welcoming the third option
The third option is a term that can be applied when you're in a situation where A or B are presented and neither of those are favorable, leading to the desire for a "third option", or a solution, strategy or approach that hasn't yet been thought of, considered, explored or included as a potential. We're in a time when may of us may be faced with circumstances or situations where there doesn't seem to be a good option. As the saying goes we're choosing between a rock and a hard place. Or in what can be named as a lose-lose. I wanted to bring this topic up today, to serve as a reminder that something we may not have thought of or considered can come available. We don't have to remain stuck in an either-or paradigm. A good starting place, if faced with an A or B type decision, is to ask: Is there a third option here?
Another thing that can be adjusted in this moment, is the approach to deciding or choosing what we're going to do. Often we've favored mind-based approaches. The common mental models that are employed to help with decision making are: 1)The problem-solution model, 2) The broken-fixing model, 3) The wrong-correction model, 4) The wounded-healing model and 5) The question-answer model. These models first synthesized in my consciousness a few years ago when I wrote the blog Say Goodbye to Being Stuck, which you can click on the title of to access it. Last year I made a video exploring them deeper called, What to Do if You're Going Mental. I'll include it at the end of this blog.
What I wanted to emphasis now is that we can get caught inside of one of these mental frameworks, and exclude other modes of perception, or ways that can help us make decisions and become aware of third options, different strategies, or ingenious approaches to navigating difficult situations. These other modes of perception include your heart's wisdom, your body's intelligence, and what can come to mind as insights, epiphanies and inspirations from the broader intelligence of life, or the fabric of the unified field, or the web of consciousness. Now is a great time to get in touch with these other modes of perception, or ways of knowing, so that you don't have to rely solely on mental models or mind-based strategies to inform your choices. If you'd like support to activate these other ways of knowing you can get in touch with me through this website and we can do one-on-one coaching and mentoring sessions.
So, in these times when we're confronted with things that we don't agree with, or approaches to health and safety that seem to foster the opposite, or decisions where neither A or B feels right, we can get in touch with these other modes of perception and await new possibilities that emerge or different strategies that arise that honor collective agreements while maintaining personal integrity. I wonder what can become known and available to us now, and what can present to us in our lives as potentials, possibilities and actions that remind us of the beauty, grace, majesty and richness of life and support us to feel at home in existence. Here is the video about the mental models that also names and brings attention to these other modes of perception:
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Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!