Releasing the Expectation to Feel Good
Do you expect yourself to feel good no matter what? Expectation is a form of control to attempt to make ourselves be different or try to fulfill high standards, or demand the best, or reach ideals and so on. There can be this learned tendency to expect ourselves to be different or better than we currently are. The hope is that by placing the expectation on the self we will reach for the desired outcome. Does it work? Can you see the control in this? We're coming into a time where many new ways of approaching life are emerging. The path to the perceived or desired destinations is changing. One of the main changes is the out growing of fear based approaches that require coercion, demand, control, and force to get us moving, to love based approaches that truly support us to grow and change and evolve and feel better. This possibility is becoming more and more available.
The fear based approach to make growth happen "or else" relies on using expectation to drive change and the need to be better or be greater or get your life together as necessary fuel in order to push you in the direction of being rewarded with what you want and not punished with the lack of it. The love based model is about acknowledging where you are, how you feel, what's going on in your experience and then allowing for and inviting the preference for growth, change, fulfillment, expansion, creative expression etc. to emerge through this loving field of Presence and acknowledgment of Being. The love based model is about listening, hearing, receiving, and allowing what's there to emerge, be seen, and be witnessed. If there is a desire to feel good or feel different, that desire is acknowledged and attention is placed on what it would take to have that, inclusive of where and how you are now. We don't have to reject where we are to choose something greater. Instead we can acknowledge where and how we are and ask for something greater.
Is it time for you to make the shift from fear and control based approaches to growth and change to love based approaches? What if it's easier than you think? One of the ways to do this is to just notice when expectation and pressure to change through force, coercion or control is there. When you do, acknowledge that that was something you learned how to do and that there is a new way available now, and choose to welcome this new possibility. Allow yourself to be aware of love based possibilities. Clear indicators of the presence of these is that there is a gentleness, an honoring, an energetic embrace, an acknowledgment of you, an energy of inclusion and an energy of harmlessness. It's the kind of energy where the walls of defense naturally come down. You don't have to fight to feel good anymore, you can just invite it, as you simultaneously give your attention to where and how you are now. Once again, you don't have to reject who, how or where you are to have something different. Include where you are as you welcome what's greater to emerge and actualize in your life. Now is the time.
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Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!