For many, they've only known pleasure as it exists on the pleasure pain continuum, in the fear based reality, where pleasure is associated with reward and pain with punishment. In the fear based reality there is benefit to withhold pleasure, or keep it at bay, in order to have something to move towards or hope for or dream of, once the work is done, once you've made it to your destination and only when you're successful. Then you're deemed worthy of it, you deserve it and you're good enough to have some pleasure. Not too much though, or else you may lose your motivation to keep going and continue to strive for more, better and greater. The yearning for pleasure and the desire to avoid pain are usually the strongest motivators to maintain action and stay focused on what needs to be done to sustain life and survive.
In recent months I've been discussing graduating from fear based learning and being initiated into love based learning, or love based creation, where love just is. It's not a reward, nor can it be withheld. Action arises from the frequency of love, rather than in the hopes of getting it. The whole system of motivation changes, once your acclimated to this new space. For more on that you can read the blog Love Based Motivation. Attention is also freed up, as I discussed in the last blog on Love Based Attention. Eventually, every aspect of our being, every element of life and living is returned to this love and a new beginning is initiated. So, this blog represents the initiation of freeing pleasure and pain from punishment and reward and all meanings, understandings, reasons and justifications for the presence or the absence of pain and pleasure that was born of fear.
Now we can know pleasure and pain in the context of love, from the space of the love based classroom, or love based creation. And the one to play with here, that will be explored in my online class next week in more depth is pleasure beyond polarity. What becomes possible and available when pleasure is freed from fear based confinement? What I know is that energies of pleasure are wild! That which ignites the heart, invigorates the nervous system, calms the body and relaxes the mind can arise spontaneously, for no reason and have it's way! If anything this pleasure likes to defy all rules, bounds, reasons and justifications for being. It just appears, and is just available, with this innocent, wild smile. It offers spaciousness, support with breath, and waves of softening of any tension or holding patterns. It knows no bounds and just gifts, for no reason, helping to free us from all mental understanding generated from the torment of conditional acceptance. It helps to free us from the burden of trying to understand why we were loved sometimes and not other times, why how we were wasn't okay, why we always had to modify ourselves or control ourselves or adopt postures that implied we knew what was going on or had it all together.
We are here, here we are. Beginning to know ourselves in this atmosphere of love, free of the confines of punishment and reward. Knowing what being truly nurtured is. Knowing what kindness, caring, gentleness and presence of being is. Free of concept. Free of confusion. Here we are. We are here. May we come to know pleasure beyond polarity when and as we do and celebrate its arrival with total embrace and deep appreciation, as a natural response to it's profound, luscious beauty and wonder!