Often, the need to decide and determine who or what you are responsible for, precedes the choice to contribute to someone or something. In other words, if you decide you are responsible for someone's pain, you will do everything you can to contribute to alleviating it. Whereas if you decide you are not responsible for someone's pain you won't be overly motivated to help them, unless they specifically ask you to do so or you have the remedy or knowledge that can assist them to alleviate it. Often we derive motivation from this feeling of being responsible. If you feel responsible for some form of pain and suffering you will "get to work" on changing it or contributing to it ceasing, provided you feel capable of offering or receiving help or assistance. You can have the experience of being trapped or stuck if you feel like you're responsible for something or someone and simultaneously feel unable to help or assist, provide or receive what is needed, asked, or required. It is this type of scenario that drives people to avoid responsibility or try to not be responsible for anyone or anything, as a way to avoid being blamed, or being at fault for something as well as the chance that you could be in a situation that leaves you feeling powerless or unable to make it better or alleviate the pain and suffering you were made responsible for causing.
So, what if you could choose to contribute without the need to assign blame or take responsibility for problems, issues, pain and suffering? In other words, if you know you have skills, talents and abilities that can benefit other people are you willing to offer them, even when you were not responsible for whatever led them to have the need for your assistance? It's so common for people to make you feel responsible for something, so you feel bad, so you'll be motivated to give money, donate your time, or "be part of the solution." We have to step out of this trap of blame, guilt, shame and powerlessness so that we truly have the energy, resources, and life force available to assist with alleviating the pain and suffering, and contributing to a more loving, empowered, harmonious world coming into being. When we feel bad for something we see in the world, this heaviness comes in, which weighs down the body, which leads us to feel tired and want to sleep or check out or say never mind, that's not my issue, that's not my problem, all that stuff was here before I was born, it's not mine to deal with and turn away from it. Redirecting blame, or re-assigning responsibility or fault will get us no where, other than looping in a reality of no change or decay.
What if right now you can choose to set aside the responsible/not responsible, at fault/not at fault, to blame/not to blame discussions and debates aside and put all of your energy and attention on the question of: who or what can I contribute to? Who or what is asking for my support and attention? Who or what can contribute to me? Who's support and attention can I benefit from? Contribution is about gifting and receiving in simultaneity, it's beyond the reality of give and take or exchange rates. It's a space of Being You and receiving the gift of that. Now is the time to shift to being responsive to what is here, who and what requires our attention, what we can be or do, and what we can gift and receive.
Another thing to be aware of here, is that you can show up to assist someone to alleviate their pain and heal their wounds and in the process of helping or supporting, they can make you feel responsible for causing it, or even begin to believe that you are causing them pain, wounding them or hurting them in some way. The natural response when you're on the receiving end of that is to feel irritated, frustrated and extremely confused. The key here is to acknowledge that what we collectively have to address is this mind based tendency to make someone or something responsible for our pain, to assign blame, and then to demand that they "make it better" or alleviate the pain or rescue us from it. It's a hopeless scenario, as the one making another responsible is giving away their power, the one on the receiving end of that wants to give it back and not be in that position. If they do taking it on and convince themselves that maybe they are in fact responsible, or did do or say something "wrong" they can end up trapped or cast in a role that they don't want to play. Many of us are waking up from this. May we all re-claim our power, acknowledge what we carry, and learn to gift and receive the love, support and contribution that assists to transform, transmute, resolve and release all of the pain and sadness and trauma and suffering that so many of us are truly ready, willing and able to surrender for good.
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Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!