What would it be like to value giving and receiving? Often we've been taught that it's better to give than to receive, and we've often spent time in environments where true receiving didn't actually exist. Many of us at one point or another decided that we have a hard time receiving. Something that's essential to ask in those moments is: Were they truly gifting? Many people have been conditioned to live according to the model of give and take. The way that reality works is people look at what they have to give to get what they want. If someone is offering something to you it's because they want something from you. It's based on exchange rates which is all about trying to balance the give and take to make it fair or even. If you take too much it's wrong and you're greedy. If you take a little and give a lot you may be seen as a good person or may be liked or appreciated by others, but that's primarily because you're giving and don't require anything from them so it's to their benefit.
At some point we outgrow the give and take model. We become tired of calculating whether we're good or not based on how much we're giving and how much we're taking. We desire to gift more and feel confined by people's refusal to receive because they think they'll have to do something for us later or feel pressured to return the favor with something of equal value to "balance it out." And we get tired of refusing to receive from others because we don't want to feel like we're taking something from them or that we'll end up being obligated or indebted to them or that somehow we've giving permission to be controlled by their needs, wants and demands of us that will be revealed at some point in the future. We become tired of checks and balances and just want to contribute, to be the gift, to express, and to receive the gifts and expressions of others, so that we all get to benefit and become greater. We desire to offer our gifts, talents and abilities for the benefit of all, and enjoy other people offering theirs. We wonder what it would be like to have desires fulfilled and needs met, and to get to fulfill desires and meet needs with ease and joy.
Are you ready to free yourself from the structure of give and take? Are you ready to free your mind from being caught in calculations or trying to keep people away from you so that you won't end up being obligated, indebted or controlled by them? What would it be like to get to give and receive for the fun and joy of it? When you are feeling exuberant and have lots to offer you get to be that and people can be there to receive and enjoy that, and when others are exuberant and desire to offer something or gift we are there to receive and celebrate who and what they're being. What would that be like?
Now is the time to know what true contribution is. Contribution is the simultaneity of gifting and receiving, it's were we get to show up and be, rather than being confined or defined by exchange rates and having to protect ourselves from people who just want to take, or who only give to get what they want and think you're doing the same. Take a deep breath and imagine what it would be like to be free of that. Are you ready? Begin by asking to know what it's like to live from the energy, the space and the consciousness of contribution. Ask to know what it's like to generate energy through your actions, rather than drain the finite amount of energy you've previously been limited to functioning with. So much more is possible now as we wake up from the old models and the old ways of relating. If you would like assistance to tap into what you most desire to give and have more ease receiving please get in touch for a session. If you would like to read more of my blogs on the subject of giving and receiving especially in regards to help and support, here are a few to check out: Receiving Help & Support and Giving and Receiving Support. If you've ever lost sight of your gifts or hid them because people didn't value them or couldn't receive them this a great blog to read to assist you to get in touch with your gifts, your talents and your abilities is called: Re-Claiming your Gifts. If you would like to listen to this blog being read by me here is your chance:
Christine helps people to approach life with greater care, love & wisdom. offering presence and a unique quality of attention she can assist people to play an active role in their mental, emotional and physical health no matter what is going on. With all of the different tools and methods she has access to, she inspires, encourages and supports people to really love and honour themselves, and thus be more able to love and honour others. Through her patience, kindness and astute awareness of the body, mind and heart she accelerates people's self-healing journeys and makes the inner and outer world a whole lot easier to navigate!