Sometimes when something has been dominant or over-valued there are attempts to compensate for that or balance it out with a new stance or strategy. You’ve probably heard things like, “get out of your head,” or judged yourself as wrong for being in your head and perhaps even received some form of shaming for being “so in your head.” The ‘solution’ or strategy offered for this perceived problem is things such as being more in your body, or becoming more intuitive, or trusting what you know. For a while this ‘solution’ or strategy may work, as it may benefit you to shift your focus or your attention from your head to your body, or from your head to your breath, or from you head to the person you’re with or the environment you’re in.
At some point, however, you’ll have to contend with the reality that your head is a part of you. If you are not being in your head, who or what is? What if the progression from a limited focus “in your head,” is to BE in your head, in your body and in your heart? This means that your presence or attention can include what’s going on in your head, your heart and your body. As we learn to include more in our attention, or accept the validity or state of more of what’s going on in us and in people, places and things around us we are naturally more informed, present, available and receptive. Our choices will better reflect the totality of what’s going on.
So, I’d invite you to check in and see whether you’ve assumed or taken on any judgments about ‘being in your head.’ For many of us we adopted the perspective that it's wrong, bad, or something to not do. It makes sense that if we previously excluded awareness of our breath, heart, or body or people, places and things in our life it would be useful to shift our focus to those things so as to include them. But, if in the process we develop this perspective towards our head or mind that it’s bad, or wrong or a place we shouldn’t go or be or occupy, we’re now excluding a part of us in the same way we once did with the body or the breath. If you’re interested in this subject matter you can also read my blog: Liberating Your Attention and Liberating Your Self-Concept.