I appreciate something John Newton often says which is, "It's not that you're stuck it's just that it doesn't feel good where you are." Often we will mentally separate from where we are when we've judged or decided we are not where we should be or something is wrong or off about our lives. The invitation now is to acknowledge where we are, what we are currently thinking and feeling and expand our capacity to receive it. Instead of separating through judgment, we can receive where we are now and ask questions to gain clarity about what else is possible and how things can be better or different.
When what we’re experiencing is at odds with what we desire, wish or want another practice we can engage in is to use the contrast to inspire clarity. In other words, what is this experience reminding you that you desire? And as you become more clear on what you desire and prefer, is there something you could be or do differently now to support that showing up in your life? For a deeper discussion on this you can read my blog Allowing Contrast to Inspire Clarity.
It is also valuable to honestly assess the situation and ask: Is this something that can change? Often as a result of being inundated with ideals of “you can change anything” and “anything is possible” it can lead us to not being present to a situation or circumstance and asking whether everyone or everything involved is ready, willing and able to change. Yes, on one level of perception “anything is possible” and yet it is a different approach to really ask: what is possible now? What is available here? And be completely present to receive the awareness that comes from asking that, whether it matches the ideal or fantasy of what we want or desire or not. We can each contribute to creating something greater now and in the future, yet it does require us to be where we are now, whether it feels good or not. May we all be as loved, resourced, blessed and supported as we step into this next phase of creation and receive the moments of “Yes!” and enjoy the momentum and the expression that does become available. If you’re interested in a few more perspectives about being stuck you can read my blog: Say Goodbye to Being Stuck and The Value of Being Stuck.