What is life all about? We can get caught when we attempt to definitively answer this question, as though there is one answer. We hear these sorts of phrases all the time: It's all about love, it's all about learning, it's all about balance, it's all about the heart, it's all about finding your purpose, it's all about service, it's all about family. Is there one answer? And if we decide that there is, how many other people, perspectives and possibilities do we have to exclude, defend against, minimize or even attack to maintain that as so? What would it be like if we could include all possibilities while choosing what our priorities are? We can choose to have love as a priority, or health, or forgiveness, or work, or money, or service, or family, or God or the Universe or all of these or some of these or none of these.
What is a priority for you? How has that come to be a priority? Did someone you tell you that that is what is most important? Are you trying to get it right? Was there the threat of punishment if you didn't adhere to that perspective? Was there the promise of rewards if you did? Given who you are and what you know now, what would you choose as priorities? From a space of love and freedom what would you choose to place your focus and attention on? What is different now?
What if we could authentically know what our true priorities are? As we know what's true for us we can express it. If we were assigned something to make most important, such as finding our purpose, and feel like we are failing or haven't done it or can't do it, we diminish ourselves, stifle our creative energy and shut down who we are as a form of punishment for not succeeding. This can occur with anything someone else decides for us that we should value or focus on. Now is the time to re-claim our capacity to direct our focus and attention towards what we truly value and give ourselves the space to discover what that is and admit when it feels like we don't know.
There are all sorts of thoughts and feelings attached to the reality of failure. When we feel like we haven't been or done what we should have been or done this weight latches on to us and holds us down. It's a form of punishment or even self torture. What if now is the time to be free of this? What if we are destined to fail when we make life about one thing? Are you willing to fail at what someone else assigned to you as the purpose of your life or the reason you are here? Are you willing to commit to your life whatever it looks like and whatever it takes? Is now the time to know your deep yes? If you would like assistance with choosing beyond failure you can read my blog, Beyond Success or Failure. If you are caught in the reality of trying to get it right and avoid being wrong at all costs you can read my blog Living Beyond Polarity. If you are stuck in the should/should not reality you can read my blog, Putting Should and Should Not's to Rest. How much more can we know what's true for us and receive the love and support to actualize our lives to reflect this?
We can often get caught in the trap of deciding what is or isn't possible or coping with "how things are" and not being available to receive new possibilities, or we can get caught in the fantasy of what things could be or trying to create the ideal scenario or circumstance that leaves us in a constant state of judgment and rejection of ourselves and our lives as they are now. There is this sweet spot of being present for ourselves and our lives as they are and choosing to welcome in more of what nurtures our hearts, blesses our bodies and inspires us to be and do things differently.
A question that came forward to ask a friend today was: Who or what can show up for you as a contribution to the ease and joy of being you? Another thing we can get caught in is in comparing where we are or what we have or don't have with someone else, or in wishing it were different, or hoping that something will change, or being frustrated by what we've decided should be different by now. These are all states of dis-empowerment, that keep us waiting or feeling like we don't have choice. The space of choice is a reclamation of our free will, which supports us to in being resourced from within. What would it be like to be completely resourced? I did a blog on the subject, that includes a meditation, if you'd like to go deeper on that subject you can read the blog, Being Completely Resourced.
So, I'd invite you to ask the question: Who or what can show up for me as a contribution to the ease and joy of being me? Who or what can show up for me as a contribution to being completely resourced? As we are completely resourced and feel supported in being who we are, we gift more, our creativity is accessible, we respond from a space of choice rather than an overlay of judgment or fear-based emotional reaction patterns. How much more freedom can you have to choose what honours you? How much more freedom can you have to choose what contributes to the joy of life and living? All of these types of questions can assist you to become more aware of what is truly possible. We no longer have to en-train energetically or emotionally to the dominant collective realities and instead can be a contribution to building a collective reality based in love, safety and support. If you would like to dive deeper into creating a new foundation for your life that is based in love, safety and support you can read my blog, Choosing a New Foundation. Now is the time to have, be and receive what we know is possible.
Really tune into that question: Do you have the choice to be happy? As you tune into this question you may become aware of what is keeping you from having that choice, or there may be part of you that says yes of course I do, and another part that says no I don't. So, what would it be like if you had the choice to be happy? Who or what may be keeping you from that choice? If you believe that you should be happy or have to be happy, or if you carry beliefs that people will leave you if you're not happy, or get mad at you and reject you if you are happy, or if you house cellular or emotional memories of what happened when you were happy or what happened when you weren't happy, then being happy may not yet be a choice. If being happy is a need or necessity you will put pressure on yourself and develop denial patterns of thinking or believing that you're happy when from a feeling/emotion/body perspective you are not. If you believe that your life won't go well or you won't attract what you want into your life unless you're happy, you might end up developing coping mechanisms like controlling or manipulating your emotional body to be good no matter what, or rejecting anyone who is capable of seeing you clearly, or projecting that everything is good when actually you're having a difficult time which may lead to a lack of intimacy in your relationships and a distrust of connection. If you believe that you'll be abandoned, people will hate you, or be jealous of you or envy you or judge you if you are happy think of the pressure you'll put on yourself to not be TOO happy!
One thing that is key to acknowledge is that the beliefs that we carry aren't random. They were formed through a set of experiences. Either we lived the experience directly, or witnessed someone else live it, or were threatened with the potential of undesired circumstances if we were to be or do something other than what we were told. What we wake up to is the fact that if we are able to access and acknowledge the moment of choice and subsequently choose again we can create something different. When we choose to be or do something different our past no longer dictates our future. When we become aware of choices we have, claim our free will or our freedom to choose, life changes and new possibilities become available. So, can you choose to be happy? What if you could change anything that doesn't allow that choice to be available? Perhaps this means giving yourself permission to feel unhappy, or acknowledge and be honest with yourself if you are feeling sad, angry or let down.
As we meet ourselves authentically where we are and how we are, it allows for us to progressively know our true needs, wants and desires and move towards having those needs met and desires fulfilled. Our reality can better reflect who we are. Our capacity to love, nurture, celebrate and honour ourselves and others expands. Happiness becomes a choice, not a need or necessity. If you tend to put a lot of pressure on yourself and would like to change that you can read my blog, It's Time to Take the Pressure Off. If you're stuck feeling like you have to be positive, upbeat and happy when underneath your feeling sad, angry or powerless to change your life circumstances read my blog, What to Do When Being Positive Stops Working. May we all find and have the space of true choice where happiness becomes something possible to embody and express.
Are you stuck playing the worthy vs not worthy, deserving vs not deserving or good enough vs not good enough game? Would you like to choose beyond it? Where we get caught is in the belief that if we become worthy, deserving and good enough we can have what we want and desire in life. Is this true? Is this how creation works? Ultimately we desire to know what it does take to have, be and do what we most desire. There are so many tools, techniques and modalities out there to assist with this. The key now is to allow for the re-set, to choose what works for us and thank and let go of any tools, techniques, points of views or beliefs that we've outgrown. What did work for us then may not work for us now. We may have believed that if we just found a way to feel worthy that good things would come to us. We may have believed that if we could feel good enough and prove to ourselves and others that we were valuable that everything would work out in our favor. Take a deep breath and ask for your deepest love and highest wisdom to show up to inform you of what is true now. What would it be like to have what you desire in life? What would it take to create it? What can you be and do different now that will support you in having that?
Asking questions is a way to assist you to receive something different, it allows your mind to let go of the need to control, figure it all out or decide what the answer is and instead get curious about what is possible. As we become more present and receptive we can be aware of choices that we previously didn't know we had. We can surprise ourselves with our brilliance, our wisdom, our love and our gifts, talents and abilities. Are you willing to surprise yourself with your beauty and your brilliance? Are you committed to working out your limitations and figuring out how and why you're wrong, or are you committed to being you and having a great life? It's your choice. This is a moment of empowerment, re-claiming your ability to direct your life and receive possibilities that nourish, bless, and contribute to you thriving. Now is the time to step beyond the reasons and justifications for not having what you want or not being you and choose again. Ask for the support to show up. Ask to know what it is going to take to change what you previously decided you couldn't change. What have you given up on that you can now choose to direct your focus and attention towards? What if you could trust you and have your back and commit to your life? If you would like more insights on the worthy and deserving templates you can read my blog, Are You Worthy and Deserving of Having a Great Life?