Building Your Life

Many of us are coming into a time of being truly ready to build our lives.  Up until now, as much as we may have wanted to, the majority of the emphasis was on deconstruction and gaining the awareness and the capacity to transform inherited imprints, belief systems, and strategies to cope with life that are detrimental to our health, well-being, personal fulfillment and authentic contribution.  If this is relevant to you, take a moment to acknowledge everything you have deconstructed, let go of, transformed, gained clarity about, and graduated from or outgrown.  And, given that this has been the emphasis, if you've had a hard time building the life you truly want, know that it is no fault of your own.  So, take a breath and invite yourself to loosen your grip on any perspectives you've picked up to help you to attempt to comprehend why things aren't yet working out the way you'd hoped.  It is only when the your energy, attention and presence is truly available to build your life can it happen.  And if you're honest, how much of your focus and energy been available to commit to that?  For many people the majority of it has gone into acknowledging what isn't working or what hasn't been working and desiring to change it, or fighting with the current circumstances in an attempt to overcome them, or feeling powerless and retreating.  

The invitation for you, is to consider that having the energy, attention, and capacity to truly build a life and commit to that process is upon you.  How do you feel as I say that?  Whatever comes up in response to the invitation is the next thing to be with and give your attention to.  If it's fatigue and doubt put some attention on that and consider how a sense of fortitude and trust could come about.  If it's a sense of defeat and despair, such as: wouldn't that be nice I wish, then consider how hope, confidence and encouragement could come about.  If it's a sense of being alone and without the support you require, consider how uplifting connections could come your way.  You can contemplate the question of: given where I am mentally, emotionally and physically, what do I need? and get curious about how those needs can be met.  Work in increments, support the revival of curiosity and wonder at how things can unfold from here.  Invite courage, confidence, and enthusiasm to dawn within you.

Many of us don't yet know when the true momentum for building a life will come, but the key is to acknowledge everything that had to be addressed, deconstructed, let go of, reconciled, and transformed before this could become available.  As we take a breath and see the magnitude of what has been taking place, it's no wonder we haven't had the energy or capacity to construct something new and direct all our focus onto that.  So, today I'd just like to say, don't give up on it!  Having your life reflect what lives in your heart is possible.  Building a life that reflects who you are and what's true for you is possible. If this subject matter is particularly relevant to you, you may also benefit from some of the other blogs I've written such as: Beyond Coping and Allowing Contrast to Inspire Clarity.