Building Trust

This week I did an in person and online version of a class I entitled “Trusting You to Create Your Life.”  A few themes came forward both nights that I wanted to share in this format too.  One is that of committing to building trust from where you are.  Often we get caught believing that we “should” trust, or it’s right to trust ourselves and other people or we keep looping back to an earlier time in our life to figure out what went wrong, or where we lost this trust that we should supposedly have developed. 

One of the things that prevents us from building trust in ourselves is not knowing ourselves, or where we learned to cope with life by emphasizing the aspects of our being that others liked or accepted and denying, suppressing, rejecting or disowning aspects of ourselves that other people didn’t like.  Those aspects that we “hid” from ourselves are now unknown to us, and it is harder to trust what is unknown to us.  People have attempted to get us there by saying things like “just trust” or “have faith”, however that is often not enough to truly address what’s going on.  If we knew all that we are, would it be easier to trust all that we are?  Yes!  As we know all that we are we can receive the awareness of what the needs and desires are and update our means or methods of getting those needs met and desires fulfilled by tuning in to the field of possibilities now, rather than relying on associations made about ourselves, life, the world and other people at other times in our lives (what they could or couldn’t give us, whether they could meet the needs or fulfill the desires that are relationship based etc.).

So, one of the ways to build trust from within is to look for anywhere we’ve separated out aspects of ourselves based on value judgments imposed by other people. I lead a meditation earlier this year called “Strengthening Trust in Life” which I’ll include at the bottom of the blog.  In that I speak to some of the separations between the mind, heart, body and spirit and what it would be like to unify them again, or have all that we are working together to benefit the totality of the embodiment.  If every aspect of us chose what honored the totality of our embodiment, how much more could we trust ourselves to create our life?  Ponder that, and get curious about what is possible now.