For someone who has their attention solely on the negative hearing the advice, "focus on the positive," can be a blessing. In it is an invitation to have a more balanced perspective and become aware of what's going well or what's going right. Where things become out of balance is when you hear, focus on the positive and you interpret that as avoid or turn away from the negative. This creates a spit or fight within yourself, and leads you to turn towards the positive and away from the negative. On the surface this can show up as tension, stress or low level (or high level) anxiety or depression. Each time you turn away from the negative you are abandoning an aspect of your experience, which is equivalent to abandoning yourself. This behavior will also show up in your relationships, where when someone is being positive you turn towards them and when they are being negative you turn away from them. This will always create hurt, fight and division. Is this what you want?
When you do bring your attention to the positive, or towards where you're feeling love, support, nourishment, harmony, or happiness in your life, it will give you the courage and ability to face or bring your attention to what's negative, or what you would like to change. Often though, if you have spent a lot of time suppressing the "negative" you will have a hard time turning towards it because it feels overwhelming, intense or wrong. This is the moment when it's key to ask for support. Who can assist you to turn towards what's negative? If in this moment you're not able to move into a loving, safe and supportive state find someone who is in that state who can hold the space of that for you. This will make it infinitely easier to shift! There is no need to fight. The invitation is to develop your ability to face all of your experience and make the changes that move you into a richer more fulfilling experience of living. I would be happy to support you in this. I offer a free 20min consultation to see if we're a good fit to work together. Get in touch through the contact me page.