Dismantling Assumptions & Restoring integrity

As I named in my last blog, when we've experienced incoming or outgoing boundary violation without remedy or resolution we end up in a compromised posture or position.  We lose sight of our integrity and either take on the posture of being wounded and withdrawn or aggressive.  When we are in our natural state of integrity we have the capacity to assess or perceive what is.  In other words, we are capable of acknowledging what we are thinking and feeling, and what's going on in the environment around us.  When we're in a compromised state it is more and more difficult to do this so we end up having to rely on assumptions about ourselves, others, the environment and the world.  The more wounded or aggressive, the more likely we are to deliver accusations based on assumptions.

Once we can see the dynamics at play, in terms of the relationship between assessments, assumptions and accusations, it can serve to encourage us to restore our natural integrity, so that we are more available for life itself, and more capable of dismantling assumptions based on patterns of wounding, that bear little resemblance to truth.  I recorded a video today exploring this a little more.  Here it is if you'd like to watch it:

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