What options are you keeping yourself open to just in case, or because you can, or because maybe you’d like to do it again or try something again (even though you KNOW it’s not right for you or doesn’t work for you?). We’re coming into a time where it’s so important to commit to our lives, to that which loves, honors, nourishes, blesses and supports us or to that which contributes to our authentic expression in the world now and in the future. We have this one coping mechanism due to this implanted point of view that we “fear change.” The strategy is to keep our options open, just in case. It’s like going to a restaurant where you don’t like the food, you have never felt good after the meal, yet you want to keep in on the list of restaurants because maybe it’ll be better next time. What would it be like to 100% commit to having what works for you? Choosing food that you like, finding your deep wholehearted yes. It is a process of loving ourselves enough to say yes to what’s right for us and no to what doesn’t fully work for us. And it’s a process of meeting the aspects of ourselves that are committed to these other things or less than beneficial “options” because they really believe that they do benefit us. It takes a lot of love to approach these aspects with a desire to understand the perspective, recognizing the conditions in which we formed the behaviors and gently or firmly waking them up to what’s true from an authentic, loving, self-honoring point of view.
So, to put it directly, what options are you keeping alive that you know now is the time to say no to, or “die” to in the sense of allowing them to leaving your life experience? It does often begin with looking at our life at what is just kinda, sorta good or barely tolerable but okay or at things we love to hate or hate that we love and instead of going into the most popular of all judgement of “what’s wrong with me?” Or “Why do I sabotage myself?” Or some other self-hating or depreciating approach, we instead go okay, what would I prefer? What would it take to invite, allow, demand and have all of me on board with what I truly desire and require? Instead of the judgment, which creates separation and eliminates receiving, bring those aspects closer, and as and when you’re ready to (or with the help, love and support of someone like me by your side) seek to understand, listen and receive awareness from the totality of you. There are aspects of us that have been misguided and misdirected. The only way they (those versions of you) will come on board is when we turn towards them, bring them closer, listen, hear, ask questions and offer the guidance and direction they require (which is ultimately what ‘you’ require to truly move forward).
So, I invite you to take a deep breath, welcome in your authentic self, choose to know your wholehearted yes and your wholehearted no, get curious about who you would be and what would be possible in your life if you knew that you were 100% committed to the loving, honoring, nurturing, nourishing, supported, joyful and generative version of life and living. Get curious about the joyful and fun and pleasure-loving aspects of yourself that may have been pushed to the side while so many of our fear based, confused, I don’t want to do this or be here, overwhelmed versions of us have taken center stage (or have wanted to). Take a deep breath and get curious about being you, refreshed, renewed and restored. Here is a poem I wrote back in 2011 that would like to be shared here. What is possible when we come together and commit to our greatness? Is now the time?
Refreshed and renewed
Centered in love
Letting the light shine
Remembering what it means to truly connect
Breathing in to the space created
Settling, drawing the mind into the present moment
It is here that beauty can be seen, felt and known
It is here that the depth of our being can be accessed
From this inner place of stillness inspired thought arises
Curiosity is sparked, innocence revived
Action ﬂows effortlessly, in tune with what the moment is calling for
One step at a time, evolving towards a fuller expression of Self
Spontaneous waves of joy replace those of doubt
Peace calms the storms of fear
Thank you, thank you, thank you
May the blessings be