How many times have you been told what's good for you? How often do people share what they think is good for you? What's tough is that we've often been taught or shown that there are two choices, to agree or to disagree. They are either right or wrong. And if it's someone we trust or value the opinion of, it's more likely that we will assume they are right, and even if we know they are wrong or mistaken we may not want to admit to that. To maintain closeness with someone who values being right we may agree with them no matter what and negate our knowing in the process. In other words, the genuine process of coming to know what's good for us often has been stalled, stifled or prevented by this need or necessity for us or someone else to be right and correct and not wrong or mistaken.
Fortunately, many of us our coming into a time of being free of value judgments and thus able to direct the totality of our presence and energy into the exploration of what is truly right and good for us. We can commit to the process of unfolding. There is no stagnant or fixed answers, rather it's something that's ever evolving and dynamic. Anyone who offers a fixed perspective of: "this is good for you," is most likely out of touch with the dynamic, ever changing nature of life. What's more in tune with what is, is an approach of curiosity and inquiry into whether or not something is good for you as well as a sensitivity to that changing.
What is truly good for you and what if you could come to know that? Finally we can be liberated from the assessment of being right about what we know or wrong about it. Instead we can just know, and adjust as we go as our awareness expands. Sometimes we will think we know what's good for us, try it out and come to discover that it isn't. Other times we will be unsure or skeptical, yet as we dive in and explore something it turns out to be great, perhaps better than we could have imagined. The adventure of living can be re-claimed as the weight of the assessment of "I'm right" that was good for me, or "I'm wrong" that wasn't good for me lifts off. We can step into the space of wonder and open to the joy of coming to know what's best for us.
So, in this moment I invite you to take a breath and step into a space where the exploration of what's good for you is supported. You can inquire, investigate and move towards the awareness and understanding of this. Life can be on board with you doing this. As this gains momentum, any history of letting people down by going against what they thought was best or good, or having to fight to have your preferences or giving up your knowing to maintain relationships can lose it's hold on you. For many of us it hasn't been easy to get to this true innocent space of exploration. Yet as we greet it, we can come to know it and be supported in it. It can become the norm. Just what is. Is now the time for you to know what's good for you and have that? Just have it. Just know it and be free to live according to this. You being you. More and more of the complexity dissolving. Re-claiming the simplicity of innocent knowing, born of your awareness in the moment, sensitive and attuned with what's unfolding. May we all be loved and supported in this process. For other blogs that you may enjoy you can check out: Beyond Right or Wrong, and Beyond Advice.