When we decide that something needs to change in our lives, often we revert back to old strategies or ways we were taught or shown how to make changes. One common go to is the punishment reward system, which is based on the threat of punishment, the "you better do this or else" (something you love or appreciate or need will be withheld from you or taken away from you), or the promise of rewards (you'll get love, nourishment, support, acknowledgment, praise etc. if you do this). This is a strategy that can lead to behavior change or doing the right thing, because the threat of what we need, desire or require being taken away from us or withheld from us is painful, and we will often do anything or everything to avoid this consequence. Tune into your body as you read these words, how much stress and tension are you aware of?
The amount of control of self or other required to maintain this system in existence is immense and one of the main challenges with it is that everyone has been imprinted with a different version of it, so whether you "deserve" to be punished or rewarded for being who you are or doing what you're doing depends on the assessment of the person you're in front of. You could be rewarded for being happy and exuberant, or punished and made wrong for it. How confusing is that? Especially when you don't know which version the person in front of you has been imprinted with. What is acceptable and not acceptable? What is praised and celebrated and what is condemned and dismissed? And who gets to be in control? Who gets to hold the power, be the judge and decide whether you deserve to be punished or rewarded? Are you ready to release your agreement to participate in the punishment and reward system?
Imagine that the punishment reward system had a color. What color comes to mind to represent it? For me in this moment I see it as dark blue. Now tune into your body and imagine that you could detect everywhere this system is held in your body and in your electromagnetic field. Scan for it, like you are an immune cell scanning for a virus. Now call in your higher self, consciousness, Source, the Universe, whatever assists you to get in touch with true power, and imagine all of that reality being pulled out of you. Your mind is free of it, your body is free of it, your heart is free of it, your electromagnetic field is free of it. All your agreements are released, you have been set free from the punishment and reward system. Take a deep breath and sense this possibility. Choose it, receive it, and claim this now.
As this new possibility comes into being, call in the energy of gentleness. Get the sense of what it would be like to change things in your life from the energy and space of gentleness. Allow for ease and joy to show up in your life. Allow for ease and joy to show up with, in and through your body. Say yes to being the change, having something different and receiving what you're asking for. Step into the reality of consciousness and possibilities and imagine being embraced by everyone and everything there. How much more can you now know you, be you, perceive you and receive you? What in your life can change as if by magic? Are you ready for something new? Now is the time. If you would like assistance to free yourself from the punishment and reward system please get in touch with me. I wonder what we could change in one session. Is it time to find out?