Impact & Influence

In polarity, or environments based in fear and separation, the set up is to strive to have a positive impact and be a positive influence and not have a negative impact or be a negative influence.  If you are deemed to be a negative influence you are shamed, criticized, diminished or punished in some way.  If you are deemed to be a positive influence or to have positively impacted someone's life you are rewarded, praised, exalted, or appreciated.  This could be a straight forward thing if the assessments of what was positive and negative were consistent.  What can lead to confusion is that the assessments are based on beliefs, family, cultural and societal influences. 

Many of us carry the pain of being accused of being a negative influence in a situation when we felt like we were doing the right thing or being good.  As a result, we carry imprints of shame and learned to doubt or dis-trust ourselves or others.  This confusion can lead to a shutting down or avoidance of any situation that resembles the ones that caused us pain.  One strategy of avoidance can be not wanting to have an influence or an impact at all.  Another strategy would be to adopt control-based measures, so as to prevent us from being associated with anything negative.  This could also lead to criticizing or condemning anyone else who is deemed to be a negative influence.  However you are prompted to look at, think about, speak about or treat others, is how you were once treated.

So, once we become aware of the predicament we've been in what can we do? The main thing, is to acknowledge the way fear based environments are structured, see what has gone on, feel the residue of having lived in that scenario, and step into this field and frequency of love that is available now.  We can create or live in a love-based field.  To explore some potentials of what that is like, you can read my blogs Love Based Creation and Establishing Love Based Relationships.  In the same light, we can come to know what it is like to be a love-based influence and have a love-based impact.  It's an exploration that we can each initiate and dive into as we become aware that it is possible to do so.  Imagine showing up to think, speak and act free of control-based motives.  Feel into the liberation of not having to track, monitor or control what's happening and instead trust in the unfolding of life.  Our actions can be initiated from this space of love and trust.  I wonder what impact and influence we can have as we embody the truth of this.  If you would like to dive in to this subject matter as it applies specifically to you in your life, you're welcome to join in for my online class called Influence & Immunity, which is being held tomorrow night (April 21st) from 6-7:30pm MDT.  You can visit the resources page to learn more.