I'm sure you've heard the saying, three steps forward two steps back, and I'm sure you've felt the frustration of feeling stuck, like you can’t move forward no matter what you do. I want you to consider five different mental models that can keep you focused backwards even if you desire to move forwards. They are the following:
1. Problem - Solution model
2. Broken - Fixing model
3. Wounded - Healing model
4. Wrong - Correction model
5. Clearing - Expansion model
Which one is, or which ones are the most familiar to you? For some, life is one big problem to solve. Other people may have defined themselves as "I am a fixer" meaning they are always searching for what's broken. Some healers are eternally looking for the core wounds. Others of us are locked into the educational model, all about figuring out what's wrong and how to get it right, or correct what we think we've done wrong. Or, a potentially newer model in the consciousness/spirituality realm is that it's all about clearing, so that we can expand.
So, how is this related to being stuck? Well, if our attention is always directed towards the problem, or what's broken, or the wound, or what's wrong or what needs to be cleared, our creative energy and our choice to direct our life forward is simply not available. It's like having a million dollars but all of it is invested or in a safe somewhere and you can't access it. Even though you have it, it's not available to use to move yourself forward.
What if now is the time to see what's beyond the mental models? What about playing with the adventure of living, or the joy of creation, or celebrating what's possible now and dreaming about what's possible in the future? See, as we choose to direct our attention and energy into that, if there is something "in the way" it will come forward. We don't have to go looking for it, or stop in our tracks to make sure there isn't more problems, wounds etc. That's how we get stuck. We think that we can’t creatively direct our energy and attention towards what we desire until we are finished solving, fixing, healing, correcting or expanding. In this moment you have a choice. Do you truly desire to have a new experience of living? Or are you eternally committed to having problems to solve, something wrong to correct, broken to fix, or wounded to heal? Take a moment to consider what your life would be like if right now, you released your grip on using those models and stepped into the action of living. I'm here too, asking myself the same questions.