As we make the transition into greater consciousness and deeper self-knowing often our desires and preferences change. What we choose to say and do changes along with that. One thing that you may notice are moments of inner conflict, when how you would like to handle a situation or respond to life events or people will be at odds with your identity, or who you have known yourself to be. In other words, who you are becoming or stepping into no longer fits within the confines of the identity you've constructed. You may have an identity structure that is based on you being a nice person that is easy going and just goes with the flow and now the desires and preferences emerging within you may be expressed in a way that doesn't match or line up with that. Now is an opportunity to practice the art of allowing, choosing to allow your desires and preferences to be known by you and expressed by you. There may be ways that you have previously known yourself (old identities) that completely shift or fall away. Sometimes there is fear associated with this transition. Allowing the self is an act of love, however the loss of something, such as your identity, or who you think you are, is often taught or imprinted to be scary or fear inducing. What if it doesn't have to be that way?
You have a choice to put your attention on who and what you're becoming, on the new needs, desires and preferences that are emerging, or on the fear of what you're losing, which is actually identity structures that were confining you. We often grieve the loss of limitations, as although we say we want expansion and transformation and new beginnings, there is a loss of something that has become familiar or comfortable via its consistent presence. Even the loss of pain can induce grief. We've become accustomed to being limited, in lack, in pain, in separation, with identities based in fear, fear of rejection, fear of death, fear of abandonment, fear of judgment, fear of expectation or disappointment or punishment. All of this falls away, it ceases to be. The time comes when we wake up from that dream. We can hold the belief that this will result in bliss and total peace but know that creation is a new adventure. Knowing yourself and allowing your true self the space to express is a new adventure. It can include some discomfort and much internal adjustment. Your body may change, your voice tone, your behaviors, and as mentioned before your preferences, desires and needs may change substantially and even surprise you as they emerge.
Another practice that may become relevant is that of releasing attachment to identities. You can choose to be devoted or committed to kindness, gentleness, caring, honoring, love, joy, gratitude, happiness, peace and calm. It's valuable to acknowledge your preference and claim your choice, as that is an act of will that will draw to you support and many beings embodied who desire to step into greatness with you. However, it's also valuable to notice your I Am statements, and any that you have become attached to, such as I am nice, I am thoughtful, I am caring, I am attentive, as there may be moments where you don't desire to be that, or it wouldn't be honoring of yourself to be that. For instance, to be nice to someone who is being dis-honoring towards you may not be the greatest service to you or them. It may be more honoring to be firm or direct or strong. It may not be of value to be attentive to someone who is unkind or critical. It may be more of benefit to not listen well to the voices of criticism or to those who diminish greatness or can't support you or welcome your true expression, as it may shine the light on the darkness within them that they are not yet willing to see. It is a unique time on the planet. It's your choice how you show up for it, and the more you can re-claim your will or choice to choose, the more ease you can have being you, being here and showing up in allowance of your true desires and preferences being acknowledged and expressed. If you would like assistance navigating your current circumstances or your inner world get in touch. I'd be happy to stand with you and tune in and offer the presence of love and support which can assist you to enhance your ability to be loving and supportive towards yourself and others.