Activating Love Based Motivation

As we transition or graduate from fear based learning, we may feel a loss or lack of motivation. What was once driving our actions was the promise of rewards or the fear of punishment. Or we may have been motivated to get love, approval or acceptance but got weary when we realized how much we had to give up or hide to do so. We may have been motivated towards what we thought would give us pleasure and away from anything associated with pain, or towards what we or someone else defined as success and away from whatever was defined as failure. At some point many of us got very confused and couldn’t distinguish true pleasure from pain, or reward from punishment, or success from failure. 

Now is the time to clear up the confusion, and acknowledge, as I mentioned in a recent blog, that you were never meant to succeed in the fear based classroom. You’re here to learn, and grow and live in a different way, with a different source of motivation. There may be some who can thrive in that other classroom, and be satisfied with the rewards they are given, or just like that kind of challenge. But chances are that if you’re reading this blog you’ve been seeking for a new way, better suited to you.

So, I invite you to take a deep breath and fully acknowledge that this new way is here. I’m offering simply one style of presenting it. We can embody the frequency of love, and from the base of this, activate motivation that stems from this new source. We can regain or build the capacity to accurately assess where we’re at and what we need, and ask for it and receive the mentoring, teaching or guidance to meet the need. We can regain the capacity for self-honesty and the ability to direct our requests in a way that invites and insures support. We can free up our bodies from the cellular memory of being pressured or forced to do things. We can free up our hearts from the weight of living with unmet needs and being surrounded by people that would offer empty suggestions with no true guidance or direction such as “just let it go,” “forgive”, “trust that it will all work out,” “just have faith.” We do require help, support, guidance and direction and as the frequency of love activates, it’s much easier to acknowledge it and reach for that help in an empowered way.