Many of us have lived, or know of people who live in what can be named as the "just be positive and everything will work out" reality. When we learn more about the law of attraction, and the reality of mirroring, or that the universe will mirror the vibrations you carry, thinking positive and feeling positive emotions became the answer or solution. We were taught to exclude, defend against, or turn away from the negative or bad thoughts, feelings and emotions and turn towards the positive ones. This was given as the way to improve your life, avoid negative circumstances and outcomes and have what you desire in life. This approach is effective when your focus has been predominately negative, focusing on what you don't want and don't like and the people you're upset with or wish were different. By redirecting your focus onto what you do like, what you do appreciate, what you desire to have and what you're most grateful for can assist to improve the quality of your life.
Often with this approach at some point you'll hit a wall. Even if you think good thoughts, feel good feelings and have a gratitude list and talk about what you love, there will come a time when you'll feel stuck or stagnant and won't know why. You're doing, thinking, feeling and saying all the "right" things and it's just not working to create good and positive life circumstances. The tendency is to get caught in this thought loop of: what is wrong with me? What am I missing? and most likely you'll go into a comparison mindset such as thinking things like: it's working for them, why isn't working for me? What's really going on here, is that it's time to develop the capacity to be in allowance of all of you, what can be named as the good, the bad and the ugly (as Gary Douglas, the founder of Access Consciousness would say). Are you willing to be in allowance of the good, the bad, and the ugly? This opens the door for a common phrase in access "all of life comes to me with ease, and joy and glory," to become true. It's the space where you can have ease, joy and glory being all of you and receiving your life circumstances, as well as accessing your talents, gifts and abilities to change them and choose something different.
So, if you happen to be in the be positive and not negative trap and you're feeling stuck or stressed, one thing you can try is to get curious about this space of allowance, it's a space where you're not aligning and agreeing or resistance and reacting to the thoughts, feelings and emotions you're having. The Being that you are, the Consciousness you are can include all of it. The technique of exclusion, regardless of whether it appears to be a good and right approach, will eventually fail because that exclusion maintains the energies of rejection, separation, expectation and judgment in your reality.