more aware, and less stuck in polarity, we can see more. When I'm with people they often say "how do you know that?" I sometimes know more about what's going on in people's bodies than they do. I am often more aware of their thoughts, feelings and emotions than they are, which is somewhat strange at times. I can receive way more from people because I am not locked into polarity. I can be with people, I can be present with what is here, not the judgments about it. I can be present with life itself, not the thoughts, feelings or emotions about it. To be honest, it's not necessarily an easier way to live, it's just a different way. What I can say about it is that my body is more relaxed, there is a sense of ease, freedom and space. I have lots of mental flexibility, my thoughts and beliefs aren't fixed, they are malleable and changeable. I can receive new information and change my point of view.
We have so much more choice than we've allowed ourselves to have, or have been taught to have. If we don't question the beliefs we've been given they will run our lives. The beliefs are the template. If you have been given an empowering set of beliefs than it may not be required to change them. If what you've been given "limits" you, you have the choice to change them. It's so easy to change beliefs when you have the tools! The idea that something is hard to do, or takes time is just another point of view that lots have people have agreed upon. It doesn't have to be true for you. Healing doesn't have to take time, change doesn't have to take time, transformation can be instantaneous! I've assisted people with "chronic pain"' to release it in five minutes. Anxiety can vanish, headaches go away in minutes, even someone in the middle of a breakdown can instantaneously shift out of it. I've facilitated/witnessed that. Now is the time to have the tools. Now is the time to give yourself the choice to live beyond polarity, if that is something you desire. I wonder how many more of us can live in this new way and embrace what is possible and available now. I'm excited to meet more people who are ready for this! It is so fun to facilitate instantaneous change and be magical (which is just offering something that differs from what someone believes is possible). Are you ready to have a different choice? To change something? To experience instantaneous transformation? Is that within your realm of possibility? It could be if you allow it to be so! Get in touch if you'd like a session or a series of sessions. Is now the time?
If you could have or receive anything in your life now what would it be? Breathe in to that question. So often we believe that we should already know, that it's important to know what we want and why we want it and if we're not clear on that, we're missing the mark and are guaranteed to get nowhere. Have you ever put pressure on yourself to know what you want and why you want it because someone told you it was important or essential to know? I invite you to take a deep breath and for a moment set aside your answers to those questions.
Tune into the question now: If you could have or receive anything in your life now what would it be? What comes up? Are there words? An energy? A space? A feeling? What goes on for you. Many of us have gotten locked into what we think should be happening, or how the process of growth, learning or evolution should unfold. What if it's different for you? Or unique to you? It can be so easy to want to follow the people who seem to have this all figured out, or seem to have their life together, or have what you desire to have. Acknowledge what they have that you desire. What if your process or path to have that is different? What if you don't have to know what you want in order to change your life? What if things can show up without you asking for it?
We can get stuck when we try to mimic or duplicate how someone else does it. Take another breath, tune in with what you'd like to have or receive in your life now. Are there people who have what you'd like to have? What if you can acknowledge that, and choose to have that too, and be curious about how it will show up for you. We try to follow the same steps, or figure out what they did (or what they think they did) and do the same thing. It may work well for some people, but if it doesn't work for you, take a moment to consider that things may work in a different way. You may create and bring things into your life in a completely different way then other people do. There is a tendency to compare or compete. That can be a fuel for people to become greater. Is that a fuel for you? If it is, great, use it, enjoy it, run with it. If it isn't tune in and ask: what is your fuel? What inspires you to create? Do you even require inspiration to create? I invite you to step into the space, the energy and the consciousness of you and receive the generative and creative energies, however you receive them, if you in fact desire that. In all of this, the main invitation is to wonder about what you desire and how things show up for you in your life and whether you can celebrate what's different and embrace more of your essence and express whatever energy you'd like to bring to the world in your own unique way. If you would like assistance to get in touch with your essence and become more aware of you, and what your desires are, get in touch with me through the contact page. Here is a video I created to explore this topic: