One thing that is key to acknowledge is that the beliefs that we carry aren't random. They were formed through a set of experiences. Either we lived the experience directly, or witnessed someone else live it, or were threatened with the potential of undesired circumstances if we were to be or do something other than what we were told. What we wake up to is the fact that if we are able to access and acknowledge the moment of choice and subsequently choose again we can create something different. When we choose to be or do something different our past no longer dictates our future. When we become aware of choices we have, claim our free will or our freedom to choose, life changes and new possibilities become available. So, can you choose to be happy? What if you could change anything that doesn't allow that choice to be available? Perhaps this means giving yourself permission to feel unhappy, or acknowledge and be honest with yourself if you are feeling sad, angry or let down.
As we meet ourselves authentically where we are and how we are, it allows for us to progressively know our true needs, wants and desires and move towards having those needs met and desires fulfilled. Our reality can better reflect who we are. Our capacity to love, nurture, celebrate and honour ourselves and others expands. Happiness becomes a choice, not a need or necessity. If you tend to put a lot of pressure on yourself and would like to change that you can read my blog, It's Time to Take the Pressure Off. If you're stuck feeling like you have to be positive, upbeat and happy when underneath your feeling sad, angry or powerless to change your life circumstances read my blog, What to Do When Being Positive Stops Working. If you would like one on one support to be met where you're at and move in the direction of authentically being happy I would love to assist you. You can go to my session page to see my offerings and get in touch to schedule a free 20 minute consultation.