What is your tolerance level? How bad do things have to get before you choose something different? Or how good do you allow your life to become before you do something to "balance the scales?" Now is the time to choose to become aware of our patterns, our tendencies, and our desires. Are you willing to know what you're really up to, in terms of the way you're creating your life? Sometimes we can be intentionally or subconsciously creating circumstances we don't like in order to back ourselves in to a corner until we have no choice but to change, essentially that change or die extreme. That's one way to go about things, and from a higher perspective there is nothing "wrong" with that. There is another choice, however, where we can acknowledge sooner the change we desire to make, or the choice that we've been avoiding, and can initiate that shift consciously. For instance, sometimes we will withhold something we need or want from ourselves in order to create motivation or intensify the desire for it. That's something we were taught to do through the punishment and reward system. That may work in some cases, but other times it doesn't and the moment we choose to be aware of what we're up to, or get that motivation isn't required to choose something different, than we can move towards what is desired without the push or the intensity of lack as a precursor.
Also, are you willing to invalidate your entire past experience? There is the choice now to receive in your life what you've never had such as love, intimacy, harmony, enthusiasm, joy and possibilities actualizing. The caveat to this, is we can get caught in trying to figure out why these things aren't in our life, or get stuck on the reasons and justifications for it not showing up or working out. Are you willing to give up what you think you know about why things have or haven't worked in your life? Are you willing to surprise yourself with new things showing up in your life that don't line up with what you consciously or subconsciously think or feel you deserve? What if you could throw the deserving/not deserving reason out the window? As well as the worthy/not worthy one too. It's just an explanation that we've used to make sense of lack. Essentially, we will never be able to make sense of it, understand it, or have a definite "why" to what's happening or unfolding in our lives. The invitation is to say yes to something new, something different and something greater and be willing to surprise yourself with love, beauty and possibilities that you couldn't have planned for or anticipated from your self understanding. You can choose to open your arms and jump, knowing that ultimately it's you that's guiding this whole thing. It's just a matter of how much you desire to know what you're up to and where your headed.