The "Haven't I Dealt With This Already?!!" Reality

How many times have you had the, "Haven't I dealt with this already," thought?  I know for me, it has been a number of times.  Or it can show up as, I thought I was over this, or had resolved this etc.  It can definitely be a source of frustration and confusion to say the least!  One thing I've become aware of is that yes, you have dealt with it already, with the skills and abilities you had at the time.  Now you are "dealing with it" with the skills and abilities you have now, or with the people and resources you have in your life now, that you didn't have available then. ​
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Say for instance you're dealing with this sense of feeling alone, isolated or that no one is really there for you.  You may have dealt with some of that trauma from childhood already, validating the feelings, acknowledging the child, letting him/her know that it is that way right now, but it wont always be that way, I am totally here for you now, etc.  That same feeling may come up now when you have someone in your life who can be there with you, acknowledge your feelings and offer support.  This more deeply resolves the original trauma, or set of childhood experiences.​

The presence of something we desire to have, assists to resolve the pain of not having it.  Having the loving presence and attention of someone now, can assist to resolve the pain/hurt of not having someone available.  Often it begins with the willingness to let go of the pain and have a new experience, or getting to a point where having the new experience is more desirable then holding onto what we've believed to be true, or the reasons we've come up with to explain why it was that way or what we must have done (or not done) to deserve that.

Today with a client, I described it as "all that fucked up shit".  We desire something new, start putting our attention on it and then all the fucked up shit comes up (anger, reactionary patterns, resistance, conflict, confusion).  Say if we desire intimacy and connection and start putting our focus on having more of that in our lives, everything that doesn't allow that will come forward.  Instead of seeing that "fucked up shit" as a problem, we can turn towards it, thank it for being there and showing us what is required to change, resolve or move through in order to have what we desire.  It's not there to stop us, it's just there to be addressed, so we can fully let go if it and transition into the new experience.  Often the stronger we desire something, the more what is in the way (behaviors, belief systems, patterns of thought, fear, hurt, mistrust) will come to the surface to be addressed.  So, what if now is the time to have way more ease addressing these things and celebrating the transition into a new, more fulfilling, better feeling experience of living?  May we all receive the support we require to have ease navigating all of this!  I'd be happy to assist you to address what is keeping you from having what you desire, take down those invisible walls, hand you your power back and give you the support you need to move forward.