The best way to make something true is to decide on a point of view then gather evidence to support it. The key is to make sure that you don't collect any evidence that contradicts the point of view, that would just create confusion and uncertainty. In order to have clarity it requires consistent evidence to prove it's true! I am making a joke here, the intention though is to bring to light everywhere we have inherited a perspective, belief, or idea and are going around gathering evidence to support it, even though it's going against what we truly desire to be and do here. I'll share some examples from my own life. One belief that I held was that people wanted to have me around based on what I could do for them or give to them, so if I wasn't doing something for them or giving something to them there was no reason to be there. Now you may ask, how could I possibly have maintained such a perspective? How could I make that true? Well, here are some characteristics of the ideal candidates to fulfill this role: Someone who praises what I do and is so happy about what I give to them, or someone who has so much going on in their life that they don't have time or energy to be with me or inquire about what was going on in my experience. Another example is a belief I held that no one could really help me so I had to find a way to do it by myself. How could I maintain that as true? Well, I could be sure to surround myself with people who didn't have the skill set, know how, or ability to offer advice or suggestions.
So, what do you believe, and how do you go about making that true? This can be quite a revealing exercise and it can shine the light on ways we go about maintaining perspectives about ourselves, others, and life that keeps us from what is possible. So, as you breathe deeply and are willing to be honest I wonder what will come forward. As you do this, the gift is that it gives you the invitation to choose again. You can change the belief, release the idea, or commit for a week to showing yourself how that isn't true, or play with trying on beliefs and perspectives that would support you in stepping into your greatness, bringing people into your life who can love, celebrate and support who you're being and what you're doing, and get curious about how you can benefit others in ways you may not have acknowledged or considered possible.
Be gentle with yourself, as this exercise may bring up emotions such as anger, sadness, grief and frustration. Often when we see how we've been limiting ourselves instead of staying present and breathing into the emotions that arise we will instead go into judgment and stuff them back down and even prevent ourselves from remembering the exercise we just did and what it revealed. So, here is your invitation to be curious, to play with the beliefs you hold, to explore what's up for you and even have some fun going on the adventure of showing yourself how the ideas, beliefs and perspectives aren't true, and what may be more fun to believe in. It's an art to give yourself the permission to question. I wonder where the exploration will lead you. If you would like assistance with this exploration, or find that it's bringing up judgment of you or others, or you’re getting stuck on the emotions that are surfacing I'd be happy to assist you. I wonder how much more ease you can have being you and stepping into your greatest life.